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My past 4 dates have all been either FU's or FR++ because of attainability issues, so it's a major project of mine right now to balance attainability with investment. As in, to invest without chasing, and to raise attainability without being a bitch. Enjoy my latest banana slip (; (next time that won't mean the same thing)
Went to a concert with my buddy. We got nose bleeds off Craig's List, then when we got there received free ground floor tickets. Holy fuck, what luck. The show was amazing. We sat next to two cute girls, but my buddy was the one chatting them up the whole time. His game isn't tight, so I interjected here and there with my own questions and flirting.
During a break between the sets, I snagged the girls number. It almost perfectly fit the mountain Chase describes of getting her number RIGHT before the peak of the good emotions, derived from the concert or not, she had them. On the way back I suggest we all go out after and talk them into it. We split into pairs and I'm killing it with this chick. She says she has a boyfriend but is still showing me all the signs and some occasional hand holding. We're juuust about turning into sex talk and her friend rears up and ASD comes on. We go to a bar, I let the girls breath while I talk with homeboy and he asks me about game lol.
I plunge back into the girls with pretty high energy (from the concert afterglow, I wasn't even that drunk) and get them to agree to the next bar with us. The uber over was fun, but once we got to the bar I completely lost them and ended up bouncing around with people until they were too drunk, so I got bored and went home. It was a Tuesday night after all.
Texts Go Very Well
I text her the following day, (lets call her concert)
Looking back at this... I should have just said let's stop inside my house for a bit and plowed her right there.
Proceed To Date
I meet her as she crosses the street, we start with small talk and I move to deep diving, then start flirting more once we're at the bar. It was a 10$ minimum for cards so I have to pay for her. At the bar she says I'm judging her. Something with my facial expressions. I laugh it off and continue. The next bar is dicier and she has a fake so again, I have to pay for drinks. At this bar the vibe started poor, but then moved into a much better zone once we started telling stories of relationships and hook ups.
I played the Alek, woman shouldn't be judged for their sexuality and she went on a mini rant about how she totally agrees and that's a huge thing for her. I actually recall her doing that with a couple subjects that I brought up, so it could have been her trying to get more out of me, or qualify me or something.
We go too far into the relationship convo and she tells me a story of this total fuckboy who she caught feels for and then he ditched her hard on her formal. She cried, alot. (EDIT: at the scene of the crime, not when she was with me lol) I tried to be empathetic but it messed with my frame a little bit, and then instead of revitalizing good emotions, I asked her to "go play mariokart" at my house with me, right after she was done. My rationale here was we simply had been at this place too long, and I wasn't moving fast enough. I had been physically escalating to the point of my hand rubbing her legs not being weird. But, stupid move, I now know.
She leans into me with a facetious grin and says, "you know, I would normally go play mariokart, but have to meet with my friend for dinner at 5. I laugh, ignore it, and say lets get the fuck out of here. On the way back I slide my hand into her back pocket and squeeze her ass as we walk. I compliment her ass and she says, "eh, it's pretty average", but let's me keep it there. It was actually about a 7/10 ass, so, I wonder if she was just rejecting any sexual frame.
She keeps asking me where we're going and I tell her we're gonna walk back to my house for a bit, then she can go see her friend. I tried using plausible deniability with the mario kart, then walking through a nature preserve next to my house, then the simple it will be 5 minutes, then even saying, I'll give you a ride, my car is at my house (I now realize this is incongruent with me saying I shouldn't drive about 15-20 min earlier), and she denied every attempt.
We reach the entrance to the nature preserve (next to a frat house) and the fraternity has blocked it off for a party. She starts to walk away after I say we'll take the long way. She slowly slips out of my hand, I give her a really? kind of look and she smirks at walks off, no words.
I felt like such a bitch.
Next day
Me: hey Concert that was fun yesterday, hope you enjoyed dinner
Two days later
Me: hey got a second? (something I text before I call girls)
Her: (only 15 minutes later) Hey sorry I just woke up from my nap, what's up
Me: (changing my mind about the call - stupidly) just got off class. you free tomorrow night?
So, I moved myself into chasing because of my repeated attempts to get her home, and was not outcome independent. This makes me look both like a bitch and obviously only seeing her as pussy. Then I attempt to lower the fuckboy frame with the next-day text, but follow it up with a meek attempt at asking her out.
Had I simply called her, I could have charmed her again over the phone, and moved things to that night or tomorrow night (I'm pretty good over the phone).
Aftermath
Eh, fuck it. Learning experience.
EDIT: I think I just didn't move fast enough with this girl since she clearly was willing to / had invested with me
I ran into her sorority sister the next week and got her number and had her buy me a drink out of spite - mentioning how we were friends lol. I'd rather be a fuckboy than a pussy. EDIT: then again this is a pretty clear display of being bitter
Cheers,
Hueman
Went to a concert with my buddy. We got nose bleeds off Craig's List, then when we got there received free ground floor tickets. Holy fuck, what luck. The show was amazing. We sat next to two cute girls, but my buddy was the one chatting them up the whole time. His game isn't tight, so I interjected here and there with my own questions and flirting.
During a break between the sets, I snagged the girls number. It almost perfectly fit the mountain Chase describes of getting her number RIGHT before the peak of the good emotions, derived from the concert or not, she had them. On the way back I suggest we all go out after and talk them into it. We split into pairs and I'm killing it with this chick. She says she has a boyfriend but is still showing me all the signs and some occasional hand holding. We're juuust about turning into sex talk and her friend rears up and ASD comes on. We go to a bar, I let the girls breath while I talk with homeboy and he asks me about game lol.
