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Hey guys , last night out was great , even though i am not satisfied and i feel worse then when i get rejected from start .This girl was the best looking one i was with even for one night but at the end i need some help since i screwed up somewhere. I will try to explain some of the girls gestures and body language , it would be great if you can tell me what to make of it. Let's go! :
I went out with my friend to a bar , and when we went near out table there was a girl dancing near the table. She turned and gave me short EC ,i looked at her dramatically like i was surprised to see her there. She started dancing with her male friend and gave me 1-2 seconds EC from time to time (i just tried to have that smirk on my face like "i know you want me"). She lingered near me and i took my drink and just said cheers (not the best one but i knew she liked me). I reached my hand, she took it and we started dancing.
Im a bit bad at dancing and i prefer not to , but she clearly wanted to dance. I just used push-pull with lots of touch and after 2 minutes she was all over me. I pulled her in so close like i was gonna kiss her but i didn't , and she made a gesture like "i can't". She went to toilet and i started talking to her girl friend , and she said "what are you doing , she has a boyfriend" , while avoiding EC, i ignored that. She tried to cockblock me by saying she is going home and my girl also had to go then , i asked her to stay and she said "i can't" . She left .... but on my surprise there she was , back after 5 minutes.
We started dancing and she kissed me (whoops, i wanted to avoid that but i was a bit drunk). I moved her to a bar to get some drinks , she complied . But on the way back she met another one of her girl friends and started talking , i just told her im going back to the table (i do not want to wait , somehow it looks like im chasing her). We spent about 20 more minutes together , mostly dancing , kissing and her rubbing on me.
But here's the kick in the nuts:
There it was , the most dreaded thing , cell phone . She started texting and whatever i did after that resulted in "don't" or "i can't" . She left soon after and when i tried to ask her where she is going , she made a gesture like "just dont" (that's the closest thing i can describe with words). Arrghhh, it started pouring in my head after she left what an inexperienced fool i am. Attraction expires ,and that is what i think happened here , i did not have a chance to build emotional connection (due to laud music and her wanted to dance all the time). I was devastated , even more then when i fail with a girl at the beginning.
Can you guys give me few advice here:
1. What was the reason for going cold at the end ? Attraction expired or her logical mind kicked in ?
2. How would you build an emotional connection in this case ? (its fearkin cold outside so i can't move her there to talk)
3. When would be the best time to ask for phone number ?
P.S.
Good thing is that my fundamentals and vibe are getting much better, these hookups are becoming more frequent but i fail to build emotional connection and in the end attraction expires .One step at the time , i thought i will never get my fundamentals down in a first place.
- John
I went out with my friend to a bar , and when we went near out table there was a girl dancing near the table. She turned and gave me short EC ,i looked at her dramatically like i was surprised to see her there. She started dancing with her male friend and gave me 1-2 seconds EC from time to time (i just tried to have that smirk on my face like "i know you want me"). She lingered near me and i took my drink and just said cheers (not the best one but i knew she liked me). I reached my hand, she took it and we started dancing.
Im a bit bad at dancing and i prefer not to , but she clearly wanted to dance. I just used push-pull with lots of touch and after 2 minutes she was all over me. I pulled her in so close like i was gonna kiss her but i didn't , and she made a gesture like "i can't". She went to toilet and i started talking to her girl friend , and she said "what are you doing , she has a boyfriend" , while avoiding EC, i ignored that. She tried to cockblock me by saying she is going home and my girl also had to go then , i asked her to stay and she said "i can't" . She left .... but on my surprise there she was , back after 5 minutes.
We started dancing and she kissed me (whoops, i wanted to avoid that but i was a bit drunk). I moved her to a bar to get some drinks , she complied . But on the way back she met another one of her girl friends and started talking , i just told her im going back to the table (i do not want to wait , somehow it looks like im chasing her). We spent about 20 more minutes together , mostly dancing , kissing and her rubbing on me.
But here's the kick in the nuts:
There it was , the most dreaded thing , cell phone . She started texting and whatever i did after that resulted in "don't" or "i can't" . She left soon after and when i tried to ask her where she is going , she made a gesture like "just dont" (that's the closest thing i can describe with words). Arrghhh, it started pouring in my head after she left what an inexperienced fool i am. Attraction expires ,and that is what i think happened here , i did not have a chance to build emotional connection (due to laud music and her wanted to dance all the time). I was devastated , even more then when i fail with a girl at the beginning.
Can you guys give me few advice here:
1. What was the reason for going cold at the end ? Attraction expired or her logical mind kicked in ?
2. How would you build an emotional connection in this case ? (its fearkin cold outside so i can't move her there to talk)
3. When would be the best time to ask for phone number ?
P.S.
Good thing is that my fundamentals and vibe are getting much better, these hookups are becoming more frequent but i fail to build emotional connection and in the end attraction expires .One step at the time , i thought i will never get my fundamentals down in a first place.
- John
