Hello GC Crew,
So I had my first cold approach about a week or two ago and since then have been trying to get out there and meet girls daily my main venue being universities (I used to go to a lot of bars but it gets very expensive very fast). I have to say these last two weeks have been gritty, arduous, and just full of mistakes. I've asked out around a dozen girls so far and haven't had any success (I know that's not that many but it seems like a lot since I've never done this before haha). But I asked out a couple girls yesterday. Both were negatives but one I think I might have been able to escalate with. She was a cute, sort of homey, redhead girl sitting on a bench reading a book. I sort of looked at her and she looked back and smiled so I said, "fuck it." And made her my first approach of the evening. Now I might have flubbed this up but I'm asking y'all but I asked for her name first and told her mine then told her I thought she was cute and blah blah. And then asked if she'd be open to joining me for coffee at the local coffee place sometime. Now she hesitated for a while blushing furiously and said she didn't know. Now I think here's where I fucked up in retrospect. Instead of persisting and making her feel more comfortable (maybe saying "How about we go get some coffee real quick and see what you think?") And pushing for the same day date I said "you know you can say..." And she looked at me and I said "I won't have a meltdown haha." And she said "but you seem like such a nice guy...sorry." Which is NOT what I wanted to hear but I now realize is the vibe I give off. It's the vibe I've given off my entire life I'm an extroverted, very oral people person. Conversation isn't too much of an issue for me. It's getting to the conversation that I'm struggling with with these failed direct openers. I'm working on my voice right now to give off a sexier vibe so hopefully that'll help. Of course I've been working out 3 times a week as well. I feel like I have this "soft and friendly" look about me rather than "sharp and sexy." I'm not very fat but I am overweight for sure so hopefully this and some small shirts (which I've never bought just mediums) will help me out. Anyway that's my FR. I only mentioned the one girl because the girl after her recoiled when I even shook her hand and the night at the bar I got pounded into literal dust by 6 girls and didn't really wanna write a report on that haha. Today is a new day. And before work I'm gonna try some more day game at the local book store. Wish me luck.
So I had my first cold approach about a week or two ago and since then have been trying to get out there and meet girls daily my main venue being universities (I used to go to a lot of bars but it gets very expensive very fast). I have to say these last two weeks have been gritty, arduous, and just full of mistakes. I've asked out around a dozen girls so far and haven't had any success (I know that's not that many but it seems like a lot since I've never done this before haha). But I asked out a couple girls yesterday. Both were negatives but one I think I might have been able to escalate with. She was a cute, sort of homey, redhead girl sitting on a bench reading a book. I sort of looked at her and she looked back and smiled so I said, "fuck it." And made her my first approach of the evening. Now I might have flubbed this up but I'm asking y'all but I asked for her name first and told her mine then told her I thought she was cute and blah blah. And then asked if she'd be open to joining me for coffee at the local coffee place sometime. Now she hesitated for a while blushing furiously and said she didn't know. Now I think here's where I fucked up in retrospect. Instead of persisting and making her feel more comfortable (maybe saying "How about we go get some coffee real quick and see what you think?") And pushing for the same day date I said "you know you can say..." And she looked at me and I said "I won't have a meltdown haha." And she said "but you seem like such a nice guy...sorry." Which is NOT what I wanted to hear but I now realize is the vibe I give off. It's the vibe I've given off my entire life I'm an extroverted, very oral people person. Conversation isn't too much of an issue for me. It's getting to the conversation that I'm struggling with with these failed direct openers. I'm working on my voice right now to give off a sexier vibe so hopefully that'll help. Of course I've been working out 3 times a week as well. I feel like I have this "soft and friendly" look about me rather than "sharp and sexy." I'm not very fat but I am overweight for sure so hopefully this and some small shirts (which I've never bought just mediums) will help me out. Anyway that's my FR. I only mentioned the one girl because the girl after her recoiled when I even shook her hand and the night at the bar I got pounded into literal dust by 6 girls and didn't really wanna write a report on that haha. Today is a new day. And before work I'm gonna try some more day game at the local book store. Wish me luck.
