Attractions Expiration Date

[Doctor]

Quick question:

Is this universal?

So lets say I meet a girl now, she is massively attracted, I make my intentions clear, propose a date and get her number but tell her the date will have to be in 3 weeks because I am out of town until then. We send each other a few texts the day after to make that first contact then I cut contact (but make it absolutely clear I WILL be contacting her later when I am back in town). Then I ping her a few days before the date to arrange the specifics. Then we go on the date. Is her attraction going to have died by then? Or will it remain fresh because I made my intentions clear and then cut contact until the date? Might this even be classed as mysterious and alluring?

Just trying to figure out this expiration thing...

Cheers
-Doctor

 

[Ryan]

Personally, i think that graph is far too general. I, in my inexperienced life, have known many situations which would be exceptions to that rule. Just keep doing what you think is right.

 

[Doctor]

Cheers Ryan, yeah I am hoping that is the case. The only other option is to tailor my plans to her, which I think would be even more damaging. It's just she is mega attracted right now and chasing pretty hard and I really want to take her out because she is also mega hot! But, you know, sometimes life gets in the way.

So lets hope that the attraction remains, a hot girl who is chasing is always a nice thing to return to!

 

[Rebel]

It depends largely on the girl. If she has a lot of guys vying for her attention, then it's tough for you to stay on top of her mind.

 

[Just_Dave]

Hey Doctor,

To build on off Ryan and Rebel it will vary, I've gotten in bed after 3 weeks have passed. Because it's not a situation where you want to see them, but you're simply waiting until you get back in town.

Options: huge factor like Rebel said, but just cause a girl is talking to a guy doesn't mean he's as sexy as you are. The other guys could also be chasing her which will make her value you more because you are not.

Emotional connection: You will need to recreate the emotions in her from the day you met her. You will simply have to make her feel all warm and fuzzy again. Just frame your interaction as sexual and she'll follow your lead. Touch her in the right way and soon you'll be giving us a LR of the interaction.

Just Dave

 

[Marty]

Doc,

Great point Rebel and Dave made about the alternative (male) options she may have in the meantime, but ignoring that for a moment for the sake of argument, NarrowJ wrote me an extremely helpful analysis explaining that the "Time" quantity on the horizontal axis actually represents face-time with the girl, on the whole, and that you shouldn't "worry about no-contact causing attraction to expire" (direct quote from NarrowJ, one of the most successful seducers on this entire forum).

Thought this might be helpful.

-Marty

 

[Doctor]

Cheers for the advice here guys, it has helped me be clear in my mind how to handle and frame this one.

It depends largely on the girl. If she has a lot of guys vying for her attention, then it's tough for you to stay on top of her mind.

Very good point about the other options there Rebel. She is probably one of the most stunning girls I have ever met (trying not to focus on that though so as to avoid the whole pedestal thing) so no doubt she has an army of orbiters, although she didn't mention any. She did however say that the night I met her was the first night she had been out in 6 months so I don't think she meets a whole lot of attractive new men. I suppose this could work well for me?

Hey Doctor,

To build on off Ryan and Rebel it will vary, I've gotten in bed after 3 weeks have passed. Because it's not a situation where you want to see them, but you're simply waiting until you get back in town.

Options: huge factor like Rebel said, but just cause a girl is talking to a guy doesn't mean he's as sexy as you are. The other guys could also be chasing her which will make her value you more because you are not.

Emotional connection: You will need to recreate the emotions in her from the day you met her. You will simply have to make her feel all warm and fuzzy again. Just frame your interaction as sexual and she'll follow your lead. Touch her in the right way and soon you'll be giving us a LR of the interaction.

Just Dave

Glad to hear you have gotten a lay after 3 weeks of no contact Just Dave, gives me no excuses now! And I think you are right, by the way she chased me I think she does see me as something apart from the usual riff raff she meets.

Doc,

Great point Rebel and Dave made about the alternative (male) options she may have in the meantime, but ignoring that for a moment for the sake of argument, NarrowJ wrote me an extremely helpful analysis explaining that the "Time" quantity on the horizontal axis actually represents face-time with the girl, on the whole, and that you shouldn't "worry about no-contact causing attraction to expire" (direct quote from NarrowJ, one of the most successful seducers on this entire forum).

Thought this might be helpful.

-Marty

Cheers for the link there Marty, helped clear up the specifics nicely! And kind of encouraging to hear from someone as experienced as NarrowJ that sometimes this kind of thing actually increases attraction.

I guess I have no excuses now, I know exactly what I need to do. I will just pick up exactly where we left off, like nothing happened. Keep the momentum going from the first meet and then when she is feeling most receptive, kick the night into top gear!

Thanks again for the help, it's nice to have a solid plan going into this when you are still relatively new.

-Doctor