Best way to let a woman know you're unhappy

[moonriver969]

Guys spend so much time trying to win back a girl after screwing up, I thought it would be useful to consider the opposite situation for a moment.

For example, there's a woman who's hitting on me on a dating site who, frankly, is beginning to bug the sh*t out of me. Not only is she too eager (where have we guys heard that, before?) but she's playing games. Only photos are body shots (admittedly nice, only reason I responded to her). But no head shots. Now get this - she already told me how handsome I am, how naughty she is, etc. Total double standard - interested in my head shot but unwilling to provide her own just yet. She's obviously playing games so I'm moving on from this BS.

Here's the question, which really goes beyond the particulars of this situation - what do you think is the best way to voice your disapproval to a woman, especially if you're not already in a committed relationship where communication is required? Again, forget this situation I've described, just asking more generally. Is it the silent treatment, or do you tell her directly? My experience is that most women can't handle the truth, that they get all sensitive if you tell them what they really need to hear, so I tend to vote for the former. Just ignore her and move on and maybe then she'll get the message. But what do the rest of you think?

 

[Escher]

Hey if I am not in a deep commited relationship I see no need for deep communication. In fact it can often be more damaging to try to go there with someone when you have not developed the tools together. Keep in mind each situtation is different. Also, I will treat asituation where I have been dating her for three monthes differently than if I have been dating her for one. I do however believe in straight forwardness. So it can range any where from simply saying "Thanks for your time but I am not interested" to laying out the situation for her (but only if she asks why). If she doesn't want to know why then I will not tell her. If she does want to know (usualy she will not ask If you simply let her go in a neutral manner but if she does) I just lay it out for her in a very neutral and understanding manner. But if you have not been seeing her long then a simple thanks for your time works. Or "I don't really see something for us in the long run but thank you for your energy and time" No need to just up and dissapear. Be a man and break it off.

But really what is the need to voice your dissaproval of a woman you barely know. How does that benifit her or you? Think about yourself on the flipside. Some one you barely know says to you "I don't like the way you are behaving in this manner" you think anything between "Fuck you" to "whatever, you don't know me"
Why get into it with some one you don't know "Hey relitive stranger I dissaprove of you" umm no thanks.
The example you gave on the dating site is simple. "I am not interested. Thank you."

 

[moonriver969]

Sound advice.