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Havent been on this site in awhile because I was a bit down in the dumps, but with a new shift at my job and better mood, its time to consider the girls that work there, who I never saw on my old shift.
This is a problem that snagged me about half a year ago. Women at work can be really good at ensuring others are always around, making it impossible to ask them out. Or maybe it just seems that way. In any case, there is a girl Ive known at work for awhile. Only in passing, like she would be a cashier every now and then, or I would see her. Very rarely. Then, she was transferred to another job in the backroom about a month and change ago. Now, I see her more, but not that often. We only work two days the same. Once I had to ask her for help with something and another time I made her smile when I played a joke on this guy and it happened to be in front of her. Sometimes I feel like we make eye contact, but Im not sure.
Beyond that, I have taken to basically ignoring her existence and talking to other girls, which keeps my emotions in check, adds some social vetting from the other girls. But now I have decided that I should give it a shot. I think shes in the sweet spot, where she knows me sort of, but we arent friends, so she cant friendzone. I planned to go ask her this morning, however I was busy the whole shift. When I was finishing up, I went to go find her (and also do something in the same area as a cover), and she was there talking to another girl and with several other people around. There is no way to go directly and ask in a situation like that unless everyone in the room knows its inevitable.
Does anyone have any ideas how to approach this issue? Occasionally I catch her alone somewhere, or in the breakroom, but thats rolling the dice, and as Chase says "ask as soon as you get the idea to ask", so time is ticking. However, I dont think its as perilous as a growing friendship would be, so there is still time. I also think that axiom is more designed to preempt your emotions getting ahead of you. I am already planning dates and adventures in my head, which I know is dangerous. As I discovered months ago, "if you are planning your married life before the first date, you are in too deep. get out! and run far, far away."
This is a problem that snagged me about half a year ago. Women at work can be really good at ensuring others are always around, making it impossible to ask them out. Or maybe it just seems that way. In any case, there is a girl Ive known at work for awhile. Only in passing, like she would be a cashier every now and then, or I would see her. Very rarely. Then, she was transferred to another job in the backroom about a month and change ago. Now, I see her more, but not that often. We only work two days the same. Once I had to ask her for help with something and another time I made her smile when I played a joke on this guy and it happened to be in front of her. Sometimes I feel like we make eye contact, but Im not sure.
Beyond that, I have taken to basically ignoring her existence and talking to other girls, which keeps my emotions in check, adds some social vetting from the other girls. But now I have decided that I should give it a shot. I think shes in the sweet spot, where she knows me sort of, but we arent friends, so she cant friendzone. I planned to go ask her this morning, however I was busy the whole shift. When I was finishing up, I went to go find her (and also do something in the same area as a cover), and she was there talking to another girl and with several other people around. There is no way to go directly and ask in a situation like that unless everyone in the room knows its inevitable.
Does anyone have any ideas how to approach this issue? Occasionally I catch her alone somewhere, or in the breakroom, but thats rolling the dice, and as Chase says "ask as soon as you get the idea to ask", so time is ticking. However, I dont think its as perilous as a growing friendship would be, so there is still time. I also think that axiom is more designed to preempt your emotions getting ahead of you. I am already planning dates and adventures in my head, which I know is dangerous. As I discovered months ago, "if you are planning your married life before the first date, you are in too deep. get out! and run far, far away."
