TDLR
- Went on a date with a girl from an app. She was a tourist. Got a drink at a dive bar and talked.
- Invited her back, she said she was really tired because of arriving late the night before. Kept talking at the venue for a bit. Led her to go back ("let's go").
- Kissed at mine and made out some, but she said sex wasn't going to happen that night. She said she was going to go, but maybe we could hang out the next day or two.
Before the date
The interaction started on the apps. She said she was visiting the city and had just arrived. She said she had gotten a reservation at a cocktail bar I hadn't heard of, and asked if I wanted to join for a drink. I considered it, because it is good that she wanted to meet, of course, and a drink is good. But I didn't know where the place was. I asked and she send a maps link to it. It was about 20 minutes away from me. That isn't too far a distance, but still, I didn't want to go somewhere I didn't know, and try to pull back, it being 20 minutes away. So I said that's kind of far for me, why don't you meet me in (my area) afterwards. She said that could work, where? I gave place. She said I'll let you know when I leave.
At the bar
An hour later she said she was leaving and let's meet. We met at the place close to my house. When walking in, she asked if I lived around here. I decided to see if I could "skip steps", and have her come right back to mine. I said yeah I'm close by, I have some wine at my place, we could go get a drink there. She said let's have a drink here. I said that's cool, and continued. I think that if she asks "do you live close by?" or "where do you live?" right after you meet up, it's more of chit-chat, as opposed to a "buying signal". Asking that is a buying signal if it is later on in the interaction. But I could be mistaken, what do you all think?
We went in a sat. She pretty soon moved close to me, in the booth, with my arm around her. She was a latina, and I find that latinas are usually much more comfortable with getting nice and close fast. I like it.
We talked. She told me about how she likes designing things. In the past, clothes, but now, for a software company. We talked some about travel. We got a drink at the bar and sat down again in a different place. Again, she sat nice and close, with my arm around her. I asked about her tattoos. I touched with my arm around her, and my other hand, on her arm.
Despite the close sitting arrangement and touching, I felt the need to turn the conversation sexual, somehow. I did a chase frame, she was talking about swimming, I said "you're just trying to get me think about you in a bikini". She said "there's a bikini photo in the app". She is a bit logical. We also talked about salsa dance. I said, while using my sexy eye contact out of the corner of my eyes, "are you good with your hips?". She said "I don't really know." I'm not sure if either of these attempted sexualizations landed. She was a bit logical.
I said let's go watch a show for a bit. She asked which show. I said XYZ show, it's really good. She said look at my apple watch, it says I got 2 hours of sleep last night. I'm afraid if we do that then I'll fall right asleep. I said something like "I believe you". We sat and talked some more, with lots of touch, and her close to my body. After 5-10 minutes, I said "let's go for a little bit". She was like okay. We walked back to mine. I made random talk on the way, not too deep, rather light. I've heard that that is the kind of conversation you want to have at that stage, when you are transitioning back to yours.
At apartment
We got inside. She sat on the edge of my bed, as opposed to the couch. I took this as a good sign, because usually girls sit on the couch. I got us glasses of water, and sat down next to her. I skipped getting the computer out with music/video, because I wanted to see if I could skip that step. By the way, I had given her a light kiss when we were at the bar, which she didn't resist. I also kissed her once lightly in the elevator up to my place, which she didn't resist, but also wasn't all the way into. She seemed comfortable with it, like it was no big deal.
I sat next to her on the bed, and kissed her. She kissed back, although not super passionately or anything. We started kissing more. I moved my hands around her body. She pulled back, and said "I don't mean to disappoint you, but it isn't happening tonight". I said "that's fine, that's not a problem". Went back to kissing, me running her hands on her body. I moved them closer to her boobs, and pulled out her nipple, and sucked in those a bit. She seemed more or less fine with it, although not super into it. I tried to move her hand onto my chest, and then down to my dick over my pants, but she resisted that.
She pulled back and said "see, I'm afraid I'm going to fall asleep, and I didn't want to come back, because I didn't want to give you the idea that we would have sex." I said "maybe we shouldn't have come back", trying to tease her, but she was saying it more logically. She said "I'm going to go. But maybe we can hang out tomorrow or the next day". I asked what she was doing, she said, and I said maybe tomorrow night. She said text me. And she left.
