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Attainabilty is relative, so the answer is yes (and no).
Compliments are a value call, also relative but relative value
I suppose that if your too attainable people won't bother to compliment you and if your not attainable enough people also won't bother.
My experience is that compliments (from girls) is it's an indication of interest, not really linked to attainabilty, but value.
Compliments are a value call, also relative but relative value
I suppose that if your too attainable people won't bother to compliment you and if your not attainable enough people also won't bother.
My experience is that compliments (from girls) is it's an indication of interest, not really linked to attainabilty, but value.
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I get compliments all the time. But I get them despite differing circumstances. I'm not sure if attainability has a strong correlation to receiving compliments. Let me explain.
I'm not particularly good-looking, tall or well-dressed. But I've routinely been complimented about my look, my demeanor and my style. Most of these compliments, however, come from older women (late 20s-30s, even some older, middle aged women). Part of that, I believe, is that these women are more confident and self-assured, and they're comfortable speaking their minds. Older women are much more direct with their intentions and can be a lot more outspoken in my experience.
That being said, I rarely get compliments from women my age. Even female friends of mine are hesitant to be straightforward about their evaluations of me. A few reasons for that: younger women tend to be more self-conscious and rarely take risks.
But really, compliments are compliments. Some people hand them out freely. They speak their mind. It doesn't always mean something. I don't read too much into compliments in most situations, unless it's coming from a particular person, in a particular situation and a particular time.
In my experience meeting and dating women, the more interested she is in you, the more nervous she will be, and less likely to give compliments. But that's just my experience. I tend to intimidate a lot of women at times because I'm not the happy-go-lucky, boisterous type.
I'm not particularly good-looking, tall or well-dressed. But I've routinely been complimented about my look, my demeanor and my style. Most of these compliments, however, come from older women (late 20s-30s, even some older, middle aged women). Part of that, I believe, is that these women are more confident and self-assured, and they're comfortable speaking their minds. Older women are much more direct with their intentions and can be a lot more outspoken in my experience.
That being said, I rarely get compliments from women my age. Even female friends of mine are hesitant to be straightforward about their evaluations of me. A few reasons for that: younger women tend to be more self-conscious and rarely take risks.
But really, compliments are compliments. Some people hand them out freely. They speak their mind. It doesn't always mean something. I don't read too much into compliments in most situations, unless it's coming from a particular person, in a particular situation and a particular time.
In my experience meeting and dating women, the more interested she is in you, the more nervous she will be, and less likely to give compliments. But that's just my experience. I tend to intimidate a lot of women at times because I'm not the happy-go-lucky, boisterous type.