I am looking for straightforward takes on either manipulating or playing something cooly as possible.
I am 38. I have had relationships with women more or less my age, but I’m not married and described as slightly on the spectrum (i read that thread and promise not to engage in ask-holish behavior). Long story short: was going to meet a 19 year old I met online this winter, as my family lives near her and I go back for holidays. She asked if she could visit me (1.5 hour flight) before but i didn't think that was smart. She had never had a boyfriend, was skinny, hot, and completely porn-sick. Sent me porn and texts all the time about how she wanted to throat me, drain me every morning, etc. I think she has low self esteem.
She liked that I am tall, built, well read, and travelled.
It seemed awesome for me. I’ve accepted that “exploiting” that is fine as long as I was straightforward with her. We talked for four months - seemed quite thirsty for me - then she ghosted the convo two weeks ago. Then this morning she texted me.
Some guy her age asked her out and they’re now “practicing commitment”. She said “I do miss you.”
Gents: do I continue to be mysterious and distantly charming and keep conversationally texting like her relationship is beneath me, or do I only text her when I’m in town, or drop it until she does. My guess is she’ll either text me when they’re fighting, or she’s bored, or break up, but with low self esteem, who knows how long it would take for the relationship to fail. Idk if she'd cheat. Idk.
I haevn't really talked to women this age since i was, and as we know things have quite changed. I can’t ask my guy friends. I don’t think this is straightforward manipulation, I don’t have “one-itis” and there are other women I can talk to for now.
I’m just curious how to play this to maximize the likelihood I get to fuck her. Obviously I wouldn’t beg, or chase hard. I did make the mistake of saying straightforward “I like you, too” about a month ago.
My gut instinct was to be nice and wish her well and hope she stays safe. I tend to be "nice" but not in the expectant way. I've never felt entitled. Women have described me as good hearted, but as we know, thats of zero sexual utility.
I am 38. I have had relationships with women more or less my age, but I’m not married and described as slightly on the spectrum (i read that thread and promise not to engage in ask-holish behavior). Long story short: was going to meet a 19 year old I met online this winter, as my family lives near her and I go back for holidays. She asked if she could visit me (1.5 hour flight) before but i didn't think that was smart. She had never had a boyfriend, was skinny, hot, and completely porn-sick. Sent me porn and texts all the time about how she wanted to throat me, drain me every morning, etc. I think she has low self esteem.
She liked that I am tall, built, well read, and travelled.
It seemed awesome for me. I’ve accepted that “exploiting” that is fine as long as I was straightforward with her. We talked for four months - seemed quite thirsty for me - then she ghosted the convo two weeks ago. Then this morning she texted me.
Some guy her age asked her out and they’re now “practicing commitment”. She said “I do miss you.”
Gents: do I continue to be mysterious and distantly charming and keep conversationally texting like her relationship is beneath me, or do I only text her when I’m in town, or drop it until she does. My guess is she’ll either text me when they’re fighting, or she’s bored, or break up, but with low self esteem, who knows how long it would take for the relationship to fail. Idk if she'd cheat. Idk.
I haevn't really talked to women this age since i was, and as we know things have quite changed. I can’t ask my guy friends. I don’t think this is straightforward manipulation, I don’t have “one-itis” and there are other women I can talk to for now.
I’m just curious how to play this to maximize the likelihood I get to fuck her. Obviously I wouldn’t beg, or chase hard. I did make the mistake of saying straightforward “I like you, too” about a month ago.
My gut instinct was to be nice and wish her well and hope she stays safe. I tend to be "nice" but not in the expectant way. I've never felt entitled. Women have described me as good hearted, but as we know, thats of zero sexual utility.