I plunge back into the girls with pretty high energy (from the concert afterglow, I wasn't even that drunk) and get them to agree to the next bar with us. The uber over was fun, but once we got to the bar I completely lost them and ended up bouncing around with people until they were too drunk, so I got bored and went home. It was a Tuesday night after all.
Texts Go Very Well
I text her the following day, (lets call her concert)
Me: hey Concert, this is Hueman, cool meeting you last night
Her: (almost instantly) Hey Hueman, you too! Sorry we lost you guys at [bar] we didn't know where you went so we left hah
Me: ay no worries, it was a zoo in there
Her: It really was hahaha it happens, I hope you enjoyed the rest of your night though
Next Day
Me: hey Concert how's week one treating you (of classes)
Her: Hey man! It's literally probably (lol sooo sorority girlish) been the best week ever honestly ive had a great time, hbu? (she's sending way more lines of text, so I match a bit)
Me: literally your best week ever after meeting me? shucks Concert ;P mines been pretty great too
Her: Oh hush XP your right it was all you
Next Day
Me: hey are you free over the next few days?
Her: Hey probably! Not today but maybe tomorrow or Sunday, what do you have in mind (ASK ME OUT!)
Me: we should grab a drink Saturday afternoon, say.. 2~
Me: we'll meet at my house and stroll over to some place north [street] (instant double text)
Her: That would be fun! Where do you live again?
Me: [description of location]
Her: Daaaamn that's so farrrr I can handle it tho (great sign of investment, should have noted that more)
Me: sweet, I'll text you then Concert
Her: Sounds good
Next Day
Her: Would it be possible if we do 3 instead of 2? If not it's okay!!
Me: that's cool I need to grab groceries anyways
Her: Omg yay perfect
Her: What's ur address
Me: [address]. see you in a bit Concert (;
Her: See you soon!
Her: Seriously struggling where tf do yo live
Me: one sec
Her: Okay haha
Looking back at this... I should have just said let's stop inside my house for a bit and plowed her right there.
Proceed To Date
I meet her as she crosses the street, we start with small talk and I move to deep diving, then start flirting more once we're at the bar. It was a 10$ minimum for cards so I have to pay for her. At the bar she says I'm judging her. Something with my facial expressions. I laugh it off and continue. The next bar is dicier and she has a fake so again, I have to pay for drinks. At this bar the vibe started poor, but then moved into a much better zone once we started telling stories of relationships and hook ups.
I played the Alek, woman shouldn't be judged for their sexuality and she went on a mini rant about how she totally agrees and that's a huge thing for her. I actually recall her doing that with a couple subjects that I brought up, so it could have been her trying to get more out of me, or qualify me or something.
We go too far into the relationship convo and she tells me a story of this total fuckboy who she caught feels for and then he ditched her hard on her formal. She cried, alot. (EDIT: at the scene of the crime, not when she was with me lol) I tried to be empathetic but it messed with my frame a little bit, and then instead of revitalizing good emotions, I asked her to "go play mariokart" at my house with me, right after she was done. My rationale here was we simply had been at this place too long, and I wasn't moving fast enough. I had been physically escalating to the point of my hand rubbing her legs not being weird. But, stupid move, I now know.
She leans into me with a facetious grin and says, "you know, I would normally go play mariokart, but have to meet with my friend for dinner at 5. I laugh, ignore it, and say lets get the fuck out of here. On the way back I slide my hand into her back pocket and squeeze her ass as we walk. I compliment her ass and she says, "eh, it's pretty average", but let's me keep it there. It was actually about a 7/10 ass, so, I wonder if she was just rejecting any sexual frame.
She keeps asking me where we're going and I tell her we're gonna walk back to my house for a bit, then she can go see her friend. I tried using plausible deniability with the mario kart, then walking through a nature preserve next to my house, then the simple it will be 5 minutes, then even saying, I'll give you a ride, my car is at my house (I now realize this is incongruent with me saying I shouldn't drive about 15-20 min earlier), and she denied every attempt.
We reach the entrance to the nature preserve (next to a frat house) and the fraternity has blocked it off for a party. She starts to walk away after I say we'll take the long way. She slowly slips out of my hand, I give her a really? kind of look and she smirks at walks off, no words.
I felt like such a bitch.
Next day
Me: hey Concert that was fun yesterday, hope you enjoyed dinner
Two days later
Me: hey got a second? (something I text before I call girls)
Her: (only 15 minutes later) Hey sorry I just woke up from my nap, what's up
Me: (changing my mind about the call - stupidly) just got off class. you free tomorrow night?
So, I moved myself into chasing because of my repeated attempts to get her home, and was not outcome independent. This makes me look both like a bitch and obviously only seeing her as pussy. Then I attempt to lower the fuckboy frame with the next-day text, but follow it up with a meek attempt at asking her out.
Had I simply called her, I could have charmed her again over the phone, and moved things to that night or tomorrow night (I'm pretty good over the phone).
Aftermath
Eh, fuck it. Learning experience.
EDIT: I think I just didn't move fast enough with this girl since she clearly was willing to / had invested with me
I ran into her sorority sister the next week and got her number and had her buy me a drink out of spite - mentioning how we were friends lol. I'd rather be a fuckboy than a pussy. EDIT: then again this is a pretty clear display of being bitter
Cheers,
Hueman