- Went on a date with a girl from an app. She was a tourist. Got a drink at a dive bar and talked.
- Invited her back, she said she was really tired because of arriving late the night before. Kept talking at the venue for a bit. Led her to go back ("let's go").
- Kissed at mine and made out some, but she said sex wasn't going to happen that night. She said she was going to go, but maybe we could hang out the next day or two.
Before the date
The interaction started on the apps. She said she was visiting the city and had just arrived. She said she had gotten a reservation at a cocktail bar I hadn't heard of, and asked if I wanted to join for a drink. I considered it, because it is good that she wanted to meet, of course, and a drink is good. But I didn't know where the place was. I asked and she send a maps link to it. It was about 20 minutes away from me. That isn't too far a distance, but still, I didn't want to go somewhere I didn't know, and try to pull back, it being 20 minutes away. So I said that's kind of far for me, why don't you meet me in (my area) afterwards. She said that could work, where? I gave place. She said I'll let you know when I leave.
At the bar
An hour later she said she was leaving and let's meet. We met at the place close to my house. When walking in, she asked if I lived around here. I decided to see if I could "skip steps", and have her come right back to mine. I said yeah I'm close by, I have some wine at my place, we could go get a drink there. She said let's have a drink here. I said that's cool, and continued. I think that if she asks "do you live close by?" or "where do you live?" right after you meet up, it's more of chit-chat, as opposed to a "buying signal". Asking that is a buying signal if it is later on in the interaction. But I could be mistaken, what do you all think?
We went in a sat. She pretty soon moved close to me, in the booth, with my arm around her. She was a latina, and I find that latinas are usually much more comfortable with getting nice and close fast. I like it.
We talked. She told me about how she likes designing things. In the past, clothes, but now, for a software company. We talked some about travel. We got a drink at the bar and sat down again in a different place. Again, she sat nice and close, with my arm around her. I asked about her tattoos. I touched with my arm around her, and my other hand, on her arm.
Despite the close sitting arrangement and touching, I felt the need to turn the conversation sexual, somehow. I did a chase frame, she was talking about swimming, I said "you're just trying to get me think about you in a bikini". She said "there's a bikini photo in the app". She is a bit logical. We also talked about salsa dance. I said, while using my sexy eye contact out of the corner of my eyes, "are you good with your hips?". She said "I don't really know." I'm not sure if either of these attempted sexualizations landed. She was a bit logical.
I said let's go watch a show for a bit. She asked which show. I said XYZ show, it's really good. She said look at my apple watch, it says I got 2 hours of sleep last night. I'm afraid if we do that then I'll fall right asleep. I said something like "I believe you". We sat and talked some more, with lots of touch, and her close to my body. After 5-10 minutes, I said "let's go for a little bit". She was like okay. We walked back to mine. I made random talk on the way, not too deep, rather light. I've heard that that is the kind of conversation you want to have at that stage, when you are transitioning back to yours.
At apartment
We got inside. She sat on the edge of my bed, as opposed to the couch. I took this as a good sign, because usually girls sit on the couch. I got us glasses of water, and sat down next to her. I skipped getting the computer out with music/video, because I wanted to see if I could skip that step. By the way, I had given her a light kiss when we were at the bar, which she didn't resist. I also kissed her once lightly in the elevator up to my place, which she didn't resist, but also wasn't all the way into. She seemed comfortable with it, like it was no big deal.
I sat next to her on the bed, and kissed her. She kissed back, although not super passionately or anything. We started kissing more. I moved my hands around her body. She pulled back, and said "I don't mean to disappoint you, but it isn't happening tonight". I said "that's fine, that's not a problem". Went back to kissing, me running her hands on her body. I moved them closer to her boobs, and pulled out her nipple, and sucked in those a bit. She seemed more or less fine with it, although not super into it. I tried to move her hand onto my chest, and then down to my dick over my pants, but she resisted that.
She pulled back and said "see, I'm afraid I'm going to fall asleep, and I didn't want to come back, because I didn't want to give you the idea that we would have sex." I said "maybe we shouldn't have come back", trying to tease her, but she was saying it more logically. She said "I'm going to go. But maybe we can hang out tomorrow or the next day". I asked what she was doing, she said, and I said maybe tomorrow night. She said text me. And she left.
