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Best way of approaching learning from naturals
I have a question for Chase and other advanced members of the boards who have learned from naturals.
What is the best way of approaching this? I have read in some articles here that it is through osmosis just hanging around by them watching what they do, and I have some buddies of mine whom I am trying to learn from, but I’ve ran into a conundrum.
I’ve read and reread these articles several times, and still can’t seem to find an answer and although they have helped me with the What and the Why I still haven’t found the answer to How:
https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-find-mentor
https://www.girlschase.com/content/5-bi ... -and-pua-s
https://www.girlschase.com/content/how- ... d-get-laid
https://www.girlschase.com/content/male ... emale-lust
https://www.girlschase.com/content/enti ... ring-table
How do you go about learning from naturals?
As mentioned in the articles, I’ve found is usually if straight up asking for advice from a natural they can’t seem to (or don’t want to for whatever reason) explain what they are doing. Usually, I’ve noticed, they are completely blind spotted to what it is they do and will just boil it down to one principle ‘Just treat her like a child bro’ ‘You just got to make her laugh’ ‘It’s all about confidence’
If it’s not a blind spot then they are using some sort of intangible that’s not easily learnable. One buddy of mine is a singer in a pop band, and he’s really good too, so he gets laid with hot girls through his shows, after which women will leave him their number and/or stalk him, add him and talk to him on social media.
Another is a well dressed model, who gets laid mostly of social media and some night outings. He has good game but he can’t seem to explain it how he does it. But most of it is through social media and his killer professional pictures, and body (he works on a lot).
My other natural friend is very upbeat, optimistic and in love with life, he is also SUPER funny and because of all this he hooks girls like crazy.
Now, what I CAN do is steal some of their lines, moves I see them do when escalating and fashion sense, but what I can’t do is see the place that it’s coming from and how it all fits in their head.
It’s like seeing a comedian preform: by watching him I can improve my own comic timing and delivery, but I can’t recreate what’s going on in his head at the time he is writing the actual material..
I’ve also run into the problem of my natural friends being ‘weirded out’ by my mimicking them, and other mutual acquaintances noticing me change too and calling it out ‘Why are you acting like John?’
A lot of issues like these have been already outlined in the articles above.
What I am saying is I have a hard time to figure out the place from which they are coming from and figuring out these ‘invisible processes’. Ones which you do not see but are responsible for so much of their success.
So it’s a four part problem:
1.They have good game but are unaware to what it is they do.
2.They have good game but can’t, or don’t want to explain how they do it. (as mentioned in the other articles)
3.They have some sort of natural advantage, an intangible, that is not really teachable. (they leverage some kind of position of authority)
4.Hanging out around them, I don’t seem to be able to pick up their mojo, as it’s just their identity, or they hide their mojo really well, other people and my natural friends don’t take well to me imitating them and it doesn’t seem to have the same effect on girls.
So my questions is, how do I approach the best way of learning from my natural friends and reconstructing and applying what it is that they do? How do I go about breaking down and implementing these ‘invisible processes’?
Or if someone could point me to some article I missed on this subject that would be great.
I know in one of the articles it was mentioned that best to learn from osmosis, yet I don’t find myself just picking stuff up by hanging around them. What am I missing here?
I know there is something, that missing puzzle piece that will complete the whole picture, I just need to figure out what.
Regards,
WoL
I have a question for Chase and other advanced members of the boards who have learned from naturals.
What is the best way of approaching this? I have read in some articles here that it is through osmosis just hanging around by them watching what they do, and I have some buddies of mine whom I am trying to learn from, but I’ve ran into a conundrum.
I’ve read and reread these articles several times, and still can’t seem to find an answer and although they have helped me with the What and the Why I still haven’t found the answer to How:
https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-find-mentor
https://www.girlschase.com/content/5-bi ... -and-pua-s
https://www.girlschase.com/content/how- ... d-get-laid
https://www.girlschase.com/content/male ... emale-lust
https://www.girlschase.com/content/enti ... ring-table
How do you go about learning from naturals?
As mentioned in the articles, I’ve found is usually if straight up asking for advice from a natural they can’t seem to (or don’t want to for whatever reason) explain what they are doing. Usually, I’ve noticed, they are completely blind spotted to what it is they do and will just boil it down to one principle ‘Just treat her like a child bro’ ‘You just got to make her laugh’ ‘It’s all about confidence’
If it’s not a blind spot then they are using some sort of intangible that’s not easily learnable. One buddy of mine is a singer in a pop band, and he’s really good too, so he gets laid with hot girls through his shows, after which women will leave him their number and/or stalk him, add him and talk to him on social media.
Another is a well dressed model, who gets laid mostly of social media and some night outings. He has good game but he can’t seem to explain it how he does it. But most of it is through social media and his killer professional pictures, and body (he works on a lot).
My other natural friend is very upbeat, optimistic and in love with life, he is also SUPER funny and because of all this he hooks girls like crazy.
Now, what I CAN do is steal some of their lines, moves I see them do when escalating and fashion sense, but what I can’t do is see the place that it’s coming from and how it all fits in their head.
It’s like seeing a comedian preform: by watching him I can improve my own comic timing and delivery, but I can’t recreate what’s going on in his head at the time he is writing the actual material..
I’ve also run into the problem of my natural friends being ‘weirded out’ by my mimicking them, and other mutual acquaintances noticing me change too and calling it out ‘Why are you acting like John?’
A lot of issues like these have been already outlined in the articles above.
What I am saying is I have a hard time to figure out the place from which they are coming from and figuring out these ‘invisible processes’. Ones which you do not see but are responsible for so much of their success.
So it’s a four part problem:
1.They have good game but are unaware to what it is they do.
2.They have good game but can’t, or don’t want to explain how they do it. (as mentioned in the other articles)
3.They have some sort of natural advantage, an intangible, that is not really teachable. (they leverage some kind of position of authority)
4.Hanging out around them, I don’t seem to be able to pick up their mojo, as it’s just their identity, or they hide their mojo really well, other people and my natural friends don’t take well to me imitating them and it doesn’t seem to have the same effect on girls.
So my questions is, how do I approach the best way of learning from my natural friends and reconstructing and applying what it is that they do? How do I go about breaking down and implementing these ‘invisible processes’?
Or if someone could point me to some article I missed on this subject that would be great.
I know in one of the articles it was mentioned that best to learn from osmosis, yet I don’t find myself just picking stuff up by hanging around them. What am I missing here?
I know there is something, that missing puzzle piece that will complete the whole picture, I just need to figure out what.
Regards,
WoL
