Hey GC community. Been reading this site for a while now, finally made an account to chive in with you guys! I hope I can contribute towards this forum.
First off, where I'm at ; I just broke up with my gf last week. We broke up and got back together multiple times in the past. It was a toxic relationship that needed to end. This time, there's no going backwards. I made a promise to myself to accept the burn and resistance life will give me from here on. After all, life is a learning curve and we should learn how to cultivate it. Anyway, I made clear that this would be the last time we break up. She insisted we stayed friends. I agreed, but that's when shit got worse. A few days ago, she starts texting me and wanting to see me, going all balistic on the phone. I told her that I didn't want to see her, she came over anyway. So I went out and locked the door behind me. Made it clear that we shouldn't even stay as friends. As this is not working. Needless to say, shit wasn't pretty. She said she would file rape against me and what not ( never thought this girl had it in her, but seems like she was using her last resort. ). After she said that, I gave her the death stare. She knew I was pissed. I continued to be silent and started walking away. She kept following me, and I kept walking. She kept trying to get something out of me, but I was just silent. Until eventually after a few min, she stopped following me. Called a cab and left. I spared you guys the details, but she was acting crazy, and woke up all my neighbours. So I finally went home, and accepted what had happened and made my peace with it.
So now to truly get over your exes, there's nothing better than approaching new women. Easy as that. It work for me, I started aproaching last night, 2 days after the big cut off with my girlfriend. And I must say, it went pretty smoothly. The first girl I approached, gave me her number and made it clear that she wanted to see me.
Here's how it went down ;
I figured I'll go to the nearest coffee shop by my house and just open any girl that I find attractive and start off from there. So on my way there, I told myself that I have to do this, there's no backing down. I used the analogy that If I don't go through with it and talk to one attractive girl and go for the close, I will get shot in the head maffia style, no matter what. (I use visualisation and capitalise on my imagination when it comes to pushing (motivating) myself to do something)
As I arrived to the coffee shop, I noticed there was no-one there except for the staff. I thought that was strange as its usually semi packed, but guess last night was one of those slow nights. But I didn't use that as an excuse to not open that night. Instead, I looked to see if any of the staff was hot. And damn did I find such a hot girl.
The breakdown :
I went in, smiled warmly at the hot girl (as I was heading to the wash-room to take a leak) and she gave me a humongous smile back. When I got back to the counter, the hot girl was cleaning right by it. And I just started talking to her normally, but with a slow sexy smile running across my face. Tried to not to overdue it, but could feel she was drawed in even more. I was talking about casual things but really holding eye contact with her. And she kept leaning in closer. Then her another employee noticed and came beside her (damn cockblock lol). She snapped out of it, and I started asking for my order.
Me > I'll have a med pepermint tea, 4 bags inside ( gave her a body check, with my eyes, and made sure she noticed )
Her> 4 baaagggss inside?? <giggle giggle> ... okay
Would that be everything?
Me> (acting un-phased with her giggling - Not trying to be too attainable. Just attainable enough I guess)
Yeah
Her> It'll come up to $3.15
Me> ( handing over $3.50)
keep the change. (sexy smile)
Sooo.. seems like you work alot (deep voice ofcourse! been workin on my sexy ass voice thanks to Chase!)
Her> I work every night throughout the week. ( she sighed a bit, note; the other employee was still standing beside her, but I didn't give a fuck)
Me> That's brutal, you hustle hard eh, bet you do the baking too... ( just tryna build some more rapport)
Her> Yeah it can get pretty brutal. Nooo I don't do the baking, we have another lady for all that.
Me> (Tryna tease and qualify her at the same time, seeing if she'll bite)
Oh so I guess your not the kind of girl that bakes at home ( I said this playfully)
Her> (Shoots back right away)
Ofcourse I bake at home, I just don't do it at work ( giggle) (kinda shy this time)
Me > That's good. (gave her a fat smile)
What day are you free this week?
Her> I work basically every night
Me > I'd like to take you out for some drinks, we can probably make some time (forgot to say, "or grab a bite". Here's where I get some resistance)
Her> Ummm I'm not allowed to drink, I'm only 18.
Me> That's fine, we can grab a bite some instead.
(grabbing my phone from pocket and getting it ready for her to put her number in, than handing it over to her)
Her>(noticing she's acting very hesitant, to take it from my hand)
I'm sorryyy, but I'm not allowed to give out my number. ( I was baffled, but didn't show it)
Me> (acting unphased) That's coooooll
Well in that case, I'll grab a yoghurt too.
