LR- Birthday Sex (Almost)

[AsianPersuasion]

Long time no post. I've been on a spiritual journey, and have gone through a lot of changes... I've toned my game down dramatically, but that's only the surface level of the changes

Victory at last... Well, sort of. This would have been a normal Lay Report, but the reason it wasn't was because I couldn't get it up... Anybody else have this problem on their first go?

This was a girl I had been talking to for a few weeks now, and was vibing with fairly well. She was newly single tonight, it was her birthday, and we were at a party.

Me: "Whoa! Look at you all dressed up! You look very pretty tonight."
Her: "Aww, thank you! This was supposed to be a heaven vs. hell party, but they cancelled that theme... I dressed for it anyway though. I'm dressed as the queen of the damned."
Me: "Ahhh, that explains it. Well then we match today, my queen. We can march straight into hell and tell satan to get the hell off your throne."
Her: "Hahaha"

She commented that she was having an uneventful night, despite it being her birthday, and that she couldn't get drunk and make "bad choices," she should just settle with bad choices without alcohol. At some point that night, she was helping me find someone. and I turned to her and said,

"Don't take this the wrong way, but may I give you a birthday kiss?"

"You may." She responded, and we kissed briefly at the stairs, with me running my fingers through her hair as we did. Eventually, I broke off, and we smiled at each other for a few moments.

"Did you want to continue?" I asked

"Not in public view" she responded

"Okay" I said, and we parted ways for a while.

Afterwards, I went to social butterfly with other people at the party, but towards the end, she came to sit down next to me.

Me: "Hey there birthday girl! Your night getting a bit better?"
Her: "Oh, it's getting there."

We talked about a multitude of subjects ranging from witchcraft, palm reading, astrology, Korea, and a few other subjects I will not be mentioning here. At some point, we ended up holding hands for a while, and I seemed to sense that she wanted to kiss, but when I drew her chin close, she didn't respond, and so I backed off a bit.

Soon, the group I came with had to leave because one of the girls had gotten too drunk. As I was about to go with them, she said,

"I can give you a ride! If you want to stay a bit longer, I've got a car." I took this a hint that she wanted my company a bit longer, and my friend probably sensed this too and left us to keep talking. Somewhere along the line, she mentioned that "Shirts off O' Clock," the hour where everyone at the party must take off their shirt regardless of gender, was nearing.

We left after the guy I originally came to look for showed up, and I got to deliver the message that I needed to. She was originally planning on taking somebody else home with me as well, but the other person didn't show up.

Me: "So it's just you and me then?"
Her: "I guess so!"

She then leaned in for the kiss, confirming my earlier feeling as well. We stood there outside just kissing for a few good minutes, and then I broke it off again.

Me: "You can have more after you take me home and I refill your zippo."
Her: "Haha, okay."
Me: "My roommate just moved out. If you'd like to stay a while, you can."
Her: "Hmmm.... Sure!"

So she drove me home, all the while we talked a bit more, and I got her to sing for me. Once we reached the dorm, I cleaned off my bed and threw all the stuff in a pile in the closet.

Me: "Is it shirts off o clock yet?"
Her: "Umm... I don't know. What time is it?"
Me: "It's... one fifty two."
Her: "Then it is."

I took off my shirt first, and she followed. We began kissing more. I stroked her hair and body all over, and the kissing began to get more passionate.

"You're so fucking beautiful tonight."

Off came the bra, her skirt, and pretty much everything else we both had on except jewelry. Unfortunately, for my body, this great event came with poor timing. I had recently relapsed back into porn for a week or so after quitting for more than one year, I wasn't on a full nights rest, and I had just gotten back into working out, so my body was extremely drained of sexual energy. I could not for the life of me keep it up.

Me: "I'm sorry. I'm a bit nervous."
Her: "Aww, don't be."

I ate her out, fingered her, licked her nipples with the tip of my tongue, held her hands above her head as we kissed, and did all sorts of things to pleasure her, but no matter what, my little bro wasn't waking up. She blew me, gave me hand jobs, and at some point, I even resorted to just masturbating to try to get it up and having her choke me. None of which worked. The moment it was up, I tried to slip a condom on, or tried to put it in, it would go soft again.

While trying to get a hard on, I fingered her from behind, and she dropped to the ground and she came. From there, our interaction took place on the ground. After a multitude of attempts to get my little man to come through for me, I resigned to myself that it probably wasn't happening today.

Me: "Look... I don't think I'm happening tonight. I'm sorry... But that doesn't mean you can't though."

