Hey! Any input or opinions will be much appreciated 
My gf of 3 months broke up with me because she feels she I dont deserve her. I put in more effort than she did into the relationship and when I asked her to step it up a bit because I was feeling neglected and unappreciated, she did. There was no problems, she stepped it up but then after a month it started to fuddle out. When she broke up with me she said i was the "sweetest and nicest guy she ever met". Which I was, because she has been going through quite a lot and ive been trying to support her, yet still expected my relationship needs be met (just regular affection etc.) I was all these things but i made it clear she cant walk over and do as she pleases. I first started noticing that she was losing interest in me when I found out she was texting a guy she met from the bar when she got really drunk, this was on valentines night and she did go above and beyond to make me feel appreciated (which was awesome). I found out about him once we got to her house, I left and told her either she deletes his number or we are finsished...so she stopped texting him.
During the last week of the relationship we went out to the bar for the first time together and again, she did get really drunk but I showed her the exciting dominant male that I actually am. She claimed that I was changing FOR her yet when I go to the bar that is actually how I am. That night when we got back to her house she cried and bawled her eyes out asking "why am i so nice to her" ï dont deserve you" and things like that. She normally has the attitude that she is above me so I just chalked it up to alcohol being a depressant and held her and tried my best to console her.
I always initiated contact with her and scheduled dates and never really made her do any of the chasing, when I tried sitting back and let her chase me I always gave in before It created enough time for her to miss me. So its expected that eventually she would start losing interest in me and an unbalanced relationship is created. The moment she broke up with me I told her that me being "nice and sweet" was only part of me. I am actually very carefree and love doing wild and exciting things, I never really showed her that side of me because I thought she wanted a more secure and safe relationship. So i suppose, She thought I loved her and wanted a longterm relationship... which spooked her. Since I told that im now COMPLETELY the person my identity actually entails, I have become more reserved in my texts and respond with a short response. Her texts to me were more involved and were pretty flirty and fun! We ended up setting up a miniputt game where if i win she would work harder and if i lose we end the relationship. She ended up cancelling and her text went like this"i cant do this tonight or probably for another week and a half, im in a tight situation that i dont even want to discuss right now. Im not running or anything". (she is struggling to make payments on her complex). I responded with "im really stoked to show you when you come up with an alternative. To me, this is what it looks like". That was a last week and she hasnt replied yet.
Ive actually made the conscious decision to be the man i want to be, carefree and exciting. Ive been hanging with my buddies and posted a picture showing me having a great time. This last weekend I even got a couple girls phone numbers. The problem is, I enjoyed my time with my ex more than I do now. And I want to show her that I am the man I say I am. What do I do? Do i wait for her to contact me...if ever or do I try and set up another date?
PS. she also said when she broke up with me that she no longer sees the good in people and hates going out unless it was with me but feels i care more for her than she does for me and says its not fair to me. How do i prove that when Im carefree and my natural self that the way it was, was ok?
My gf of 3 months broke up with me because she feels she I dont deserve her. I put in more effort than she did into the relationship and when I asked her to step it up a bit because I was feeling neglected and unappreciated, she did. There was no problems, she stepped it up but then after a month it started to fuddle out. When she broke up with me she said i was the "sweetest and nicest guy she ever met". Which I was, because she has been going through quite a lot and ive been trying to support her, yet still expected my relationship needs be met (just regular affection etc.) I was all these things but i made it clear she cant walk over and do as she pleases. I first started noticing that she was losing interest in me when I found out she was texting a guy she met from the bar when she got really drunk, this was on valentines night and she did go above and beyond to make me feel appreciated (which was awesome). I found out about him once we got to her house, I left and told her either she deletes his number or we are finsished...so she stopped texting him.
During the last week of the relationship we went out to the bar for the first time together and again, she did get really drunk but I showed her the exciting dominant male that I actually am. She claimed that I was changing FOR her yet when I go to the bar that is actually how I am. That night when we got back to her house she cried and bawled her eyes out asking "why am i so nice to her" ï dont deserve you" and things like that. She normally has the attitude that she is above me so I just chalked it up to alcohol being a depressant and held her and tried my best to console her.
I always initiated contact with her and scheduled dates and never really made her do any of the chasing, when I tried sitting back and let her chase me I always gave in before It created enough time for her to miss me. So its expected that eventually she would start losing interest in me and an unbalanced relationship is created. The moment she broke up with me I told her that me being "nice and sweet" was only part of me. I am actually very carefree and love doing wild and exciting things, I never really showed her that side of me because I thought she wanted a more secure and safe relationship. So i suppose, She thought I loved her and wanted a longterm relationship... which spooked her. Since I told that im now COMPLETELY the person my identity actually entails, I have become more reserved in my texts and respond with a short response. Her texts to me were more involved and were pretty flirty and fun! We ended up setting up a miniputt game where if i win she would work harder and if i lose we end the relationship. She ended up cancelling and her text went like this"i cant do this tonight or probably for another week and a half, im in a tight situation that i dont even want to discuss right now. Im not running or anything". (she is struggling to make payments on her complex). I responded with "im really stoked to show you when you come up with an alternative. To me, this is what it looks like". That was a last week and she hasnt replied yet.
Ive actually made the conscious decision to be the man i want to be, carefree and exciting. Ive been hanging with my buddies and posted a picture showing me having a great time. This last weekend I even got a couple girls phone numbers. The problem is, I enjoyed my time with my ex more than I do now. And I want to show her that I am the man I say I am. What do I do? Do i wait for her to contact me...if ever or do I try and set up another date?
PS. she also said when she broke up with me that she no longer sees the good in people and hates going out unless it was with me but feels i care more for her than she does for me and says its not fair to me. How do i prove that when Im carefree and my natural self that the way it was, was ok?
