Rapport = game.
Or rather, one of the many facets of game.
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He's doing the same thing many new guys do, where they get totally fixated on one small aspect of game, ignore everything else, get frustrated, realize it isn't working, then stumble on another aspect of game they'd unconsciously ignored before, conclude that everything they read about game in the past was obviously wrong and that they have independently discovered a hidden truth (which in fact was not hidden at all), then denounce the quasi-game they were practicing and begin preaching their new approach.
I've heard from guys like this repeatedly over the years: "Hey Chase, I tried your stuff for a while but it didn't work that great for me. Then I realized I needed to [some thing Chase tells guys to do repeatedly but this guy never did while he was 'trying Chase's stuff'] and suddenly my results exploded! I think you should try teaching that to your students."
Always makes me go
It seems to be a thing with how the human brain works. When you're taking in a bunch of new concepts, often there's too much to keep in conscious memory and a lot of it gets stored. You just ended up zeroing in on certain aspects of it and 'forgetting' the rest.
Then when you reach a sticking point, you start to unconsciously cycle through all your stored information, dig some of it up, try it without remembering where you got it, and when it works it
feels like an independent discovery, with the mind not properly attributing the source of the information.
You see this a lot in songwriters who get accused of stealing a melody from somewhere else that they clearly had heard it, but they claim to not remember having listened to the song -- most of them probably aren't lying, they simply heard it, stored it, forgot it, then months or years later "independently" discovered it. It happened to me in my music-making days too: sometimes I'd make a melody I thought was awesomely original, then later I'd be listening to some song I hadn't heard in a while and realized the melody I'd made was exactly that song's melody.
You see it in movies, too. Watch
Spider-Man 2 then
The Dark Knight and discover the romance subplot is exactly the same, the scene on the balcony where the too-late guy gets rejected by the girl who has a new fiancée is the same, the theme of this debate within society about whether the hero is a good guy or not is very similar, then watch
Dreamscape then
Inception and look at how similar that is... does Christopher Nolan consciously lift themes and story beats out of other films? I don't know for sure but I suspect he just watches a lot of movies and it all gets mish-mashed in his head and he has no idea where the concept comes from.
Same with J.K. Rowling and
Harry Potter... watch 1986's
Troll about a boy named Harry Potter living in a magical building who is mentored by a wise, ancient mage as he encounters many strange magical creatures and evades magical dangers... but when Rowling describes the writing process she says the idea came to her like a bolt from the blue and she just stared writing. I doubt she realized at the time, "Oh wow, a lot of this comes from
Troll, doesn't it?"
If you read Steve Jobs's biography, there are multiple anecdotes of people suggesting something, Jobs dismissing it as a stupid idea, then a week later excitedly 'announcing' this brilliant new idea he's had to the person who told it to him, the idea being the same one he dismissed as stupid, with apparently no memory that the other person gave it to him.
I've had women do this to me. Chick has some problem... Chase: "I think you ought to just do X." Chick: "No, you don't understand, that would never work!" Chase: "Okay, whatever." --> weeks later: Chick: "I realized I could do X and now the problem is solved!" Chase: "And how'd you come up with that brilliant idea?" Chick: "It just came to me the other day!" Chase: "Uh-huh."
Has happened to me in seduction, too. Several times I had things I thought were breakthroughs, then read through the archives of guys I respected and discovered my "breakthrough" in an old post of the guy's I'd read months or years before. "Good thing I didn't post that as my own breakthrough!" I'd think.
Anyway, it's always good for people to realize things, whether it is a truly novel insight or it's just something they encountered before but 'forgot' until they were ready to start using it.
The one thing to be wary of is the whole "Ha HA! I have discovered something YOU didn't know! Everybody THINKS they know the truth... but only
I have uncovered what ACTUALLY works!" act, which some people are prone to doing but just makes them look goofy when the thing they "discovered" was something people were telling them about all along.
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