Becoming a risk-taker?

[Mr. Wes]

I wanted to ask Chase this on the main site but I don't know how long that would take and I really need some immediate opinions/answers.

Recently, I'm starting to make out/kiss girls more often than I used to.
I've started manhandling girls more often than I used to.
And I've started saying daring things more often than I used to.

All of these girls, so far that I've noticed, are younger and less intimidating than the girls that I normally talk to.
I'm starting to wonder why I can easily take such risks with these girls and not with girls my age or who are a little more intimidating. So my question is, how do you become a bigger risk taker?
I don't want to hear: "just do it" and "just don't think about it and act". That stuff doesn't really help. I want to know what steps I can take to becoming a man who isn't always looking for large amounts of "evidence" before I act.
I keep missing escalation windows because I'm still unsure.
If you're a guy whose just always been known to take risks, how do you think you got that way? What do you do?

 

[Franco]

Wesley,

If you're a guy whose just always been known to take risks, how do you think you got that way? What do you do?

You have to realize that the consequences of taking bold risks are almost never nearly as bad as you make them out to be. Guys don't often take risks because there are things going through their minds such as, "well what if she hates me afterward? What if she tells all of her friends and they make fun of me? What if I'm completely wrong about taking a risk here and I should wait until a better, clearer escalation window?"

That's why the best advice is almost always just do it. You need to take action and recognize that the consequences are often far LESS worse than you imagined, and often times, you'll have success when you least expected it! You'll be saying to yourself, "holy shit, why didn't I try doing this sooner?!" And then from that point, you'll reverse the way you think about things. Instead, that next time you have an opportunity to pull that girl in and manhandle kiss her, when you would have originally been thinking, "Oh, it's too soon. She won't like it. I should wait..." you'll instead be thinking, "I need to manhandle kiss her NOW! Otherwise I'll miss what might be my only opportunity!"

...and suddenly, you come across as a "risk-taker" when in REALITY, you've just learned that NOT taking risks has worse consequences than taking them.

Hope that helps.

- Franco

 

[Mr. Wes]

Yes that really helps Franco.
You explained it better than I could've imagined.
I'm feeling all inspired and shit now...but I can't do anything right now. (with family)

Merry Christmas! Er, Happy Holidays!

Wes