asking humbly for advice on how to turn around a situation

[Johnnybbad]

Hi im new in this forum. I just want advicee, this situation made me kind of obsessed. I met a girl at a bar about one month ago, we fucked that very same night, after sex she told me she had not done that before (did not believe her but now im thinking it may actually may have been truth) and that we should see each other again. I took her home and a week later i went out with her and a female friend of mine. Many people including this girl have asked me if this female friend was a n ex of mine, she isnt, but she acted strange that night i went out with this girl , and she pretty much fucked it up. I saw this girl other day and we went for dinner, chat getting to know each other, she reffused sex cause she had to go home (in my home town this is very common, most of the girls in their early 20's still live with their parents) and another day i asked her where she was and she answered very lately to meet up at a pub, but i did not go cause i was getting sleep when she messaged me. i thought this girl was really into me, in fact she is the reason why i found this website. I mean i really like this girl, so i wanted to move slowly (which according to this website is a bad plan and now i got it) i tried to play safe which i think may have shooed her away. I texted this girl two weeks ago and dialed her, no reply. I tried it again last week, still not reply. Tell me, got any ideas how can i turn this situation? Thank you for your time.

 

[Drck]

"later i went out with her and a female friend of mine. Many people including this girl have asked me if this female friend was a n ex of mine, she isnt, but she acted strange that night i went out with this girl , and she pretty much fucked it up"

>>>> Yes, who is this friend of yours? Tell us more about her... My thoughts are that this friend of yours is after you, she wants you as a BF. She doesn't want you to be with that girl, so most likely she told her something bad about you to push her away...

 

[Johnnybbad]

"later i went out with her and a female friend of mine. Many people including this girl have asked me if this female friend was a n ex of mine, she isnt, but she acted strange that night i went out with this girl , and she pretty much fucked it up"

>>>> Yes, who is this friend of yours? Tell us more about her... My thoughts are that this friend of yours is after you, she wants you as a BF. She doesn't want you to be with that girl, so most likely she told her something bad about you to push her away...

Well not sure, maybe she does not want to lose the attention i give her i dont know. That day my friend told me she sensed something wrong about this girl (my friend was drunk) and the girl who with i dated asked me if she was my ex and at least as i remembered she said that she did not want any troubles. I met my female friend a week after i broke with my ex gf, and she left to spain a week later. We started going out after she came back, and I remembered that she seemed more interested at that time, but i was sad because of my ex gf so i never tried to escalate. She is, well, a whore haha,I mean she has had a lot of guys, and she has told me that with her last "boyfriend" or i dont know how to call him, it was an open relationship, he and she could go see other people and flirt, but she said that there was no sex involved with the other guys (i dont know what that fuck does that mean)l. Oh, and I met this girl who went cold when i was with my female friend, she even congratulated me that night, oh and she has seen me with other girls. Maybe the reason why she acted difficult to please that night was just alcohol. She wanted to move the group around doing non sense instead of going to the bar and have fun, thats why my date left cause she got tired, and I (the group) stupidly followed my female friend lead.

 

[Drck]

"She is, well, a whore haha,I mean she has had a lot of guys"


>>>> I'm not sure if I fully understand, but my impression is that the girl you met is a good girl, as you described. She liked you a lot, and she slept with you... You then went to see her again, but this time you brought your friend, who has rather slutty behavior...

Girls can feel when the other girl sleeps a lot around, and you brought this "friend" with you... So the good girl was most likely questioning why are you hanging around with slutty girl? In my opinion, this is what repulsed her...She probably thinks that you guys sleep together as well, who knows, but IMO she doesn't really like this slutty girl's behavior, and she doesn't like that you hanging around this girl... Also, because you slept with this girl the first time, she might have the impression that you sleep with many other girls, and she may not necessary like that, in contrary what you hear here... Good girls looking for LTR avoid fuckboys...


Be careful who you associate yourself with, it can do lots of damage to you...

 

[Johnnybbad]

well i started hanging around with slutty girl cause she has lots of musicians frienda and i like to jam with them and her. She helped me make my socia circle bigger. That being said id like to know if you got any idea to get this girls attention again. somebody posted some days ago about dont making chasing girls the center of your life and i agree with that, something akin to what roosh v posted some days ago, is a waste of time playimg the field, but a sexless life dont seemed ok to me thats why i want a ltr. and i mean this girl is a good girl, she plays sports, does not use drugs. how do i make her not to see me as a fuckboy? in fact an interesting question for all this sites would be how to get good girls for ltr and dont look like a fuckboy haha. well if you got a recommendation you will make me a great favor, thank u for ur time and replies

 

[Johnnybbad]

do you think is a good idea to just insist? i mean she hasnt blocked my phone number hahaha

 

[Drck]

You have to be very careful, she is currently in denial mode, she is moving away from you...

* The best would be if you can talk to her in person, without your "friend" obviously. Bump into her, if you can. Second best, only if you can't contact her physically, leave a phone message. Nice, sweet, short, to the point. She should feel that you like her (without saying it) and that you want to see her. Don't text, texting is weak(est) choice. Don't contact her more than once per week, twice per week at most, unless she wants more herself... Ideally she should be contacting you
* If she asks about your "friend", minimize that you know your friend long time.... If she doesn't ask about her, don't bring any attention to her (your friend). Don't get defensive, your "friend" is simply a girl that you know from from social circle. Don't paint your friend too good nor too bad, she is simply a girl that you know but you don't really care about her
* Based on what you wrote, your girl is most likely looking for LTR. So you have to have LTR frame. Be persistent yet laid back, you can't be pushy or needy, especially not at this time. Give her a space. She likes you, she slept with you, so she just need some time to make up her mind... If she is still really interested, she needs to know that you are interested in her, you don't sleep around with sluts, and that you are not needy wacko who spies on her all over the place... Cool, laid back, interested but not pushy, persistent...

Good luck, let us know what she does...

 

[Johnnybbad]

Sure, ill let you know thanks

 

[Johnnybbad]

I called her, she did not answer, she was onlime at whatsapp and her voicemail was full. So should i keep insisting? I am seeing other girls so i dont ger needy but i like this girl