Beginner Self Development!

[Mr.SocialAcceptableHarem]

Hey guys, here's this regimen I'm trying to implement to get better at game.

Figured I'd post it here in case it brings some value to you:

It's a checklist, I keep it folded in my wallet and look at it from time to time through out the day to see how I'm doing

Were you aware of other people's fundamentals (Observing and Learning from other people socializing)?

Were you aware of/practicing your own fundamentals (specifically the current fundamental you're working on)?

Did you do at least 5 approaches today?

Did you document your approaches?

Did you upload to the forum or reach out to your coach for sticking points regarding those approaches?

Did you read a GC article?

Let me know if I should add anything,

Ciao

 

[Conquistador]

Were you aware of other people's fundamentals (Observing and Learning from other people socializing)?

This is a great one!

Did you read a GC article?

Do you really have to do that daily? There are drawbacks, such as encouraging overthinking and taking valuable time that could be spent approaching.

Don’t get me wrong, GC articles are awesome but after you read enough of them you get rapidly diminishing returns in terms of improvements. Might as well binge-read over a slow weekend.

Also, the best way to learn in seduction is by doing.

 

[Mr.SocialAcceptableHarem]

This is a great one!

Do you really have to do that daily? There are drawbacks, such as encouraging overthinking and taking valuable time that could be spent approaching.

Don’t get me wrong, GC articles are awesome but after you read enough of them you get rapidly diminishing returns in terms of improvements. Might as well binge-read over a slow weekend.

Also, the best way to learn in seduction is by doing.

If you read an article relevant to what your working on right before an outing or a date, then yeah, you can get in your head.

That's happened to me before, I don't recommend it

What I do is I read an article whenever I have down time and NOT before I approach, so I absorb the knowledge without feeling the pressure to implement it.

I pick an article that piques my interest from @Will_V's 1,500 curated articles (found in general)

Takes about 5 minutes, hardly causes hesitant overthinking or wastes valuable time

But let's say you haven't approached in a week, is reading an article really going to have any value?

No, not really, unless it's an article on approach anxiety. Your #1 priority should be losing that approach anxiety and shaking off the rust. Experience is more valuable than knowledge at that point.

Hope this helps,

Biggus

 

[DarkJedi]

Were you aware of other people's fundamentals (Observing and Learning from other people socializing)?

Were you aware of/practicing your own fundamentals (specifically the current fundamental you're working on)?

Did you do at least 5 approaches today?

Did you document your approaches?

Did you upload to the forum or reach out to your coach for sticking points regarding those approaches?

Did you read a GC article?

Great checklist! I'm a beginner and it will definitely help to keep these things in mind.

As for reading GC articles, the best that works for me is to binge on some related ones on a down day, let those ruminate and let them be. The next time I'm out approaching, I choose to implement some of the stuff I read.

 

[Will_V]

If you read an article relevant to what your working on right before an outing or a date, then yeah, you can get in your head.

That's happened to me before, I don't recommend it

What I do is I read an article whenever I have down time and NOT before I approach, so I absorb the knowledge without feeling the pressure to implement it.

I pick an article that piques my interest from @Will_V's 1,500 curated articles (found in general)

Takes about 5 minutes, hardly causes hesitant overthinking or wastes valuable time

But let's say you haven't approached in a week, is reading an article really going to have any value?

No, not really, unless it's an article on approach anxiety. Your #1 priority should be losing that approach anxiety and shaking off the rust. Experience is more valuable than knowledge at that point.

Hope this helps,

Biggus

@thundercock. gets all the credit for organizing that, I just pasted his work into the thread.

Yeah, reading an article during downtime seems like a better idea to me too, otherwise you get mixed up between absorbing information and expressing yourself. Same way you wouldn't read a textbook on how to play tennis before a match, you're as ready as you're going to be so you just gotta go. But at other times, that's when you reflect on your experiences and try to fit them into the stuff you read about.

 

[Will_V]

Hey guys, here's this regimen I'm trying to implement to get better at game.

Figured I'd post it here in case it brings some value to you:

It's a checklist, I keep it folded in my wallet and look at it from time to time through out the day to see how I'm doing

Were you aware of other people's fundamentals (Observing and Learning from other people socializing)?

Were you aware of/practicing your own fundamentals (specifically the current fundamental you're working on)?

Did you do at least 5 approaches today?

Did you document your approaches?

Did you upload to the forum or reach out to your coach for sticking points regarding those approaches?

Did you read a GC article?

Let me know if I should add anything,

Ciao

While those are good ideas generally, I believe (at least it works for me) that the best thing during the approach is to focus on one thing at a time. That doesn't mean you don't do everything else, it just means that there's only one part you are trying to actively develop, and the rest is not evaluated as much.

So if you find that your interactions only last a few seconds or something, then you just focus on getting a solid conversation in. And during the conversation of course you try to close etc but the accomplishment, the win, is extending the interaction.

Any time I burden myself with a lot of mini objectives like a long todo list, personally I just get an annoyed feeling like being a box ticker and it doesn't go well.

PS found an article on it here: https://www.girlschase.com/content/tactics-tuesdays-target-one-thing-time-get-good-women

 

[Mr.SocialAcceptableHarem]

While those are good ideas generally, I believe (at least it works for me) that the best thing during the approach is to focus on one thing at a time. That doesn't mean you don't do everything else, it just means that there's only one part you are trying to actively develop, and the rest is not evaluated as much.

So if you find that your interactions only last a few seconds or something, then you just focus on getting a solid conversation in. And during the conversation of course you try to close etc but the accomplishment, the win, is extending the interaction.

Any time I burden myself with a lot of mini objectives like a long todo list, personally I just get an annoyed feeling like being a box ticker and it doesn't go well.

PS found an article on it here: https://www.girlschase.com/content/tactics-tuesdays-target-one-thing-time-get-good-women

I didn’t specify what fundamental to work on because it’s like a basic template.

For example, the notecard I keep in my wallet says to focus on voice and facial expressions and those I work on those separately because two at once is just too much to handle.

basically under the fundamentals box, put whatever ur focus is

It’s not meant for doing everything at once in the approach, I agree with you, that would not equal improvement