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Game is definitely improving...I did approaches in the following places:
The city
About 3~4 approaches, was in a bit of a tizzy due to approach anxiety, spotted a hot chick sporting a shopping bag from one of my favourite shops, very stylish, just a little acne which made her even sexier if anything, decided not to open her but then changed my mind, ran back and couldn't find her
A good one was a little Asian chick in a very nice outfit, she was quite polite and chatted with me for a while before eventually excusing herself to go and meet her friend, was a good warmup even if she wasn't really into me. Another chick was sitting in the tramstop when we caught each other's eye so I had her move over so I could sit next to her, then said "I decided you look really cute so I came to talk to you" (not much finesse I know) and she turned away and ignored me, when the tram came I got up, looked around at her with a cheeky grin and said "bye" and I think she smiled a little despite herself. Haha. This was the only blowout I got all night in about 30~40 approaches so I know I'm really starting to nail the body language, the smile and the value-giving approach. Wicked.
The bar that specializes in Asian beerxxxxtotty
I had called into the office and done some work and bumped into a colleague who agreed to come out for drinks, we had to go back for his passport before he could get into the bar so the night started about 22:30 IIRC. Approached about 5 women here, all very receptive, got a couple of numbers although I'm convinced they are rubbish now but had lots of fun and conversation. The best was a group of German girls who are nannying whilst on a working holiday, I really hit it off with one of them who I initially approached, my wing ended up chatting with her for a while as well whilst I talked to another one who seemed to be hinting I should buy them drinks, so I said give me $10 and we'll go halves in a jug of beer, she declined saying she wanted wine so I said give me some money and I'll get you some wines, she started trying to explain something but I couldn't hear so eventually we both just went, whatever... but I'm proud of the way I handled this. No pushover Ray told them to come next door to the next venue and finished our drinks and went (I've been trying to explain to my wing the importance of closing things out on our terms although he doesn't really get it yet, more about this later).
The English pub which goes totally off
This venue which is rather sedate during the day and has good pub food turns into a total fucking pussy factory every Friday and Saturday night, lots of grinding beats and smoke and lasers, I approached at least 15 women probably closer to 20, the standard approach was something like catching their eye, a big smile, "hi there, what's your name, I'm Ray" and getting introduced and then asking them a bit about themselves, I got pretty good at doing this on the dancefloor in the quieter moments, we had some great circles going, my wing also did a few approaches and some of them went quite well, I only wish I'd been a bit quicker on the uptake cos he seemed to be hitting it off with some girl, I hung back to see what would happen, he then got cockblocked by her friend, I could have engaged the friend but did not think of it. Oops. He unfortunately then hung around and became a total orbiter and this is something he did a lot during the night, I'll have to talk to him about it but it's difficult to broach the subject, anyway, he's up for doing approaches so that's fucking awesome. Got some great dancing action with various women, closed out on my terms in each case but later they weren't as interested, I didn't care because I was experiencing total outcome independence and just concentrating on making lots and lots of female friends and enhancing all of their nights with big friendly smiles and compliments and eye contact flirting etc.
A funny thing that happened was I approached a hot Asian woman standing slightly away from the action, I direct opened her with a totally-cute kind of line, she wasn't really up for conversation although she wasn't rude or anything, just shook her head a bit (there were so many drunk guys hitting on women with all the subtlety of a rhinoceros on a skateboard and ruining it for people like me, so I didn't blame her really)... so I did a circuit, spoke to my wing, was standing in front of the toilets when another totally sick woman came out, lovely legs and tight short white shorts, I followed her for a while and then noticed she was friends with the first one, oops my lines might seem a bit insincere in that case... so what I did was went off and danced for a while until I noticed the first one go to the toilet, then quickly approached the second one too, gave her a big smile and asked her name, she said "why do you want to know", I said "because you're amazingly cute, you've got a hot body and I love your style, is that enough for you?" and she smiled a bit, got introduced and got some touching going but she wasn't that sold and I was running out of time so I just went for the number and got declined, oops, too fast but it was still a great experience. Later she was by herself again so I went over and said "come dance with me, you look bored" and she then started to look minorly annoyed, I said "okokokok I understand" big smile and left her, anyway the remaining interactions were totally positive, lots of fun had by all I got much better at dancefloor action and way more calibrated as to how and when to approach, I also used the preopener very well in basically all my approaches. I just didn't push hard for numbers etc or large amounts of conversation because they were in party mode and I was fine with this, just wanted dancefloor rapport.
