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If you have read Chase article on 4 types of women, you realize that there are just women whom you won't click with, and co workers who are strong but inexperienced, yet coming up to you thinking like they 'know everything'. So one might call him "Stuck up", "arrogant" and "Ego". It is understood to a degree that one may act in such might hurt potential, in friendships, relationships, and also workplace vibe. I would like to state a few points on "Ego management".
You might ask, why "Ego management"?
"Ego" is derives from the Greek word "Εγώ (Ego)" meaning "I", often used in English to mean the "self", "identity" or other related concepts. So here it means someone has a self identity of whatever that is relevant at the moment. SO, let's say you a soft experienced (FT/EX) and you meet someone who's relatively new but he thinks he 'knows everything'. So what do you do? You tear him up, qualifying him, but then, you wonder, "What will i do next?" i certainly needs him in the team, if you in a workplace and unfortunately, you have to make the best out of him, and people usually don't snap out of their types all so often.
What do we do? Adopting two sides of the 4 types of personalities.
We uses three people over here, Chase, Zac and Franco, and how this plays out in a different fields.
Personality clashes happens when two person meets and talks about a relevant subject, and thus, experience and excitement/not interested or intimidation, plays a role in there. Knowing if the person advice is "sound" or "right" tends to fall under experience. Tolerance level plays a part, and it varies with different people. We look into experience and how excitement/not interested plays as "self identity" and how it affects daily lifes.
Situation 1:
Level of Identity,
Zac often gets pissed off at Chase for being too "head on" on things without actually reading his material. Chase often feels that Zac is not taking his initiatives and is wondering why Zac takes things personal, at times. Zac gets along with Franco but doesn't feel inspired. Franco too, doesn't feel Zac can help him expand his knowledge.
Situation 2:
Zac is very inexperienced in relationships. He seeks out Chase to help him. Chase is excited in helping him. Excitement and Experience makes Chase, couple with his experience, a strong personality. Thus makes Zac feels very intimidated. Chase however, found out Zac 'can't get it'. Franco, however feels Chase is a great mentor and has a good time learning. Zac seeks out help from Franco, hence, he is having a better time, than with Chase, because of excitement and experience.
Situation 3:
Zac spends majority of his life in soccer, watching it on tv. Chase isn't really interested in soccer. He is keen when seeing Zac with his experience, but he is intimated to ask Zac. Zac is too "head on" on him. He(Chase) wants something new, but not everything all at once. Franco does find Zac too "overbearing". Chase and Franco meet up for soccer, but never meets up after the first session. It kinds of boring between the two, and with inexperience, they can't move things forward.
Situation 4:
Zac is terribly inexperienced, but wants to learn gold. Chase is helping him out, and Zac feels Chase is doing him a good job with a steady soft guidance. Zac can't ask Franco to help, Zac feels a bit shy knowing Franco excitement and experience makes him "too strong" as a guider to Zac. For Chase, Franco and him gets along well. They complement each other.
Some of the situations derive.
1) Know your personality in general. (whether you FT/IN and you going to be FT/EX, or you are TR/IN and you going to be TR/EX)
2) Adopting another personality, If you "strong", and you meet another "strong", go "soft" (laid back, i would say). If you "soft". push your bar higher in assertiveness if you meet "strong".
3) Know the person from the first meet, his personality and adjust accordingly.
Well, one will ask, "Why should i give way to someone anyway?". Understand that this is not a right or wrong article, but rather a more "man management" and handling different types of personalities. It is highly recommended that you look for people that fits your personality (if you're TR/EX, find FT/EX and TR/IN) in your personal life. Look at this as a collective view, a more deeper look at how things played accordingly, and know that being humble is a good thing, a personality one has to adopt to really feel good, but you being judgemental is not wrong either. You looking at it from a practical view of life. YOu just affirming yourself of your experience,
but don't let that hinder the big picture. Your results are important, at the end of the day.
To sum up this post, in easy manner,
If you strong, adopt laid back when meet FT/IN.
