Breaking through this sticky

[SillyCarl]

I've been taking action as advised by members of this forum but I keep running into the same problem. If I can breakthrough this I think I can bed more woman than I ever had.

I can't seem to keep girls interested in me long term, as in I garner attraction from them upon first impression but when it comes to consistently keeping that attraction level from open to lay, I struggle. I seem to consistently say something that turns of their attraction more than I'd like. If there's anything and I mean ANYTHING in terms of advice you can give, please do!

 

[Inbocca]

This is vague. There could literally be any number of things that cause that attraction to taper off.

The fact that it's there to begin with means you've got something going for you at least. Keep an eye on what you say and their reactions to them and see if you can spot where it starts dying down. If you want some help from the guys on here, post actual examples where this happens and we might be able to give you some feedback.

 

[SillyCarl]

Inbocca

Alright,

So I hit the club on Tuesday, approached 5 girls in total. First girl approached me, but I was too nervous as she was very cute so she kinda auto rejected. The other 4 I cold approached, first girl was smiling at me, walked up told her let's go dance she said nah asked a second time she still said nah but she was leaning in, hand on my chest as she said this so ?. Second girl told her she was cute, she ate that up and said thank you spoke a little then it went stale. As I write this I think I have a problem in banter with girls in the beginning, will look on the main site for info but if you have anything to input, I'll appreciate if you did.

 

[WayOfHand]

Hey good to hear you are opening girls so well. What you might try is focusing less on the girl and more on yourself. Do things that amuse you and only you. Joke around, be more relaxed. After this you won't care about the reactions from the girl so much.

After this start getting girls to commit. Move them or make them do stuff for you. Nail these two down and your final worry is only closing the girl and you are golden.

 

[Inbocca]

Great on the openers! Like WoH said, it kind of sounds like you might be in your head a bit and nervous about the caliber of girls (who sound to be pretty into you btw). Try doing things to get out of your head and focus less on the attractiveness of the babes around you.

I remember Varun Raja (I think it was him at least) writing about his experiences in clubs and said one of the things that helped him was to keep the conversation very general and light when initiating banter. Observational statements about your environment or other people, or just really light conversational points just to get them talking to you. You want to talk about them as well, of course, but mostly light stuff. She's not in the club for intellectual conversation. Besides, it's hella loud, so nonverbals are much more effective and important communication tools there.

I like how by recounting your evening you started coming up with some answers to your question That happens a lot, which is another reason why field reports and journal-keeping are great assets to improving your game.

Bon chance!

 

[SillyCarl]

Wayofhand and Inbocca

Yeah definitely, I think over thinking is also a problem, meditation is a tool I'm gonna look into for this problem though. I've put going out into my weekly schedule so maybe I can break through this sticky in a few months...
But thanks for the suggestions gonna implement them infield as always.