The rave
When the lights came up about 3am and we got out, there was a little discussion of going to a nearby club with some people we'd met (a guy and 2 girls and an orbiter) but they eventually fucked off without us so I decided to take a chance and drive with my wing to a club in the inner Northern suburbs, thought it would be winding down and we would have maybe 1~2hrs before close, well it was fucking going off, a psychedelic trance party was in full swing, some DJs I'd heard before and totally sick tunes, amazing amounts of hot pussy and lots of trippy makeup from the resident face painting artist (UV reflective dragons on people's cheeks and so forth), so I did about another 15 approaches and these went very well, about half the time going direct with a tailored compliment and the rest just going for straight compliance (big smile, what's your name, etc). So made a lot of friends and just went totally sick on the dancefloor until long after it got light, I didn't really care about picking up at this stage, just in total party mode went for a makeout with one hot chick who approached me and started grinding into me, but changed my mind when I went in for the kiss on the lips and stopped about 1cm away, she didn't meet it, maybe a good thing cos her boyfriend was standing right behind me smiling tolerantly as we bumped and grinded together for about 10min, fuck she moved well, lovely sense of rhythm... and jeez that music went hard. My only slight regret was in not going for the number close with [J] who I'd been hugging a bit and chatting with sporadically, she was a friend of the last DJ so I figured she would want to go and congratulate her friend on the set etc so left her alone, could have just asked for her number for later since we had some rapport. Doesn't matter, I'm sure I'll see her again.
My only real regret here is that my wing doesn't have a good understanding of when to close things out, he would get some smiles from girls and go in for a dance in their group which is great, but they would soon turn away and he'd just keep orbiting, dancing beside/behind them etc. One group was particularly poisonous as they were egging him on with smiles (just enough to keep him engaged while ignoring him most of the time) and then laughing behind his back, I wanted to step in and say "hey that's my buddy you're making fun of here" but decided it was not really worth it and just moved away.
This was a fucking sweet night, I didn't pull a girl home but I reckon it's only a matter of time, I've got the approach nailed. Maybe I need to be a little more persistent, will have to think about it, in this case I was happy just to be in party mode and to get lots of validation from all the friends I was making (more than a little social proof came my way throughout the night too).
cheers, Ray
The city
About 3~4 approaches, was in a bit of a tizzy due to approach anxiety, spotted a hot chick sporting a shopping bag from one of my favourite shops, very stylish, just a little acne which made her even sexier if anything, decided not to open her but then changed my mind, ran back and couldn't find her
A good one was a little Asian chick in a very nice outfit, she was quite polite and chatted with me for a while before eventually excusing herself to go and meet her friend, was a good warmup even if she wasn't really into me. Another chick was sitting in the tramstop when we caught each other's eye so I had her move over so I could sit next to her, then said "I decided you look really cute so I came to talk to you" (not much finesse I know) and she turned away and ignored me, when the tram came I got up, looked around at her with a cheeky grin and said "bye" and I think she smiled a little despite herself. Haha. This was the only blowout I got all night in about 30~40 approaches so I know I'm really starting to nail the body language, the smile and the value-giving approach. Wicked.The bar that specializes in Asian beerxxxxtotty
I had called into the office and done some work and bumped into a colleague who agreed to come out for drinks, we had to go back for his passport before he could get into the bar so the night started about 22:30 IIRC. Approached about 5 women here, all very receptive, got a couple of numbers although I'm convinced they are rubbish now but had lots of fun and conversation. The best was a group of German girls who are nannying whilst on a working holiday, I really hit it off with one of them who I initially approached, my wing ended up chatting with her for a while as well whilst I talked to another one who seemed to be hinting I should buy them drinks, so I said give me $10 and we'll go halves in a jug of beer, she declined saying she wanted wine so I said give me some money and I'll get you some wines, she started trying to explain something but I couldn't hear so eventually we both just went, whatever... but I'm proud of the way I handled this. No pushover Ray
told them to come next door to the next venue and finished our drinks and went (I've been trying to explain to my wing the importance of closing things out on our terms although he doesn't really get it yet, more about this later).The English pub which goes totally off
This venue which is rather sedate during the day and has good pub food turns into a total fucking pussy factory every Friday and Saturday night, lots of grinding beats and smoke and lasers, I approached at least 15 women probably closer to 20, the standard approach was something like catching their eye, a big smile, "hi there, what's your name, I'm Ray" and getting introduced and then asking them a bit about themselves, I got pretty good at doing this on the dancefloor in the quieter moments, we had some great circles going, my wing also did a few approaches and some of them went quite well, I only wish I'd been a bit quicker on the uptake cos he seemed to be hitting it off with some girl, I hung back to see what would happen, he then got cockblocked by her friend, I could have engaged the friend but did not think of it. Oops. He unfortunately then hung around and became a total orbiter and this is something he did a lot during the night, I'll have to talk to him about it but it's difficult to broach the subject, anyway, he's up for doing approaches so that's fucking awesome. Got some great dancing action with various women, closed out on my terms in each case but later they weren't as interested, I didn't care because I was experiencing total outcome independence and just concentrating on making lots and lots of female friends and enhancing all of their nights with big friendly smiles and compliments and eye contact flirting etc.
