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TLDR: I’m wasting her time as she’s more invested & it’s just fun to me... Should I end it?
Background
I adore this girl & have been seeing her once every 1 to 2 weeks for the past 2 years.
We have no label as I said I don’t have time for a gf & she stuck around as she likely thinks she can change my mind & I treat her like a GF
Why I’m thinking of ending it
When I met her she was at the higher levels of girl I could get. We grew together as she was an au-pair & is now a teacher while I was living at home but now live independently etc.
After 2 years she’s really invested & I feel myself fading away & wanting other girls. Even though I’ve been sleeping with other girls throughout.
It’s as if I just like her for the comfort and security which isn’t fair on her. At this point I want to free up time for a girl I’m head over heels for rather than a girl who logically I know is great but emotionally I’m just not that excited about.
She’s also older & 27 this year so I’d rather set her free to lock in another guy which she could veryyyyy easily.
Thoughts... Am I just overreacting?
She’s done nothing wrong and only been sweet and supportive. What’s wrong with me lol literally feel like a woman complaining about a nice guy ahahah ffs.
My friends think I’m weird that I haven’t made her my GF but I guess they just don’t get it... It’s hard to settle when you have options.
Background
I adore this girl & have been seeing her once every 1 to 2 weeks for the past 2 years.
We have no label as I said I don’t have time for a gf & she stuck around as she likely thinks she can change my mind & I treat her like a GF
Why I’m thinking of ending it
When I met her she was at the higher levels of girl I could get. We grew together as she was an au-pair & is now a teacher while I was living at home but now live independently etc.
After 2 years she’s really invested & I feel myself fading away & wanting other girls. Even though I’ve been sleeping with other girls throughout.
It’s as if I just like her for the comfort and security which isn’t fair on her. At this point I want to free up time for a girl I’m head over heels for rather than a girl who logically I know is great but emotionally I’m just not that excited about.
She’s also older & 27 this year so I’d rather set her free to lock in another guy which she could veryyyyy easily.
Thoughts... Am I just overreacting?
She’s done nothing wrong and only been sweet and supportive. What’s wrong with me lol literally feel like a woman complaining about a nice guy ahahah ffs.
My friends think I’m weird that I haven’t made her my GF but I guess they just don’t get it... It’s hard to settle when you have options.