Calls & Texts At what point do you stop contacting a cold-approach girl who is not responding?

[sneaky_charm]

Hey fellas!

So the other day, I was at the shopping mall, and I noticed this girl looking at me. Had eye contact for a quick second or so, and I decided to round the mall and return to her in an attempt to not let my approach seem like a result of her eye contact. After meeting a few people I knew at the mall, I reached her sitting spot again, and as I looked toward her, she maintained eye contact for about 3 seconds, before I decided to finally open.

So I went ahead and opened. When I shook her hand, although I generally check how long I can hold a girl's hand, that day for some reason I forgot to do that, and took my hand away after about 2 seconds. But I felt that she wanted to keep holding.

Moreover, she responded pretty positively to my questions.....and maintained eye contact for a large percentage of time. When I asked for meetup, she agreed too, and put her number when I gave her my phone. Also, when leaving the place, I shook her hand, and I can tell she would have kept holding my hand for a while if I didn't leave immediately. She also kept rotating her head slowly maintaining eye contact as I moved from her right side slowly toward her left to leave the place, while looking into her eyes.

BUT......and this is a big one.....she is not responding to my texts. After an hour of meeting, at about 10.30pm, I sent her...."Hi half-romantic R! Nice meeting you. - Kevin" (she said she is not too romantic to read Nicholas Sparks) I know it was not a text to which she had to reply, but still.

Also, the second day, I sent another text at about 7pm....."Hey....not sitting at the same spot, are you? "....no response either. (sent this text because before leaving, I had said to her "Not planning to stay here the whole night, are you?")

I checked the number using a website, and it says the number is saved as a guy's name. So if she gave me incorrect number, why? Her non-verbals showed interest as far as I can tell.

Also, in case IT IS her number, should I contact her again? If yes, do I text or call, and how much gap should I keep in between texts. Also, how long do I persist till I eventually delete her number if she continues not to respond?

- Kevin

 

[Franco]

Re: At what point do you stop contacting a cold-approach girl who is not respond

sneaky,

I would give this a read if you haven't already, and it will probably help answer your question: I Don't Chase'Em, I Replace'Em

- Franco

 

[sneaky_charm]

Re: At what point do you stop contacting a cold-approach girl who is not respond

Hi Franco, thanks for the response. I read it and it's very helpful.

Yet I'm wondering what if I decide not to cut contact totally, just to see if anything comes out even after months of persistence in a non needy chilled back way? After all, the main goal is getting her out, 'when' doesn't count much, does it! What do you suggest?

- Kevin

 

[Franco]

Re: At what point do you stop contacting a cold-approach girl who is not respond

Yet I'm wondering what if I decide not to cut contact totally, just to see if anything comes out even after months of persistence in a non needy chilled back way? After all, the main goal is getting her out, 'when' doesn't count much, does it! What do you suggest?

I wouldn't recommend it unless you're already regularly sleeping with new women and the ability to sleep with new women isn't much of an issue for you.

Women are masters of making men chase, even when they don't think they are, and chances are that you'll be investing valuable time into something that will never come into fruition. I generally make hard rules for myself that make the most sense in the long run in terms of efficiency, and unless you're already sleeping with other girls and 'persisting' with this girl is REALLY something that doesn't require any emotional effort or much time on your part, then I would make a hard rule about not contacting her again.

- Franco

 

[sneaky_charm]

Re: At what point do you stop contacting a cold-approach girl who is not respond

unless you're already sleeping with other girls and 'persisting' with this girl is REALLY something that doesn't require any emotional effort or much time on your part, then I would make a hard rule about not contacting her again.

Alright boss, got it! Irony is, those who have abundance have no reason to hold on to a single chick. And amateurs like me, even though we have reason to hold on because we do not have many girls in life, cannot afford to do so...lol!

Gotta get abundance..........ABUNDANCE? HOMIE? WHERE ARE YOU? I'M COMIN'..............

- Kevin