Socializing Balancing day-game for sexual relationship vs friendship

[snipefield]

I posted this question on the How to Make and Find Female Friends article comments section .

I'm about to move to a new town to go to school and will be focused on going out and meeting women during the day. Simultaneously, since I don't know anyone there, I'd like to create a nice circle of friends that includes women.

I'm looking for advice on how I can systematically focus on both endeavors. It would be great having one or two true pretty friends who are girls. However, in the midst of an approach, I have a hunch that my brain will be telling me "Man, do everything you can to get into her pants" if I truly find her attractive. That rules out going down the friend route.

Should I revert to the friend strategy only for those girls that I don't find that attractive?
Should I schedule my day-game sessions for "meeting girls with the intent of developing a sexual relationship" and "meeting girls with the intent of forming a friendship"?
Perhaps it would be more efficient to focus on meeting women for friends thru other situations (social gatherings, climbing gym, etc) and leave day game only for the relationships?
Or maybe there's something I'm missing in the midst of the approach that would help me decide whether I should game or friend her (ex. if she's especially outgoing, friend her, if she's shy or flirty, game her)?

 

[Franco]

snipefield,

I find that it's much easier to make male friends who ALSO have attractive groups of female friends. It's much more difficult to approach women during the day and turn it into a friendship. So instead of focusing on approaching women for the purpose of making friends, you should approach women to date them and then meet guys through events/activities who have attractive groups of female friends.

- Franco

 

[snipefield]

Thanks, Franco.

Yes, focusing on meeting women for the purpose of dating makes complete sense.

Your strategy for making female friends strikes me upon first glance as indirect and therefore not very efficient (given time constraints of school). Instead of making friends with girls directly, I would be relying on first making friends with guys and then banking that I would first become part of their circle...

Then again, maybe it is the strategy that best adheres to the law of least effort. Flirt / meet women during the day, be friendly with guys to maximize chance of making friends with them and their social circle.

 

[Franco]

snipefield,

Your strategy for making female friends strikes me upon first glance as indirect and therefore not very efficient (given time constraints of school). Instead of making friends with girls directly, I would be relying on first making friends with guys and then banking that I would first become part of their circle...

Keep in mind that women aren't "looking" for male friends. Trying to approach a woman for the sole purpose of making her a friend is actually quite difficult to do (and rather useless to her unless you offer some invaluable resource or status-boosting potential to her). You're basically wasting her time for the most part -- at least in her eyes.

And it's not that a woman will necessarily see things this way, it's just that she won't be sure what it is that you want from her since she's not accustomed to men just approaching her for the sake of being a "friend" (unless they're trying to get in her pants, which is probably how she views this most of the time).

- Franco

 

[snipefield]

Franco, that makes total sense. Very useful insight.

Thank you!