At your skill level; how do you view girls you once were crazy about?

[kristian]

After practicing pick-up religiously the last two weeks I've seen some changes in my mindset when it comes to women; they are everywhere. And waiting for a guy like me to approach them.

I haven't been able to sleep with the women yet. Cold approach is still the hardest thing I've been doing when it comes to women, but also the most rewarding thing to do. My fundamentals are becoming a lot better, and I am starting to get deep diving and chase framing down. I am very exited about the future because I am doing something with the issues (like neediness, chasing, and fucking up) with women.

But something else is happening as well. Something that I did not believe would happen. For the first time I am able to feel the abundance mindset that most of the advanced seducers are talking about. Having the ability (and balls) to cold approach as many women as I want -- albeit I am only direct approaching 1 - 3 girls a day -- is making me not put any woman on a pedestal. It only takes a couple of hours to meet someone else, thus nexting someone a lot easier. And putting me in a position where they start chasing me.

I guess my question to you guys is: how do you view girls that you once where totally -fully- entirely crazy about in the past? And how do they view you when they see the "new you"?

I am asking this because some of the girls I was chasing do not seem as magical anymore. And just by approaching new women has almost cured my oneitis. I don't understand why guys don't do this. Instead they chase someone for months even years and get their minds, and hearts, destroyed by it. How come so few men take seduction seriously?

Feel free to share your stories. I love the inspiration you are giving me.

- Kristian

 

[Fuck This]

Well for one, "Looks" don't make me nervous anymore. I've realized that the very attractive women place way more importance on how they appear and it is a weak spot in their mindset. Now I don't actively neg their appearance. That is juvenile. But I emphasize in conversations that I want to hear about their experiences in life. It catches them off guard to have someone making eye contact and not staring at their rack, and having a sincere conversation.

I've had the luxury of time (20 years) to see how High School classmates age. Boy how the mighty have fallen. But some of the low maintenance tomboy girls are active, and some of the short pudges started exercising and are little hardbodies. So don't burn any bridges. Also, take a look at their mothers. When I am running trail races, consistently the 40 year olds have better bodies than the 20 year olds. Lower body fat and better muscle definition as a rule. Only advantage the 20 year olds have is in skin from less time outdoors.

Remember, as a man our value in the gene pool is increasing as we get older. We are smarter, smoother, earn more, and become more discerning as we age. Withthat mind set, attractive women aren't as overwhelming.

 

[trashKENNUT]

kristian,

I guess my question to you guys is: how do you view girls that you once where totally -fully- entirely crazy about in the past? And how do they view you when they see the "new you"?

There is always an element of "Prince Charming finally found Cinderella". There is abit of that.. With me, this can be worse occasionally because i am a happy go lucky guy. i am aware of it though.

How they see the "new" you? Turn on.

Zac

 

[Eternity]

After a very small one itis spell this month, I am confident to say I am immune to catching this again, from any girl. I looked at some of the pictures of my original one and felt "eh" about her now that the time has passed. I wondered what I saw in this chick, she's pretty average borderin on cute. If I approached her and got rejected I would shake it off and look for a different girl. So yeah, im pretty zen with getting over girls these days...

 

[Drck]

There were several girls that I was quite crazy about. I miss some, looking back it would have been IMO a good match, and I'm still thinking about them in a good way. If nothing else we could have been just a good friends.

But with the others - I'm only asking myself WHY??? And WHY HER??? The f*ck was wrong with me??? Honestly, I feel really weird when I think about those. It was absolutelly no match at all, it was just this crazy feelings that we call love, but I don't think we would even get along as persons. I don't feel anything towards them today, totally disinterested.

I got one of them on FB, and I simply don't like her at all, she represents this classical feminist, with sweet voice and anazing cute behavior - yet totally cold person. She got married just for money, the guy doesn't even has a clue till today, he thinks he's got the Price... Whatever, just really weird...