A funny thing that happened was I approached a hot Asian woman standing slightly away from the action, I direct opened her with a totally-cute kind of line, she wasn't really up for conversation although she wasn't rude or anything, just shook her head a bit (there were so many drunk guys hitting on women with all the subtlety of a rhinoceros on a skateboard and ruining it for people like me, so I didn't blame her really)... so I did a circuit, spoke to my wing, was standing in front of the toilets when another totally sick woman came out, lovely legs and tight short white shorts, I followed her for a while and then noticed she was friends with the first one, oops
my lines might seem a bit insincere in that case... so what I did was went off and danced for a while until I noticed the first one go to the toilet, then quickly approached the second one too, gave her a big smile and asked her name, she said "why do you want to know", I said "because you're amazingly cute, you've got a hot body and I love your style, is that enough for you?" and she smiled a bit, got introduced and got some touching going but she wasn't that sold and I was running out of time so I just went for the number and got declined, oops, too fast but it was still a great experience. Later she was by herself again so I went over and said "come dance with me, you look bored" and she then started to look minorly annoyed, I said "okokokok I understand" big smile and left her, anyway the remaining interactions were totally positive, lots of fun had by all I got much better at dancefloor action and way more calibrated as to how and when to approach, I also used the preopener very well in basically all my approaches. I just didn't push hard for numbers etc or large amounts of conversation because they were in party mode and I was fine with this, just wanted dancefloor rapport. The rave
When the lights came up about 3am and we got out, there was a little discussion of going to a nearby club with some people we'd met (a guy and 2 girls and an orbiter) but they eventually fucked off without us so I decided to take a chance and drive with my wing to a club in the inner Northern suburbs, thought it would be winding down and we would have maybe 1~2hrs before close, well it was fucking going off, a psychedelic trance party was in full swing, some DJs I'd heard before and totally sick tunes, amazing amounts of hot pussy and lots of trippy makeup from the resident face painting artist (UV reflective dragons on people's cheeks and so forth), so I did about another 15 approaches and these went very well, about half the time going direct with a tailored compliment and the rest just going for straight compliance (big smile, what's your name, etc). So made a lot of friends and just went totally sick on the dancefloor until long after it got light, I didn't really care about picking up at this stage, just in total party mode
went for a makeout with one hot chick who approached me and started grinding into me, but changed my mind when I went in for the kiss on the lips and stopped about 1cm away, she didn't meet it, maybe a good thing cos her boyfriend was standing right behind me smiling tolerantly as we bumped and grinded together for about 10min, fuck she moved well, lovely sense of rhythm... and jeez that music went hard. My only slight regret was in not going for the number close with [J] who I'd been hugging a bit and chatting with sporadically, she was a friend of the last DJ so I figured she would want to go and congratulate her friend on the set etc so left her alone, could have just asked for her number for later since we had some rapport. Doesn't matter, I'm sure I'll see her again.My only real regret here is that my wing doesn't have a good understanding of when to close things out, he would get some smiles from girls and go in for a dance in their group which is great, but they would soon turn away and he'd just keep orbiting, dancing beside/behind them etc. One group was particularly poisonous as they were egging him on with smiles (just enough to keep him engaged while ignoring him most of the time) and then laughing behind his back, I wanted to step in and say "hey that's my buddy you're making fun of here" but decided it was not really worth it and just moved away.
This was a fucking sweet night, I didn't pull a girl home but I reckon it's only a matter of time, I've got the approach nailed. Maybe I need to be a little more persistent, will have to think about it, in this case I was happy just to be in party mode and to get lots of validation from all the friends I was making (more than a little social proof came my way throughout the night too).
cheers, Ray
