Ok this field report spans over two months. Now understand this happened in my early days of becoming introduced to the forum and Girlschase, but during early days I did read that Chase that stated set a time limit for yourself, mine was 2 - 3 weeks and for someone I'm really into 2 months max.
Ok AG (Awkward Girl) is one of few girls that I started out liking her personality, then she started to look gorgeous. When I first approached her I didn't find her attractive, I thought she was alright. I then spoke to her and she had an awesome personality, then I started to think she looked good, which is weirdly inverted, but it is the second time this has happened to me. a lot of guys I met digged her looks, so there is that.
Anyway on to how this all went down, this was sometime ago, so I don't remember everything.
I was in the computer labs editing my video or something else. AG sat opposite me on the other side of the labs, I was about to leave so I decided why not. I go the other side pull out a chair and just pull out her earphones, she was watching some video. I tell her stop being anti-social and talk to me, she giggles and says alright. We exchange pleasantries, the hows yous and what not. She tells me that I have to check out this video, I'm like ok. We share earphones I take one side she takes the other, I use that as a chance to get close to her, like super close, her legs keep touching mine as she turns to talk to me and we like face to face. Anyway it was a cool video I remember laughing so it must have been cool.
After that this conversation follows:
Don: AG right (we go to the some of the same classes)
AG: Yeah. Don right?
Don: Yeah that is me. Tell your friend Bitchy girl she owes me a phone
AG: Why now?
Don: I lost my phone while I was chilling with her, now I'm rolling with this pece of crap Blackberry (proceed to take out my phone)
AG: Oh you have a Blackberry, invite me on BBM
Don : My phone is dead, so just write it down.
She writes the number down. I invited her on BBM the next day, had hectic Friday if I recall. I invite her, I start poking fun at her over bbm, I try to end the conversation keeping it short, yet she keeps messaging me ignoring my goodbyes, asking me random crap. I was not really playing it cool, I just don't like social networks much and wasn't really busy was just sitting playing Xbox probably. This is continuous theme over BBM I don't know why she kept pushing me to talk, even though I ended convos early, she never initiated them much, when she did she would ask me some random stuff first like when do we have to submit things and proceed to talk to me about stuff, when I say have to go, she continues the convos, so it was obvious she wanted to talk. Making excuses to talk to me if you will. There was a time we spoke for 3 days straight(mistake but anyway), like super deep stuff about her passions, step father and what happen to her real dad, like he passed away and stuff when she was young, she never used BBM much so it was a good sign that.
Anyway real life game, the game I like. Not over the phone crap. She used to try to poke fun at me all the time, but I am king at poking fun, so I won most of the time, she did get me a few times, but can't win 'em all. So yes I cut the pattern of poking fun at her to compliment her, with some genuine compliments, like every so often, but very rarely she appreciates it a lot when I do. Anyway one day we chilling she had black patches under her eye, so I pull her closer to me, while staring into her eyes, this is at Varsity. She gets weirded out:
AG: Stop that.
Don: Why?
AG: You being weird?
Don: Yeah I'm total weird
AG: Yeah you are.
I play it cool (Its never really weird unless you feel its weird), she leaves(it was class time), she does come back. I proceed to play with her bracelet, her legs starts bumping mine again. This happens over time, she comes chills with, sometimes sleeping on my shoulder, she randomly bumps into me all the time, like physically bumping into me on purpose like leaning when standing next to me, I sit super close to her she never moves away, play punching me like a little girl and always leg touching. I get to know her on a super deep lever. like her dreams, her passions for mermaids and the ocean.
I literally couldn't see her, because those times I had work, I don't have a car, my uncle wouldn't take me there, its a 40 minute drive. Holiday time comes, this is the only time I had to see her, so I ask her to chill. She has some excuse that she has family over, the whole of next week when I'm available, I gave her a week cause that is the only free time I had to chill with her, I gave her a place close to hers and a whole week, to have less resistance like Chase suggested. I thought ok maybe she did, but it was coming close to my deadline, I spent 1 month and 3 weeks with this girl, we opened varsity the week after and it was my last week so I just said fuck it worst thing that could happen is she says no. I then go on to tell her 'I know you into me', she then proceeds to say "no I'm not into you, if I was I would know'(whatever that means). I was like oh well since it is over I told her why, she proceeded to tell me she was being friendly, well ok I know what friendly is, but I just accepted, got a new phone and never invited her over whatsapp and don't speak to her no more. Well that ended well.
So lessons learned I cut that time of someone I really from 2 months to 1 month. I also learned IOI's ain't a thing, like she flooded me with IOI's, but that ain't no sign at all just push forward. I also learned to push a little further.
There was a point when she spent time with another dude, I chilled wasn't really worried, she did come back, the guy was my friend and is not really good with girls and I knew it, but I didn't want this girl to get in the way of our friendship, his a cool dude. The dude did tell me she did have a bf at the time and was dumping all her probs on him or whatevs, I never knew about this, if I did I would cut her off quicker, I don't do girls with bfs my personal value. What made it worse is he told the dude that she liked him but couldn't date him, cause she was dating someone, but she told me she didn't like dude. So she messed up.
I learned a lot from it, so it helped me along the way.
