I'm having a hard time figuring out how to break unbalanced investment. I'm not sure about holding doors, picking up litter, waiting for people, and countless other niceties that add up to me over investing and not coming across as dominant/healthy. I prided myself as being the provider victim too long. I care how I come across to people maybe too much and I can't always see the alternative to rough hard or too nice so I keep defaulting to too nice. Changing this is hard too because the shift from the precedent has people asking me if I'm upset about something. If/when I try to take my fair share or be competitive I come across awkwardly selfish because I'm not framing/delivering it right. What advice could help me redefine myself (at work) as someone to be respected without it becoming awkward and getting social pressure backlash against the shift (or should I just work through it and recalibrate?).
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Chase has an article on how to say no to others and turn down compliance.
https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-say-no-others-and-turn-down-compliance
https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-say-no-others-and-turn-down-compliance