I proceeded to finger her and vigorously lick her clit for the remainder of the interaction and got her to cum two more times. Eventually, I came back up to her lips and we kissed for a while. Then we just laid there for a bit, just smiling at each other.

Me: "You know, if we're gonna lay here, my bed is a hell of a lot more comfy than the ground."
Her: "At this point, I've got such a dopamine rush that I don't even care."
Me: "I'll lift you up."

Once we were on the bed, we kissed some more. A few sentences being spoken every so often.

Me: "Can I tell you a secret? You can't tell anyone else."
Her: "Go ahead."
Me: "You were my first time. I haven't done anything like this with anyone else."

She had a surprised look on her face for a moment, and said "You're good."

Her: "Now I can tell you a secret. I didn't cum the first three times I did it, so you're totally fine."

We finished off by just laying there cuddling. She couldn't stay the night, but we both wanted to lay with each other for a while. Eventually, I was the one who cut this one off also, so we both could put our contacts in and she could change for work. Despite having severe insomnia, I had gotten her to fall asleep.

We then got dressed, I filled her zippo, and we bid each other goodnight after many more kisses.

Hopefully next time my little man comes through for me.

 

[Mr. Wes]

AP is back!
Long time no see.
I feel you on the whole "spiritual journey" thing...I just got out of one of those.
I also had the same thing happen on my first (almost) LR. Don't feel bad. Just keep up the work and many more will cum...er I mean come. Lol

What in the world made you get back into porn?

 

[PrettyDecent]

Fantastic, dude!

Yeah, for me as well, I had some ED on my first time. Good memories haha. Still a good time for you, though?

There was good social intuition on your part that helped play this out smoothly. So I'll say a well-deserved lay, AP

~Nick

 

[AsianPersuasion]

Hey guys! It's great to hear from you guys again.

The social intuition was part of the spiritual journey... All of the previous times, when I was going out and doing day game, I was constantly pushing myself to meet every single attractive girl I saw and try to advance the interaction as far as possible. Doing it like this in the beginning gave me great progress, but the problem with it was that in order to will myself to keep approaching, I had to put a wall up to protect my emotions from whenever the interaction went south... as it often did. This wall kept me reading vibes, sending out the right vibes, and knowing whether or not the girl would click with me. Part of that spiritual journey was tearing down that wall and allowing what needed to be felt to be felt.

As for the porn part, I was going through a few weeks of negativity. My FWB from back home and I were planning on having our own interaction, but parental control complicated things (I'm a freshman in college, and she's a junior in high school and thus still under the jurisdiction of her parents.)... We kissed the first night we reunited, but she was called home early by her mom because of an item that was found in her room, so our interaction was cut short. She was subsequently grounded, and before we could meet again, she got into a relationship. There was no other people in the cities that had that sort of potential with me, and I haven't worked out my new view on the world well enough to implement it in day game. I sort of lost hope when that happened and said "Fuck it. If I'm not getting laid, what have I got to lose?"

...Then this happens hahaha.

The good news is, with this happening, it's going back on the shelf where it belongs. Talk about getting taught a lesson huh?

And oh yes, I most definitely still had a great time

 

[Grand Pooba]

AP,

I quite enjoyed reading this report. Solid work. Some takeaways:

Me: "Whoa! Look at you all dressed up! You look very pretty tonight."
Her: "Aww, thank you! This was supposed to be a heaven vs. hell party, but they cancelled that theme... I dressed for it anyway though. I'm dressed as the queen of the damned."
Me: "Ahhh, that explains it. Well then we match today, my queen. We can march straight into hell and tell satan to get the hell off your throne."
Her: "Hahaha"

Oh man, this is so awesome. Great opener, but even better than that is your second line (bolded). It's perfect. You have "we" statements to convey togetherness, it's extremely witty and imaginative, and it can also be construed as a sexual frame.
I also like how you took the cues off of the information she offered you without inquiry...she was giving you something to talk to her about. Great move on her part, good IOIs (underlined).

Eventually, I broke off, and we smiled at each other for a few moments.

"Did you want to continue?" I asked

"Not in public view" she responded

In the end you got her back to your dorm anyway, but for future be advised that this is an escalation window and a pull opportunity...she just gave you a huge invitation to move her somewhere else. Somewhere private. The keys are:
- Conversation dropped, you two smiling at each other = sexual tension in the air. This is the nonverbal giveaway.
- Her phrase "not in public view" is the verbal giveaway.

