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Met this girl in some expats gathering.
We spoke (a lot) and exchanged contact info.
Then she began contacting me and asking me to "hang out" with her.
We spoke about visintg the campus where I'm living (when I believed I could take guests to my room) since I really had a lot of things I could show her.
Then, once, ended up meeting somewhere else and walked around and it was mostly platonic deep-diving with some touching and a sexual joke or two.
So she's convinced we have a lot in common (true to an extent) and keeps contacting each other day me with platonic preoccupations of her which I rarerly reply to. This died off about a month ago. . . and now we ran into each other, and she's asking me to take her to my campus again. Then the day after sends me a short video of her working out - implying she's sending it to everyone anyway.
Here's the thing:
- I don't know what is this girl all about. She's in her early 20s but seems to live in some platonic bubble of innocence as if she were in her teens (or not even) and at the same time hangs out with older foreigners who obviously want to fuck her brains out. Guys that are even older than I and, unlike me, not even good looking. They chase her, systematically like all her stuff on social media, ask her to dinner/lunch, even give her presents. . . Lot's of hugging/touching too - which to me feels like the old beer belly guy is horny as hell and her frame is "omg what a nice, interesting friend I've made!". The day we met she was the only girl in the group, and because she chose to speak with me instead, some 40-50 year old guy got up and left angrily. . . saying "this meeting is pointless, no one showed up!" (after getting her contact info). So I don't know how she sees me or what is she planning. If she doesn't find me attractive what other value do I provide for her to come all the way here have me parade her around my campus?
- While we don't meet with the same group of friends every week, she's still somewhat in social circle: we must have over a dozen acquaintances in common. I have to be careful.
The only idea I have is to up the sex-talk prior to meeting up again - the initial vibe was, say, 80% platonic; build on that other 20%.
So far, escalation/flirting, as little as it was, she took it naturally. . . so natural it feels I could go for the kiss anytime, I don't feel any walls; but I fear this could also be because she's so innocent she doesn't even get what signals are being exchanging. Some girls her age here are virgins. . . and that's something I don't feel like messing with.
Any tips?
We spoke (a lot) and exchanged contact info.
Then she began contacting me and asking me to "hang out" with her.
We spoke about visintg the campus where I'm living (when I believed I could take guests to my room) since I really had a lot of things I could show her.
Then, once, ended up meeting somewhere else and walked around and it was mostly platonic deep-diving with some touching and a sexual joke or two.
So she's convinced we have a lot in common (true to an extent) and keeps contacting each other day me with platonic preoccupations of her which I rarerly reply to. This died off about a month ago. . . and now we ran into each other, and she's asking me to take her to my campus again. Then the day after sends me a short video of her working out - implying she's sending it to everyone anyway.
Here's the thing:
- I don't know what is this girl all about. She's in her early 20s but seems to live in some platonic bubble of innocence as if she were in her teens (or not even) and at the same time hangs out with older foreigners who obviously want to fuck her brains out. Guys that are even older than I and, unlike me, not even good looking. They chase her, systematically like all her stuff on social media, ask her to dinner/lunch, even give her presents. . . Lot's of hugging/touching too - which to me feels like the old beer belly guy is horny as hell and her frame is "omg what a nice, interesting friend I've made!". The day we met she was the only girl in the group, and because she chose to speak with me instead, some 40-50 year old guy got up and left angrily. . . saying "this meeting is pointless, no one showed up!" (after getting her contact info). So I don't know how she sees me or what is she planning. If she doesn't find me attractive what other value do I provide for her to come all the way here have me parade her around my campus?
- While we don't meet with the same group of friends every week, she's still somewhat in social circle: we must have over a dozen acquaintances in common. I have to be careful.
The only idea I have is to up the sex-talk prior to meeting up again - the initial vibe was, say, 80% platonic; build on that other 20%.
So far, escalation/flirting, as little as it was, she took it naturally. . . so natural it feels I could go for the kiss anytime, I don't feel any walls; but I fear this could also be because she's so innocent she doesn't even get what signals are being exchanging. Some girls her age here are virgins. . . and that's something I don't feel like messing with.
Any tips?
