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Hey guys, this is my first post here, but been following gc articles for a few years. Hope this is the right place for this.
So, we started dating january this year. Things went uphill pretty quickly and after 3 months we were sleeping together almost all the time. It was great, no fights until last month when she said she cant come to my place every night becouse she has her own friends, work and school work to do and can’t do that as good when she’s at my place. I said fine, so call me when you want to come to my place, I don’t wan’t to be in your way. But what I didn’t expect is three weeks after that we only see each other once a week. Last night when I mentioned it she said that she is a generaly very happy person, and I’m not (dealt with severe anxiety, panic attacks) and I’m making her sometimes feel depressed. That she feels I’m not happy when shes not around and that is stifling her. I asked her if she wants to end or continue and she said she doesnt know. I almost ended it myself yesterday, but decided to wait until new years eve, when we first slept together one year ago.
So... should I stay or should I go? Its become a funny loop, when I’m happy to see her but she than has work and goes home tired, than I’m little angry at her and than she avoids me even more. I’m not angry on purpose, and she doesnt avoid me on purpose either. I guess I have anxious attachment tendencies and she has avoidant attachment ones.
On the other hand, sex is getting better than it was before. I last 3 times as long as I used to. She said shes not seeing anyone else, and I believe her. She really is working and spending time with her family and friends (almost all of her friends are gay).
I’m wasnt seeing anyone else during this year, but now I have 2 other dates scheduled. I’m loosing hope. Anything I can do? Or should I end it on new years eve? She sure wont do it, becouse she wants to avoid all conflicts, so someone has to.
So, we started dating january this year. Things went uphill pretty quickly and after 3 months we were sleeping together almost all the time. It was great, no fights until last month when she said she cant come to my place every night becouse she has her own friends, work and school work to do and can’t do that as good when she’s at my place. I said fine, so call me when you want to come to my place, I don’t wan’t to be in your way. But what I didn’t expect is three weeks after that we only see each other once a week. Last night when I mentioned it she said that she is a generaly very happy person, and I’m not (dealt with severe anxiety, panic attacks) and I’m making her sometimes feel depressed. That she feels I’m not happy when shes not around and that is stifling her. I asked her if she wants to end or continue and she said she doesnt know. I almost ended it myself yesterday, but decided to wait until new years eve, when we first slept together one year ago.
So... should I stay or should I go? Its become a funny loop, when I’m happy to see her but she than has work and goes home tired, than I’m little angry at her and than she avoids me even more. I’m not angry on purpose, and she doesnt avoid me on purpose either. I guess I have anxious attachment tendencies and she has avoidant attachment ones.
On the other hand, sex is getting better than it was before. I last 3 times as long as I used to. She said shes not seeing anyone else, and I believe her. She really is working and spending time with her family and friends (almost all of her friends are gay).
I’m wasnt seeing anyone else during this year, but now I have 2 other dates scheduled. I’m loosing hope. Anything I can do? Or should I end it on new years eve? She sure wont do it, becouse she wants to avoid all conflicts, so someone has to.
