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Hey guys,
Lately, I've been feeling a big strain on my mindset. For whatever reason, I just cannot see myself pulling a girl home and having sex with her. And this seems to have really affected my abilities in person - I get girls home (or close to home) and then one things gets in the way (oh no she'll have to meet my parents, oh she has this thing to do, or whatever excuse comes up) then I don't actually feel the drive to push for sex (even though I'm horny and haven't masturbated in a while). Sure, I'll kiss a girl, touch her, and I've pushed for girls to get more sexual with me, but I just cannot see myself having sex with them on a date.
This really hurts me when the girl's inexperienced (see my latest field report). Whereas when the girl is experienced and can help push me along because she knows the process, with other girls I can't maintain my frame because I feel this mental block. It really sucks and I want to get rid of it.
I'm sure the best way to do it is to get some success and pull a girl home and have sex with her - I just don't have any reference points. But I just can't seem to push myself to that point. What can I do?
There is one girl that is experienced and interested (I've sexted her a bit) but our logistics are total crap (she lives an hour and a half away, goes to my college, but is only on campus when I'm in class/at work. Likewise, she's not in town in afternoons, when I'm free, and doesn't come down on weekends because it costs a lot in gas). So maybe I just need to say fuck it, pay her the gas money to get here on a weekend (60 bucks) and get past this by having sex with her? I'd feel like I'm paying for sex but man I really need to just get laid. Not just to get laid but to just have the knowledge that I can do it and to get past this mental block and build my confidence more in leading all the way through the seduction.
What do you guys suggest?
Lately, I've been feeling a big strain on my mindset. For whatever reason, I just cannot see myself pulling a girl home and having sex with her. And this seems to have really affected my abilities in person - I get girls home (or close to home) and then one things gets in the way (oh no she'll have to meet my parents, oh she has this thing to do, or whatever excuse comes up) then I don't actually feel the drive to push for sex (even though I'm horny and haven't masturbated in a while). Sure, I'll kiss a girl, touch her, and I've pushed for girls to get more sexual with me, but I just cannot see myself having sex with them on a date.
This really hurts me when the girl's inexperienced (see my latest field report). Whereas when the girl is experienced and can help push me along because she knows the process, with other girls I can't maintain my frame because I feel this mental block. It really sucks and I want to get rid of it.
I'm sure the best way to do it is to get some success and pull a girl home and have sex with her - I just don't have any reference points. But I just can't seem to push myself to that point. What can I do?
There is one girl that is experienced and interested (I've sexted her a bit) but our logistics are total crap (she lives an hour and a half away, goes to my college, but is only on campus when I'm in class/at work. Likewise, she's not in town in afternoons, when I'm free, and doesn't come down on weekends because it costs a lot in gas). So maybe I just need to say fuck it, pay her the gas money to get here on a weekend (60 bucks) and get past this by having sex with her? I'd feel like I'm paying for sex but man I really need to just get laid. Not just to get laid but to just have the knowledge that I can do it and to get past this mental block and build my confidence more in leading all the way through the seduction.
What do you guys suggest?