Soon, the group I came with had to leave because one of the girls had gotten too drunk. As I was about to go with them, she said,

"I can give you a ride! If you want to stay a bit longer, I've got a car." I took this a hint that she wanted my company a bit longer, and my friend probably sensed this too and left us to keep talking.

This girl wanted you really bad the whole night.
And it sounds like you showed her a great time!

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Ok, now onto a different issue:

This would have been a normal Lay Report, but the reason it wasn't was because I couldn't get it up... Anybody else have this problem on their first go?

Couple of reasons this could have happened:

1.

Unfortunately, for my body, this great event came with poor timing. I had recently relapsed back into porn for a week or so after quitting for more than one year, I wasn't on a full nights rest, and I had just gotten back into working out, so my body was extremely drained of sexual energy. I could not for the life of me keep it up.

2.
Our bodies and minds are interesting, and in awkward or anxious situations your body will trigger a fight or flight response, which prevents any kind of sexual arousal.

3.
Alcohol

My hunch is that your inability to get hard was 90% due to the porn relapse and 10% due to resulting anxiety.
Your body was drained of sexual energy because all your energy spiked to insane levels watching porn again, with the dopamine rush, and as a result you probably felt drained the rest of the week.
After such a rush of dopamine it's very hard for the brain to readjust to the real deal, no matter how sexy the naked woman right in front of you is.
I say this because I've been in this exact situation before, and it really sucks.
But not only that...you then were naked with her and you couldn't get hard. But you were trying hard (no pun intended), and I am guessing you were full of anxiety about not getting it up at the time and probably very much in your head as opposed to in the moment.
Unfortunately the best solution to get hard in this second circumstance is to slow down and calm down, get out of your head and get back into the moment of focusing on the girl.

My advice is to (strongly) urge you to never watch porn again, and limit masturbation to once a week.
You'll never not get hard again!

 

[Mr.Rob]

Didn't get enough time to read the whole thing but AP dude it's been a long time coming! (perhaps literally lol

Yeah been waiting for this one since you first started taking massive action on the boards a year or two ago.

I'd definitely count this as sex even though you couldn't get it up (you would if you could... and potentially you should have).

Keep it pimpin dude!

-Rob

 

[AsianPersuasion]

I will very strongly follow that advice... Hopefully it'll work itself out after my no porn streak renews itself.... On the bright side, I now have a new FWB.

Happened again today, but she says that I more than make up for it lol

Also, thanks to everyone who reads the random times they appear! Your tips and support is what made getting to this point possible

 

[AsianPersuasion]

We can now consider this a regular Lay Report. Penetration is no longer a problem. Last weekend, I told her she should be in charge this time around. After getting her to orgasm a few times through foreplay, she threw me down and rode me, though she had to stop before I finished. She was exhausted, red in the face, and shaking by that point. She was unable to finish me with oral that day though, so I ended up having to do it myself after I she left to avoid the dreaded blue balls.

Then a few hours ago, we did it again as her reward for helping me prepare for a Bio test. We switched from cell biology to "studying anatomy" as she called it, and I began to reward her. She had to muffle herself with her scarf so that my whole floor wouldn't hear her "banshee cries." After getting her to orgasm a few times with my fingers and tongue, I asked her to ride me again, which she did. This time though, she got me to cum. After I did, I gave her one last shaking orgasm with my fingers and tongue before round one was over and we cuddled for a few minutes.

Round two came after she popped her birth control pill and we had both reloaded. Once again, I started with my fingers and tongue, making her orgasm a few times with that. Again, she muffled the "banshee cries" with her scarf, so I reached, took it, and said "this is mine for now." Unfortunately, she still had my pillow for muffling...
After a few orgasms with my fingers and hands, I wanted to penetrate her again, only this time, I felt like being in charge, so I stuck it in myself for the first time. I started with adapted missionary, getting a feel for rhythm and everything. After that came knees on shoulders, which she responded to extremely well. Finally came doggy style, where I finished. We cuddled and just enjoyed her shaking for a good few more minutes before I gave her one last shaking orgasm with my fingers and tongue. I could have penetrated one last time, but she said that she was at her limit by that point.

I should study with her more often...

Oh. And my room now smells like vagina... Mmmmm

 

[PrettyDecent]

Niiice, good to hear you're enjoying one of the finer things in life!

Possible relationship, or gaming on the side as well?

~Nick

 

[AsianPersuasion]

Nah, it looks as though this one's a friends with benefits for sure. We vibe extremely well, but she's graduating this year and will probably be moving away. Plus, I'm just beginning to spread my wings.

So gaming on the side it is