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- May 14, 2013
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I have had some success with women in the past, but not for a few years, and even then I didn't get much beyond kissing or a first date. I then lost some confidence when things were not going so well with women, and pretty much gave up for a while.
Now, I find it difficult to know where to begin, as it has been a long time since I have had any real success, so as I see it, I have lost momentum. However, as I have had SOME success in the past, I know I can do it, it's just a question of when and how. Also, interestingly, I think I am actually generally a lot better at talking to women now than I was back then; when I was younger, I was a lot more quiet and introverted than I am now. Now, I find it very easy to talk to women and make friends with them. However, though I have some close female friends, most are in relationships, and even without that barrier, I am out of practice when it comes to pushing things beyond the friend stage, especially without the crutch of alcohol, which I used to rely on a lot of the time.
I am trying to build (or regain) momentum by talking to women wherever possible, but my main issues are a) finding opportunities to get results in the first place, when very few women my age (early 20s) seem to be single, and b) capitalising when an opportunity does present itself. I met up with someone a few months back who was single, who had originally gone out of her way to ask for my number when I struck up a conversation with her, but it didn't really feel natural to initiate a kiss when we met up. It was hard to tell whether she was expecting me to or not, but either way, I didn't, and therefore probably missed the escalation window, as this website puts it. She is now in a relationship.
I find this website very helpful and inspiring, so I want to say thank you to Chase, Ricardus and the others. It has taught me a lot about social dynamics, and I feel I have grown as a person since discovering it. I just hope I can continue to grow and a person, build momentum, and eventually achieve results again.
Thanks!
Now, I find it difficult to know where to begin, as it has been a long time since I have had any real success, so as I see it, I have lost momentum. However, as I have had SOME success in the past, I know I can do it, it's just a question of when and how. Also, interestingly, I think I am actually generally a lot better at talking to women now than I was back then; when I was younger, I was a lot more quiet and introverted than I am now. Now, I find it very easy to talk to women and make friends with them. However, though I have some close female friends, most are in relationships, and even without that barrier, I am out of practice when it comes to pushing things beyond the friend stage, especially without the crutch of alcohol, which I used to rely on a lot of the time.
I am trying to build (or regain) momentum by talking to women wherever possible, but my main issues are a) finding opportunities to get results in the first place, when very few women my age (early 20s) seem to be single, and b) capitalising when an opportunity does present itself. I met up with someone a few months back who was single, who had originally gone out of her way to ask for my number when I struck up a conversation with her, but it didn't really feel natural to initiate a kiss when we met up. It was hard to tell whether she was expecting me to or not, but either way, I didn't, and therefore probably missed the escalation window, as this website puts it. She is now in a relationship.
I find this website very helpful and inspiring, so I want to say thank you to Chase, Ricardus and the others. It has taught me a lot about social dynamics, and I feel I have grown as a person since discovering it. I just hope I can continue to grow and a person, build momentum, and eventually achieve results again.
Thanks!
