Bad first date question

[Patmac]

Hey guys,

I apologize for the length of this post in advance. I'm back in the dating scene and I just went on a date wit this girl last night. My questions is what should I say/do next? I like her a lot but last night left a sour taste in my mouth, and I don't want her to just walk all over me.

Here is some info to put everything in context:
Last Friday we met at a bar, she was with my friend, friend ditches her, we end up in the hot tub making out, no sex.
We had been texting often everyday since, and she actually asked me out on a date, so we went out last night.

Bad first date:
Originally supposed to be us 2, however her friends end up meeting us there and sitting with us. Then her roommate, her and I go to a second bar for some more drinks. Date was going really well, until we join tables with 2 other groups. She starts talking to another group, with a dude who is obviously flirting with her, she's being "friendly". I get annoyed and leave.

Then this is how are text convo went:
HER: Did you make it home ok?
I'm sorry I'm social. I don't mean anything from it?

ME: Ya. And no worries I don't know you, I'd like to. For whatever reason it seemed like it was time I headed home, is all. I definitely had tonight play out differently in my mind

HER: I'm sorry.. not sure what you're thinking. What were you thinking hm

ME: Seemed like you were preoccupied?

HER: No, I'm sorry, the other girl; the blonde I was still kind ajust meeting her and the guy at the piano place no, I told him I wasn't interested. Just being friendly is all. I'm sorry. I promise
HER: Difficult cus the tables moved and Everythjng got all messed up

ME: Yup tables got messed, guy starts talking to ya, like I said not how I imagined this would go
Anyways it's all good. Heading to sleep.. enjoy your trip. Night

HER: I'm sorry, I didn't intentionally plan anything. And thanks

Haven't said anything back.

Thanks guys

 

[Frost]

The first thing I wanna comment on is the fact that her friends joined you on your date. I'm not sure if she invited them or they happened to be there. Either way, you should man up and tell her that this is a date not a social event, and tell her to talk to them and explain that you two want to be alone. This will score you a lot of points by showing you're a masculine man who won't take this kind of shit. After that, since it was a social thing rather than a date, it's natural for her to interact with other people.

When it comes to the texting afterward, I think you did well, by showing that you weren't incredibly happy, but not showing bitterness. It's clear that she is sorry about what happened, and was trying to justify herself.

For the next date, make sure it's just the two of you, and even if you happen to run into some friends, say hello and exchange a few words, and if they try to join you, politely but firmly make it clear that this is a date and that you want to be alone together.