Attracting Women, But What Next?

[Desert Eagle]

Hey everybody,

Lately I've been noticing that I've been attracting my fair share of women. At least I hope that I'm reading it right. I've had quite a few girls flirt with me, initiate conversations, and overall act sort of nervous around me lately. Here's typically how women that are attracted to me act:

- Slightly nervous
- Smiling, always willing to talk with me
- Try to get my attention

I'm still working on constructing a sexual vibe by visualizing them naked and playing with the things that I could do with them in my head. Not going very well to be honest, but at least I'm getting somewhere. Now that I continue to get new women that are attracted to me, I'm wondering what the next step is. I think it's to work on my deep diving/emotional connection skills so that I can actually get to know them, but I'm sort of lost at how much there is to improve in that department. Can anyone point out a good area to start? I typically go a more natural route of conversation by going with the flow and staying happy/upbeat/fun when talking to people, as deeper conversations have always lead to disagreements and negative feelings. I think I need to work on deep diving in a more positive manner.

Any thoughts on how to move on now that I'm increasing my base attractiveness at a good rate and having women attracted to me?

 

[Nuncle]

Was going to ask a very similar question so thought I would piggy back on to this one as it was written so eloquently!

I am having the same sort of beginner's success, followed by the same sort of issues as Desert Eagle.

In particular I have been getting some ludicrous IOIs from the hottest girl at work but then messed up (I think) on the follow-on.

Basically (following the IOIs) whenever I passed her desk I did not want to appear too eager and boyish and seeking validation, so I would just stride confidently past as if she was just part of the furniture, hoping to keep up the alpha vibe I have been giving off. However, having previously built a slight connection with her I suspect this has now sent her into auto-rejection and made things a little weird.

What should I have done instead? Or indeed did I do the right thing? (it is a very large company so I do not have too many dealings with her in the normal way of things, ie there is not a lot of "social circle" potential there)

By the way this is a tactical question not a "there's this girl that I like" question!

Oh and Desert Eagle my gut instinct is that the sexual visualisation tactic is a winner so keep at it is my advice.

 

[Desert Eagle]

I'd say interact if she initiates eye contact. Perhaps when you walk by her desk or something, and she looks up, give her a sexy smile. But don't look to her to start something - always try to be the one who recognizes that she's looking, and therefore you'll look.

Frustration mounted again today. I see these girls walking by, and in my mind I know that they would love to have sex, and I know that I would love to have sex with them, but then I go, "Oh crap. How do I get from here to sex with her?" This girl who initiated a conversation with me that wasn't bad looking (probably a 5 or so, but helll I need practice!) and was obviously interested ended up leaving me just wanting to deject from the conversation. That's what I've been finding myself doing a lot lately; I'll talk to someone, then I'll eject from the conversation ASAP.

I know women love sex, and I know that I love at least everything that I've experienced leading up to sex, so sex should be amazing as well. But I feel so angry at myself for letting all these women go a day without sex, and for hardly learning anything myself even though I read all the time and apply the concepts in person. It's just not "clicking" in the moment.