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So, yesterday night I finally bedded my first girl since November when I started this all pick-up thing.
I met her at this bar where people go to play pool and table soccer.
She wasn't actually one of my immediate targets.
The one I wanted to bed the most was this perfect-body south american girl which I suspect had a boyfriend. Also I think I still have some confidence issues when approaching very very hot girls. It's like some part of me still thinks I am not valuable enough for her. I am really trying to correct this and see them as just normal girls who happen to be hotter than the rest, but not really higher value than me.
My second choice was this Australian girl on holiday. I was sitting with her and another guy and somehow I thought she was more attracted by him than by me. So I let the two of them talk (didn't just hang around them needily waiting for her to turn my attention to me), talked with other people around, including the barman who's a friend of mine. I used peripheral view to see that the other guy ended up boring the Australian girl who started looking at her telephone the whole time. So I went back and I started attempting deep-diving with her. I actually kept her talking about her for 20-30 minutes, after which I saw she was started to grow impatient, so I tried to move her to another place. I said: "I am gonna get another drink, wanna come?" She said: "No thanks I am fine like this". I took it as a non-interest signal. So to avoid being needy I just went talking to other people. (I did this because last saturday I insisted too much with a girl who didn't want move with me and she ended up getting cold on me). Maybe I could have tried talking again with this australian girl some 20 minutes later, because sometimes she was looking at me, but anyway, I did my move, so I was kinda satisfied.
As I said, throughout the night I had also been talking to other people, including this very outgoing funny american girl, who was very pretty, except her back wasn't exactly "small" (although she had very nice tits and cute face). What happened is we talked and flirted and discussed. I wasn't really following a process with her, because I wasn't were on whether she could be a target or not.
What happened is, we exchanged telephone numbers, and then when I was gone, she texted: "by the way I have some good wines back at my place if you want to drop by". I said "fuck it, she might not be the best target, but I have to start fucking a bit, to learn more about physical escalation when we're alone etc.."
So I went there. We started watching some TV. Initially she looked uninterested, then I started playing a bit with her hands and then I started making out. After that I tried to take her clothes off but she blocked me. So I pulled back, watching TV again. The second time she was much more receptive and I could start playing with her tits a bit. At which point she took my pants off and started doing a hand job. From there was kinda easy to escalate to sex.
Now, because 1) I knew she wasn't really 100% a target 2) if I am serious about pick-up and meeting a lot of women, I have to learn to put distances from girls to avoid ending up a boyfriend. I was a bit distant the morning after. I try to went away without kissing her but she stopped me and kissed me intensively. After that I said, fuck it, I'll just write her. I told her it was very nice (I really didn't want her to feel like dumped or like she was below my standards, I am still a good person inside after all). I told her I liked this and that about her etc.. but because she mentioned before that she was surprised because wasn't planning on having sex while she promised herself she wouldn't fuck around anymore and find a committed partner, I just told her: I think I'll just end up disappointing you if we keep on saying each other, I cannot really be that kind of guy at the moment, basically making her know it was about me and not about her.
Quite surprisingly, she reacted positively, as if she respected that kind of honesty.
What kind of strategy do u normally use when u just don't wanna see somebody anymore after a one-night stand?
I met her at this bar where people go to play pool and table soccer.
She wasn't actually one of my immediate targets.
The one I wanted to bed the most was this perfect-body south american girl which I suspect had a boyfriend. Also I think I still have some confidence issues when approaching very very hot girls. It's like some part of me still thinks I am not valuable enough for her. I am really trying to correct this and see them as just normal girls who happen to be hotter than the rest, but not really higher value than me.
My second choice was this Australian girl on holiday. I was sitting with her and another guy and somehow I thought she was more attracted by him than by me. So I let the two of them talk (didn't just hang around them needily waiting for her to turn my attention to me), talked with other people around, including the barman who's a friend of mine. I used peripheral view to see that the other guy ended up boring the Australian girl who started looking at her telephone the whole time. So I went back and I started attempting deep-diving with her. I actually kept her talking about her for 20-30 minutes, after which I saw she was started to grow impatient, so I tried to move her to another place. I said: "I am gonna get another drink, wanna come?" She said: "No thanks I am fine like this". I took it as a non-interest signal. So to avoid being needy I just went talking to other people. (I did this because last saturday I insisted too much with a girl who didn't want move with me and she ended up getting cold on me). Maybe I could have tried talking again with this australian girl some 20 minutes later, because sometimes she was looking at me, but anyway, I did my move, so I was kinda satisfied.
As I said, throughout the night I had also been talking to other people, including this very outgoing funny american girl, who was very pretty, except her back wasn't exactly "small" (although she had very nice tits and cute face). What happened is we talked and flirted and discussed. I wasn't really following a process with her, because I wasn't were on whether she could be a target or not.
What happened is, we exchanged telephone numbers, and then when I was gone, she texted: "by the way I have some good wines back at my place if you want to drop by". I said "fuck it, she might not be the best target, but I have to start fucking a bit, to learn more about physical escalation when we're alone etc.."
So I went there. We started watching some TV. Initially she looked uninterested, then I started playing a bit with her hands and then I started making out. After that I tried to take her clothes off but she blocked me. So I pulled back, watching TV again. The second time she was much more receptive and I could start playing with her tits a bit. At which point she took my pants off and started doing a hand job. From there was kinda easy to escalate to sex.
Now, because 1) I knew she wasn't really 100% a target 2) if I am serious about pick-up and meeting a lot of women, I have to learn to put distances from girls to avoid ending up a boyfriend. I was a bit distant the morning after. I try to went away without kissing her but she stopped me and kissed me intensively. After that I said, fuck it, I'll just write her. I told her it was very nice (I really didn't want her to feel like dumped or like she was below my standards, I am still a good person inside after all). I told her I liked this and that about her etc.. but because she mentioned before that she was surprised because wasn't planning on having sex while she promised herself she wouldn't fuck around anymore and find a committed partner, I just told her: I think I'll just end up disappointing you if we keep on saying each other, I cannot really be that kind of guy at the moment, basically making her know it was about me and not about her.
Quite surprisingly, she reacted positively, as if she respected that kind of honesty.
What kind of strategy do u normally use when u just don't wanna see somebody anymore after a one-night stand?
