Socializing Bring This Group Back Together

[Smurf]

Alright.

So I'm in this religious youth group where I'm co-president of it (to try to increase my leadership capabilities). We had an important event today that would probably make us the most money out of any event that we do all year.

At this event, my youth group was split in two. On the one side is these kids who seem cooler, but slack off all the time then complain when a fellow member tells them off. The other group is me and some good friends of mine who are hard working but still have fun. We're more on the side of loud and funny, while they are cool, quiet, and slackers. As for the other co-president, she's not on a side.

Now I have these two groups where a schism has formed between them. On one hand, I like the split, even though there are people I can talk to on the other side, me and my friend trade off as social group leaders who can make the group laugh or do whatever we want with. However, I feel putting these groups together would be the more socially calibrated option. Problem is, the leaders of the other group are more charismatic than I am, so there's no way I'd be able to lead them, especially since they don't like to work hard and are different from the people in my group.

So question is: how do I proceed with this situation? Leave it as is and continue to lead when need be but leave the other group alone for the most part, or try and take control of both groups?

Jake.

 

[Richard]

Jake,

I like this topic =P

there's no way I'd be able to lead them

Remember, whether you think you can or you can't, you're right. As long as you believe that you can't lead them, then you won't be able to. So change your belief about it first.

especially since they don't like to work hard and are different from the people in my group.

Don't focus on the differences, focus on the similarities. What does that group and yours have in common? Probably a lot more than you don't have in common.

When you create an us vs. them situation conflict arises, and further increases tension between the two groups.

Aside from that, it's not that they don't like to work hard, also remember this: “People are not lazy, they simply have impotent goals..that is..goals that do not inspire them.”

You can always motivate the other group to work just as hard as your group, you've just got to approach the situation differently.

Also, if you're trying to bring both groups together into one cohesive group, then you should introduce, clarify, and explain a superordinate goal, that is a goal where two or more groups of people must be involved to accomplish a single goal.

Cheers,

-Richard

 

[metomeya]

I like this post too! Just waiting to hear what someone like Z Vaunswa was going to say.

 

[Smurf]

Thanks Zphix, I'll have a chance to get together with this group Thursday so I'll try to get something done then. Thanks for the advice, it's good as always!

Jake.