Any comments will be appreciated, have a lay report next up at least.
Ok AG (Awkward Girl) is one of few girls that I started out liking her personality, then she started to look gorgeous. When I first approached her I didn't find her attractive, I thought she was alright. I then spoke to her and she had an awesome personality, then I started to think she looked good, which is weirdly inverted, but it is the second time this has happened to me. a lot of guys I met digged her looks, so there is that.
Anyway on to how this all went down, this was sometime ago, so I don't remember everything.
I was in the computer labs editing my video or something else. AG sat opposite me on the other side of the labs, I was about to leave so I decided why not. I go the other side pull out a chair and just pull out her earphones, she was watching some video. I tell her stop being anti-social and talk to me, she giggles and says alright. We exchange pleasantries, the hows yous and what not. She tells me that I have to check out this video, I'm like ok. We share earphones I take one side she takes the other, I use that as a chance to get close to her, like super close, her legs keep touching mine as she turns to talk to me and we like face to face. Anyway it was a cool video I remember laughing so it must have been cool.
After that this conversation follows:
Don: AG right (we go to the some of the same classes)
AG: Yeah. Don right?
Don: Yeah that is me. Tell your friend Bitchy girl she owes me a phone
AG: Why now?
Don: I lost my phone while I was chilling with her, now I'm rolling with this pece of crap Blackberry (proceed to take out my phone)
AG: Oh you have a Blackberry, invite me on BBM
Don : My phone is dead, so just write it down.
She writes the number down. I invited her on BBM the next day, had hectic Friday if I recall. I invite her, I start poking fun at her over bbm, I try to end the conversation keeping it short, yet she keeps messaging me ignoring my goodbyes, asking me random crap. I was not really playing it cool, I just don't like social networks much and wasn't really busy was just sitting playing Xbox probably. This is continuous theme over BBM I don't know why she kept pushing me to talk, even though I ended convos early, she never initiated them much, when she did she would ask me some random stuff first like when do we have to submit things and proceed to talk to me about stuff, when I say have to go, she continues the convos, so it was obvious she wanted to talk. Making excuses to talk to me if you will. There was a time we spoke for 3 days straight(mistake but anyway), like super deep stuff about her passions, step father and what happen to her real dad, like he passed away and stuff when she was young, she never used BBM much so it was a good sign that.
Anyway real life game, the game I like. Not over the phone crap. She used to try to poke fun at me all the time, but I am king at poking fun, so I won most of the time, she did get me a few times, but can't win 'em all. So yes I cut the pattern of poking fun at her to compliment her, with some genuine compliments, like every so often, but very rarely she appreciates it a lot when I do. Anyway one day we chilling she had black patches under her eye, so I pull her closer to me, while staring into her eyes, this is at Varsity. She gets weirded out:
AG: Stop that.
Don: Why?
AG: You being weird?
Don: Yeah I'm total weird
AG: Yeah you are.
I play it cool (Its never really weird unless you feel its weird), she leaves(it was class time), she does come back. I proceed to play with her bracelet, her legs starts bumping mine again. This happens over time, she comes chills with, sometimes sleeping on my shoulder, she randomly bumps into me all the time, like physically bumping into me on purpose like leaning when standing next to me, I sit super close to her she never moves away, play punching me like a little girl and always leg touching. I get to know her on a super deep lever. like her dreams, her passions for mermaids and the ocean.
I literally couldn't see her, because those times I had work, I don't have a car, my uncle wouldn't take me there, its a 40 minute drive. Holiday time comes, this is the only time I had to see her, so I ask her to chill. She has some excuse that she has family over, the whole of next week when I'm available, I gave her a week cause that is the only free time I had to chill with her, I gave her a place close to hers and a whole week, to have less resistance like Chase suggested. I thought ok maybe she did, but it was coming close to my deadline, I spent 1 month and 3 weeks with this girl, we opened varsity the week after and it was my last week so I just said fuck it worst thing that could happen is she says no. I then go on to tell her 'I know you into me', she then proceeds to say "no I'm not into you, if I was I would know'(whatever that means). I was like oh well since it is over I told her why, she proceeded to tell me she was being friendly, well ok I know what friendly is, but I just accepted, got a new phone and never invited her over whatsapp and don't speak to her no more. Well that ended well.
So lessons learned I cut that time of someone I really from 2 months to 1 month. I also learned IOI's ain't a thing, like she flooded me with IOI's, but that ain't no sign at all just push forward. I also learned to push a little further.
There was a point when she spent time with another dude, I chilled wasn't really worried, she did come back, the guy was my friend and is not really good with girls and I knew it, but I didn't want this girl to get in the way of our friendship, his a cool dude. The dude did tell me she did have a bf at the time and was dumping all her probs on him or whatevs, I never knew about this, if I did I would cut her off quicker, I don't do girls with bfs my personal value. What made it worse is he told the dude that she liked him but couldn't date him, cause she was dating someone, but she told me she didn't like dude. So she messed up.
I learned a lot from it, so it helped me along the way.
Any comments will be appreciated, have a lay report next up at least.
Overall try to spend significantly less time on any given girl until the deal has been sealed, otherwise you risk becoming an orbiter.