When approaching women, is it better to feel really sexually energised and hard, or is it better to feel calm and relaxed about it all?
I did a taoist exercise a few weeks ago that meant after a several days, i was aching for a sexual release. By doing this, i definately felt myself walk straighter, more confidently and i was more assertive about everything. (No one intimidated me. I felt i could punch through a brick wall).
But i think this made me too insensitive about things and more gung-ho in my approach. If i saw a pretty girl, i felt like i wanted to go completely caveman on her and mount her there and then. Even if a girl didn't give me any ioi's, i would still be flirting with her relentlessly. The girls that walked past me down the street seemed too shy/put off by my bedroom eyes. They would always turn away or look down with their pace quickening. I think i was too intimidating, too direct and too confident for my own good. I think i was prone to making stupid mistakes and maybe even appearing desperate.
When i'm relaxed, calm and not so sexually tense, i can certainly read situations better and i can read all the ioi's a girl would be giving me, as my mind isn't so tunnel-visioned to her sexually. But the downside to that is my confidence with women isn't so good. Normally i have a hard time maintaining eye contact with a woman for more than a few seconds until i look down almost by reflex. For example, yesterday when i was on the train, a blonde haired, mid-twenties woman opposite me was giving me bedroom eyes straight into mine, biting her lips and her legs open. I felt so exposed and i immediately looked down and blushed without even thinking. Her IOIs later during the ride seemed to decrease to 0 later, but if i was more sexually tense, i knew i would have done something quite naughty to her right there and then
So..
•Should i continue being incredibly sexually tense, but try my best to 'tone it down'?
•Should i continue being sexually satisfied and relaxed, but work on my confidence skills?
(Trying to find a middle ground is very hard, and it's not possible to maintain being 'reasonably sexually tense'. It seems to slide from one side of the spectrum to the other. There isn't much time to be in the grey areas in between).
I did a taoist exercise a few weeks ago that meant after a several days, i was aching for a sexual release. By doing this, i definately felt myself walk straighter, more confidently and i was more assertive about everything. (No one intimidated me. I felt i could punch through a brick wall).
But i think this made me too insensitive about things and more gung-ho in my approach. If i saw a pretty girl, i felt like i wanted to go completely caveman on her and mount her there and then. Even if a girl didn't give me any ioi's, i would still be flirting with her relentlessly. The girls that walked past me down the street seemed too shy/put off by my bedroom eyes. They would always turn away or look down with their pace quickening. I think i was too intimidating, too direct and too confident for my own good. I think i was prone to making stupid mistakes and maybe even appearing desperate.
When i'm relaxed, calm and not so sexually tense, i can certainly read situations better and i can read all the ioi's a girl would be giving me, as my mind isn't so tunnel-visioned to her sexually. But the downside to that is my confidence with women isn't so good. Normally i have a hard time maintaining eye contact with a woman for more than a few seconds until i look down almost by reflex. For example, yesterday when i was on the train, a blonde haired, mid-twenties woman opposite me was giving me bedroom eyes straight into mine, biting her lips and her legs open. I felt so exposed and i immediately looked down and blushed without even thinking. Her IOIs later during the ride seemed to decrease to 0 later, but if i was more sexually tense, i knew i would have done something quite naughty to her right there and then
So..
•Should i continue being incredibly sexually tense, but try my best to 'tone it down'?
•Should i continue being sexually satisfied and relaxed, but work on my confidence skills?
(Trying to find a middle ground is very hard, and it's not possible to maintain being 'reasonably sexually tense'. It seems to slide from one side of the spectrum to the other. There isn't much time to be in the grey areas in between).
