Being confused for Gay...

[thedoncorleone]

Hello all,

I'm currently experiencing a problem...I'm 18 and will be starting college in the fall... I was an athlete throughout my high school career, and I am in pretty good shape. Because of this I like to dress well, spending money on clothes from Abercrombie, Polo, etc. and always style my hair with gel, and have good taste in outfits. I have lots of really close friends who are girls, however I never dated any of them because I lack the skill to "take it to the next level." Because of this I have had people assume I'm gay throughout high school, (not that there's anything wrong with that, just not my orientation) and I want to break that for when I get to college. What do I need to do to help my case with girls, as well as portraying myself "correctly?"

Thanks!

 

[ray_zorse]

I think your problem could be that you're coming off too friendly and not telegraphing enough interest or sexual vibe. Touch can be a double edged sword since gay guys are naturally touchy, but strong eye contact and a deeper voice will transmit sexuality and make you seem more masculine. Note I often get mistaken for gay, though that's probably my fault for peacocking with makeup and such like. Anyway, it's all good fun, if it's only about your style it's a big compliment.
Ray

 

[ray_zorse]

To build on what radeng said, check out this post that I made on a dude's journal when I was bored one morning last year. Yes that is me on the video, and the messy house I used to live in before I moved and got kickarse logistics. Anyway, it's important to use plenty of breath while you are speaking, and particularly on the last word give a little extra push to support it, most people don't do this and tend to fade out.
Ray