At that time they looked very attractive to me, beautiful... I remember their faces and pics, i could easily google them today - but I don't find them attractive at all, some are even just average looking...

I would feel even very awkward, very weird today if I met her (another one) again... With this one I trully suffered two whole years, non-stop, day and night... Worst time of my life...All the stuff I did wrong, LOL. You could put a blind over my eyes and I would still teach you all the things that you should never do with girls...

 

[Sophisticated Gent]

After practicing pick-up religiously the last two weeks I've seen some changes in my mindset when it comes to women; they are everywhere. And waiting for a guy like me to approach them.

I haven't been able to sleep with the women yet. Cold approach is still the hardest thing I've been doing when it comes to women, but also the most rewarding thing to do. My fundamentals are becoming a lot better, and I am starting to get deep diving and chase framing down. I am very exited about the future because I am doing something with the issues (like neediness, chasing, and fucking up) with women.

- Kristian

After being immersed in game the last six months - and only doing it religiously for one month - my GF now want to have one of two "adventures" a year.

I met this woman (7 years older than me, and perhaps the smartest woman I know) about a half a year ago. She always knew from the beginning that I wanted to live polyamorous (having sex with different women), nevertheless she understood and because she is the best woman I met so far I decided to have a relationship with her. We have been together for four months now, and I am happier than ever. She is making me a better man, helping me with my career and is like a mentor to me. And the best of all; she even let me fuck other girls in her house (we live together) as long as she is not there, and use protection and as long as I change the sheets after a having a girl over. She is in many ways perfect, and understands my desire to become better with women, "as long as its only sex", she says. And don't seem to bother if I tell her about my girls now and then.

Kristan, are you the same person that wrote these two post?

BDSC

 

[Franco]

kristian,

Slightly a bit different here for me than some of the responses.

Most of the girls I was crazy about I was actually crazy about for good reason. Only one of them was actually not a good match for me, and I can look back and kind of slap myself in the forehead and say, "what I was thinking?!"

I've always had a great ability to screen girls and find what I like. My affinity to women comes from a genuine connection and attraction to them, so I know I wasn't really off the mark when I was crazy about them. Also, I tended to always shoot for extremely high quality girls because, subconsciously, I had a small mindset of abundance that always seemed to nag me by saying, "...why would I commit to a girl who isn't absolutely amazing?" However, my problem back then was not my ability to recognize those girls -- it was my ability to get those girls.

Some girls you will look back on fondly, and others you'll realize weren't a great match for you. As for the girl who wasn't a great match for me, I knew she was extremely religious and sheltered, and although she was beautiful and incredibly smart, her lifestyle was so different from mine that I didn't realize until years later that we would have never been a great match. I would have had to change her to make her into someone I really connected with, and that's something you never really want to find yourself trying to do.

The biggest thing I've noticed is that I don't stay attached too long. Even if I find an amazing girl, I know what requirements must be met for me to continue pursuing her, and I can recognize immediately when I've failed (or she's failed) to meet those requirements. At that moment, it's much easier for me to say to myself, "oh well, that one didn't go as planned. Better luck next time!" My old self would have continued to play things safe and continued to pursue a girl that seemed rather scarce at that moment in time.

It seems like you've mostly come to the same conclusion. I'm glad abundance is starting to become the light at the end of the tunnel for you. Once you get there, you'll never have to stand in the darkness again. =)

- Franco

 

[kristian]

Thank you for amazing replies. And BigDaddySc; I am the same guy. Its just that I am going through a lot in a short time. I mean a lot. Actually so much its hard to keep track on everything :/
But I am happy very happy because I am making incremental gains in this department. And love to try out new things

The thing is guys, that when a woman rejects me the old me (2 months ago) would just have oneitis and give up pursuing new girls. Now, because my mindset is changing I often think to myself; "she said no to me? Ill show her, I will practice and meet so many women that next time she see me, she will not believe I am the same guy".

Its like rejection fuels my desire to become better. I love my this new mindset