If you soft, supercharge and be assertive when you meet TR/IN
Aside from personality, Your wants and needs are change with time, thus you often move from FT to TR in certain subjects throughout the course of one's life. Thus people,friends,people you work with, are always changing. Your wants and needs are changing, so does your self identity, which is your personality,
and it's not always possible to solve personality clashes altogether.
Zac
You might ask, why "Ego management"?
"Ego" is derives from the Greek word "Εγώ (Ego)" meaning "I", often used in English to mean the "self", "identity" or other related concepts. So here it means someone has a self identity of whatever that is relevant at the moment. SO, let's say you a soft experienced (FT/EX) and you meet someone who's relatively new but he thinks he 'knows everything'. So what do you do? You tear him up, qualifying him, but then, you wonder, "What will i do next?" i certainly needs him in the team, if you in a workplace and unfortunately, you have to make the best out of him, and people usually don't snap out of their types all so often.
What do we do? Adopting two sides of the 4 types of personalities.
We uses three people over here, Chase, Zac and Franco, and how this plays out in a different fields.
Personality clashes happens when two person meets and talks about a relevant subject, and thus, experience and excitement/not interested or intimidation, plays a role in there. Knowing if the person advice is "sound" or "right" tends to fall under experience. Tolerance level plays a part, and it varies with different people. We look into experience and how excitement/not interested plays as "self identity" and how it affects daily lifes.
Situation 1:
Level of Identity,
Zac often gets pissed off at Chase for being too "head on" on things without actually reading his material. Chase often feels that Zac is not taking his initiatives and is wondering why Zac takes things personal, at times. Zac gets along with Franco but doesn't feel inspired. Franco too, doesn't feel Zac can help him expand his knowledge.
Situation 2:
Zac is very inexperienced in relationships. He seeks out Chase to help him. Chase is excited in helping him. Excitement and Experience makes Chase, couple with his experience, a strong personality. Thus makes Zac feels very intimidated. Chase however, found out Zac 'can't get it'. Franco, however feels Chase is a great mentor and has a good time learning. Zac seeks out help from Franco, hence, he is having a better time, than with Chase, because of excitement and experience.
Situation 3:
Zac spends majority of his life in soccer, watching it on tv. Chase isn't really interested in soccer. He is keen when seeing Zac with his experience, but he is intimated to ask Zac. Zac is too "head on" on him. He(Chase) wants something new, but not everything all at once. Franco does find Zac too "overbearing". Chase and Franco meet up for soccer, but never meets up after the first session. It kinds of boring between the two, and with inexperience, they can't move things forward.
Situation 4:
Zac is terribly inexperienced, but wants to learn gold. Chase is helping him out, and Zac feels Chase is doing him a good job with a steady soft guidance. Zac can't ask Franco to help, Zac feels a bit shy knowing Franco excitement and experience makes him "too strong" as a guider to Zac. For Chase, Franco and him gets along well. They complement each other.
Some of the situations derive.
1) Know your personality in general. (whether you FT/IN and you going to be FT/EX, or you are TR/IN and you going to be TR/EX)
2) Adopting another personality, If you "strong", and you meet another "strong", go "soft" (laid back, i would say). If you "soft". push your bar higher in assertiveness if you meet "strong".
3) Know the person from the first meet, his personality and adjust accordingly.
Well, one will ask, "Why should i give way to someone anyway?". Understand that this is not a right or wrong article, but rather a more "man management" and handling different types of personalities. It is highly recommended that you look for people that fits your personality (if you're TR/EX, find FT/EX and TR/IN) in your personal life. Look at this as a collective view, a more deeper look at how things played accordingly, and know that being humble is a good thing, a personality one has to adopt to really feel good, but you being judgemental is not wrong either. You looking at it from a practical view of life. YOu just affirming yourself of your experience,
but don't let that hinder the big picture. Your results are important, at the end of the day.
To sum up this post, in easy manner,
If you strong, adopt laid back when meet FT/IN.
If you soft, supercharge and be assertive when you meet TR/IN
Aside from personality, Your wants and needs are change with time, thus you often move from FT to TR in certain subjects throughout the course of one's life. Thus people,friends,people you work with, are always changing. Your wants and needs are changing, so does your self identity, which is your personality,
and it's not always possible to solve personality clashes altogether.
Zac
