FR brief over view of a couple weeks with babe from apt

[bobbybowden]

Hoping this is the right forum for this. I need some advice on how to proceed with a girl from my apt complex.

Quick run down:

I was boxing in my apt gym when a sexy lil thing approached me and asked me to teach her. Have her a quick lesson on the spot and she asks for my number.

Then winter break so I'm gone for about a month. Kinda forget about her do my thing.

I'm working out when I get back and she's there and so I give her another lesson. We go back to my place and smoke. She clearly about it but my subtle moves to get her next to me on the bed are avoided. She goes home but everything's cool.

Over the next week we worked out together a couple more times, texted a little. I thought I had it in the bag.

We have another workout planned but she can't go, instead invites me over to smoke. I go over there and slyly get us back to her room where we make out for about 10 minutes and I feel her upt. She says "I like you but I can't jump into anything." I tell her I like her to and ask what she's afraid of. I smooth talked her in between kissing, but she won't fuck yet. So we go back out to living room and hang but she's being awkward so I leave after a few minutes.

Next day we workout together again as scheduled (wanted to go back to what she likes about me n not let those awkward few minutes sit in her mind).

After that I back off for a few days and go out with the boys, bang another rando to get apt girl off my mind and see how much I actually like her. During the week ish break we run into each other at the gym and flirt for about 5 minutes, no provlem.

Weekend over so I text her to work out again, but now she's canceled twice in a row. heres the text convo from the last cancel, yesterday:

Her: Honestly I won't probably make it up there I ran alot yesterday and my knee is killing me but tomorrow before 430 I definitely want to go

Me: Recovery is just as important! I'm busy as hell tomorrow but ill see if I can work you in. Maybe we should just get hi and watch a movie with ur roommates or something.
I want to see u... (Pretty embarrassingly bad text, something I don't usually do but I like this girl.)

Her: Yeah im icing my knee now. Anytime you can ill be down to go.And to be honest me and brit were going to grab a bite to eat and have a girls night...

Me: We'll see if I can tomorrow. Have fun but I still need redemption on ur fringe smoking devices... U prob think I'm an amateur

She definitely likes me but may be trying to force me into Friend zone. I was thinking maybe blow her off today to get some power back (which I had all the power until we made out but didn't bang. Ever since then she's been different.)
Where do I go from her? Like I said I'm usually more into randos ad have not built a relationship in a long time .

 

[ray_zorse]

Yeah umm I guess it retrospect she expected you to smash through her weak excuses and bang her then and there, attraction seems to have expired / be expiring so I'd say you're fucked, with this girl at least, if there is to be a chance of saving it now you've accepted her "moving slowly, she's in control" frame it will be by convincing her to spend time with you (I'd suggest to ring her by voice and set up a time and don't accept weak excuses, make the ho say no)... and trying to rebuild the good feelings and employing date compression, but frankly given she's already making excuses not to hang out, it will be a bit chasey & not a good use of your time...
-Ray

 

[bobbybowden]

Yea that's what I figured. Expiring/expired. Should have banged her that night.

I invited her out with me tonight as a last chance.

I will say tho that making it happen once "it's on" and getting past weak excuses is usually my strong suit. Think I was just a bit hesitant cuz I liked her.

Lesson learned. Feelings are gay.

 

[Whizzy]

Unless you plan on nailing her right after a workout together, which can be tricky to pull off correctly, I wouldn't even text her about working out anymore. Only text her regarding a "hangout" and if she bites then you'll know for sure that she is interested, and if not then you still know where you stand. Spending too much time bonding as "friends" as you guys can been thus far only pushes you into the friendzone or boyfriend zone, neither of which you want to be in i'm sure. Remember, the faster you move while together the faster your odds are of getting the lay. How many times have you guys been together thus far?