This will be a journal for deliberate practice.
Been having issues lately with texting - girls are flaking mid-texting, and I'm pretty sure it's auto-rejection from late response times (usually my texts are just hours off) and sometimes from not responding at all.
Example:
1st girl
and
2nd girl
The whole getting into a text message conversation with a girl during the icebreaker has always been something I avoided, I guess because I thought continuing to text her would get me friend-zoned or I'd lose the intrigue. But yeah, that doesn't sound so rational, now. Will probably change strategy to texting girls at the same time intervals their texting me, and then send a short-but-sweet message to those who respond well to my icebreaker (like a "lol
" or something) as a means of reward.
Also, going straight to asking for the date the next day seems socially uncalibrated and slightly "off". Think I'm going to field-test having small conversation with the girl before bringing up the date again...which I haven't been doing because it seems so inefficient, and I feel like I'm going to lose them in the process. Oh well, I know Franco and NJ has suggested it, so it must have some validity.
Many other small things to chronicle and improve upon even beyond the texting, but so far the lessons for takeaway are:
- Text at similar time intervals as she
- Respond with something warm-but-short if they have an investment-heavy reaction to the icebreaker
- Start off with small conversation before asking for the date on the second day
-Bounded
Been having issues lately with texting - girls are flaking mid-texting, and I'm pretty sure it's auto-rejection from late response times (usually my texts are just hours off) and sometimes from not responding at all.
Example:
1st girl
Me: Glad to have met you- Bounded
Her: Hey Bounded, same to youi was actually feeling a bit dizzy and sick so might have been a bit out of it
(next day)
Me: [Girl], hey! Thinking we ought to grab those drinks this week. How's your sched lookin?
-no response-
and
2nd girl
Me: Glad to have met you- Bounded
Her: I totally forgot to ask your namesame though.
(next day)
Me: Hey Hannah! Thinking we ought to grab those drinks this weekend. How's your sched looking?
-no response-
The whole getting into a text message conversation with a girl during the icebreaker has always been something I avoided, I guess because I thought continuing to text her would get me friend-zoned or I'd lose the intrigue. But yeah, that doesn't sound so rational, now. Will probably change strategy to texting girls at the same time intervals their texting me, and then send a short-but-sweet message to those who respond well to my icebreaker (like a "lol
Also, going straight to asking for the date the next day seems socially uncalibrated and slightly "off". Think I'm going to field-test having small conversation with the girl before bringing up the date again...which I haven't been doing because it seems so inefficient, and I feel like I'm going to lose them in the process. Oh well, I know Franco and NJ has suggested it, so it must have some validity.
Many other small things to chronicle and improve upon even beyond the texting, but so far the lessons for takeaway are:
- Text at similar time intervals as she
- Respond with something warm-but-short if they have an investment-heavy reaction to the icebreaker
- Start off with small conversation before asking for the date on the second day
-Bounded