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Hello everyone
Newbie here, tips needed.
So I have this coworker that I asked out and she refused (in a somehow gentle way i guess) and now everytime she's around me during lunch break (or something) it feels horrible. After about 10 seconds of talking with her I remember that she doesn't think of me as attractive enough and all I want to do is go away from her as far as possible but ... it's not practical.
Lesson learned. I'll never ask out any woman that I can't just cut all contact if things don't work out.
My plan is to find another job in a bigger city and finally have my own place (i'm 24yo) but until then how should I handle this ? There were moments when I thought I could still continue being friendly with her without feeling like crap but apparently I was wrong. Almost no contact with her creates a huge rift between us that others can sense and while that's not really a problem I hate it when I talk with 2 coworkers, then she comes there, I feel like crap, want to get out of there and I continue feeling like crap. Or I talk with a coworker, she comes and talks briefly with him, she leaves, then I feel like crap the rest of the workday.
She sometimes tries to be friendly with me but I only feel like crap (no mental exercise / mindset or anything can change that apparently). The workplace was boring at worst before this, but now I just want to find another job as fast as possible and leave it all behind. (along with other stuff)
Any tips ?
Did you have a similar experience or am I overreacting ?
Sorry if my english is bad, it's not my native language.
Newbie here, tips needed.
So I have this coworker that I asked out and she refused (in a somehow gentle way i guess) and now everytime she's around me during lunch break (or something) it feels horrible. After about 10 seconds of talking with her I remember that she doesn't think of me as attractive enough and all I want to do is go away from her as far as possible but ... it's not practical.
Lesson learned. I'll never ask out any woman that I can't just cut all contact if things don't work out.
My plan is to find another job in a bigger city and finally have my own place (i'm 24yo) but until then how should I handle this ? There were moments when I thought I could still continue being friendly with her without feeling like crap but apparently I was wrong. Almost no contact with her creates a huge rift between us that others can sense and while that's not really a problem I hate it when I talk with 2 coworkers, then she comes there, I feel like crap, want to get out of there and I continue feeling like crap. Or I talk with a coworker, she comes and talks briefly with him, she leaves, then I feel like crap the rest of the workday.
She sometimes tries to be friendly with me but I only feel like crap (no mental exercise / mindset or anything can change that apparently). The workplace was boring at worst before this, but now I just want to find another job as fast as possible and leave it all behind. (along with other stuff)
Any tips ?
Did you have a similar experience or am I overreacting ?
Sorry if my english is bad, it's not my native language.
