Being called cute...

[D_Smooth1900]

Ok straight to it, what does it mean when a girl calls you cute? I googled it and I got a bunch of responses from both males and females. The females were saying that it's not necessarily a bad thing, but the males where saying that it means your most likely friend zoned. Honestly I'd like to get all of your opinions on it.

P.s. I apologize if I posted this in the wrong section

 

[Chase]

D-

It's typically a way for a more dominant individual to express approval of a less dominant individual - it's a term of platonic endearment.

Occasionally this can be all right, if a more sexually experienced woman is calling you "cute" and is also leading things toward sex because you have a youthful, vibrant energy she likes.

Otherwise, it's not good and you must wrest control of the dynamic, a la:

• Her: I think your hair is really cute.
  
  You: I think your buns are cuter.
  
  Her: Haha, you think my BUNS are cute?
  
  You: So what'd you end up doing this past weekend anyway?

Let people call you "cute" at your own peril

Chase

 

[Miguel]

I think it's a good thing, because she perceives you as a good person. Nobody wants an insensitive or dangerous person around. However, if your purpose is getting laid with her, it can be a blessing or a problem. As Chase mentions, there could be a social dynamic at play were you are seen as the less powerful individual and she wants to mantain control. In that case she may prefer to keep you on the friend zone, as a low status man in her social circle, while she is looking out for someone better.

Being cute works both ways, it can help you to get girls with ease or create serious problems. It all depends how you handle it.

 

[D_Smooth1900]

So how should I handle it? Especially if the girl perceives herself as better than you.

 

[Miguel]

I think you are better off following Chase's advice, because the other alternative is difficult and takes time. First step would be to talk to people who know her really well to have a complete picture of who she is, what her tastes are. Second would be to get into their inner circle. Third would be try to seduce her using all the information you gained.

If you don't do this well you can come off as a creep or even worse. No light stuff... It seems the cute card is just for pros.

 

[D_Smooth1900]

Yea that sounds like to much work. I'll stick to using it to my advantage

 

[Anonymous]

With girls not usually being as straight forward verbally, i think it's ok to be called cute/adorable/great etc (except: nice/jerk), as long as it isn't followed by "BUT".

but I'm no where as experienced as Chase

 

[Improvementalist]

Not trying to derail the topic, but

- Since being called "cute" can be seen as a more dominant individual expressing the approval of a less dominant one

- Is being called "cool" the opposite? Or of an equal level (both are as of equal dominance)?

I'm just asking because I've been called "cool" by gals on several occasions - from both single and taken.

This of course I've taken as a compliment, but it would be interesting to see some of the background factors on it.