Auto-rejection vs buyer's remorse

[LoneWolf14]

So there's this article that I just read:
https://www.girlschase.com/content/ego- ... men-around

So I'm in this situation with a girl that she was the one whoinitiated everything up to the first kiss (she really liked me I guess), we've sort of been intimate (no sex tho) but after a while I didn't text her for a couple of days (she was away for the weekend and I wanted to give her some space while I was busy myself as well. She got mad, said I was playing her and that she thought I was texting others as well and she was gradually becoming colder and colder. On top of that we had a lot of gossip going around about us, and our situation is kinda complicated (work and social circle stuff, not gonna go into detail) and I assume she thought that I wasn't serious and she felt exposed so she shut down emotionoally. We had a lot of fights, she even kissed a guy she initially rejected in front of me because she thought I no longer wanted her.

So she showed both features of auto-rejection and buyer's remorse. Up until now I thought she was auto-rejecting but after I read this article I became confused. Can someone explain please? Thanks a lot!

 

[Fuck This]

I wouldn't worry about the term. Probably a combination of both. Don't try to read her mind.

What do you think you could have done better? How would you handle it differently if it were to occur again?

This is a common scenario for many guys.

 

[LoneWolf14]

I wouldn't worry about the term. Probably a combination of both. Don't try to read her mind.

What do you think you could have done better? How would you handle it differently if it were to occur again?

This is a common scenario for many guys.

Well that's how I'm thinking but these terms come from different directions. I'm still mostly inclined towards auto-rejection because I feel like I hit some older wounds of hers that I was unaware of and she became scared and frustrated. She kept telling me that I didn't care about her and that I was playing her. However, her being worried about the gossip going around and ultimately deciding that pursuing something with me would threaten her reputation does sound like buyer's remorse.

But you're probably right, maybe it's a combination of both.