As she goes to get it, I try catching her eye. That's when I noticed she still seem's interested, I just wasn't sure what was keeping her from going forward with the number. Than I realisedthe employee standing next to her was her manager all along. I actually took a second to read her name tag haha, that's how I found out.
Her> That would be $3.89.
Me> (handing over the money)
well... enjoy your night!
(leaving the yoghurt behind by purpose)
This was an attempt to try and get her outside alone to get her number.I thought that either her or her manager will run after me with the yoghurt, Or maybe I'll just lose my money's worth. All I knew was it was worth a try.
And It worked.
She came out all the way to my car, and...
Her> Hey you forgot your yoghurt
Me> Ohhh... I did, thanks... (sexy smile)
listen, I understand you weren't able to give me your number infront of your manager. But now your outside alone
Her> I doon't nooo ( turning all red, and really shy)
Me> ( handing her my phone)
Come on I know your a bad-ass
Her> Allright ... sure ( biggest smile on her face)
( hands back phone)
Me> I know your busy, so i'll text you sometime.
Her> Okayyy See you (smiles, and walks back, as im getting into my car)
I haven't been approaching for about 2 years now, so I know I'm a bit rusty, but I'm gradually getting there. Needless to say, this gave me a great mental/ego boost, especailly since its my first approach so far. Now that I think of it, I should have been more aggressive towards getting her number at the end, but will make tweaks in due time
I hope this can help the newbies out there like me understand that it really isn't that hard to go for the pull and get results. The way I look at it is, I try to bring my mind to a relaxed state, where I don't really care about the outcome, as long as I go through with the prossess, if not.... I'll shoot my self maffia style LOL. With all seriousness, you have to feel a sense of entitlement and a sense of absolute abundance. Just like GC has described. I must admit, this site gives you all kinds of gainssss in such short time, as long as you believe in the content and actually absorb it in as much as possible.
I'll be following up with this girl today, and push for the date. But by no mean with I be hung on her. Must keep aproaching and creating more reference points. With resistance comes experience guys.
till next time
Schkaufer
First off, where I'm at ; I just broke up with my gf last week. We broke up and got back together multiple times in the past. It was a toxic relationship that needed to end. This time, there's no going backwards. I made a promise to myself to accept the burn and resistance life will give me from here on. After all, life is a learning curve and we should learn how to cultivate it. Anyway, I made clear that this would be the last time we break up. She insisted we stayed friends. I agreed, but that's when shit got worse. A few days ago, she starts texting me and wanting to see me, going all balistic on the phone. I told her that I didn't want to see her, she came over anyway. So I went out and locked the door behind me. Made it clear that we shouldn't even stay as friends. As this is not working. Needless to say, shit wasn't pretty. She said she would file rape against me and what not ( never thought this girl had it in her, but seems like she was using her last resort. ). After she said that, I gave her the death stare. She knew I was pissed. I continued to be silent and started walking away. She kept following me, and I kept walking. She kept trying to get something out of me, but I was just silent. Until eventually after a few min, she stopped following me. Called a cab and left. I spared you guys the details, but she was acting crazy, and woke up all my neighbours. So I finally went home, and accepted what had happened and made my peace with it.
So now to truly get over your exes, there's nothing better than approaching new women. Easy as that. It work for me, I started aproaching last night, 2 days after the big cut off with my girlfriend. And I must say, it went pretty smoothly. The first girl I approached, gave me her number and made it clear that she wanted to see me.
Here's how it went down ;
I figured I'll go to the nearest coffee shop by my house and just open any girl that I find attractive and start off from there. So on my way there, I told myself that I have to do this, there's no backing down. I used the analogy that If I don't go through with it and talk to one attractive girl and go for the close, I will get shot in the head maffia style, no matter what. (I use visualisation and capitalise on my imagination when it comes to pushing (motivating) myself to do something)
As I arrived to the coffee shop, I noticed there was no-one there except for the staff. I thought that was strange as its usually semi packed, but guess last night was one of those slow nights. But I didn't use that as an excuse to not open that night. Instead, I looked to see if any of the staff was hot. And damn did I find such a hot girl.
The breakdown :
I went in, smiled warmly at the hot girl (as I was heading to the wash-room to take a leak) and she gave me a humongous smile back. When I got back to the counter, the hot girl was cleaning right by it. And I just started talking to her normally, but with a slow sexy smile running across my face. Tried to not to overdue it, but could feel she was drawed in even more. I was talking about casual things but really holding eye contact with her. And she kept leaning in closer. Then her another employee noticed and came beside her (damn cockblock lol). She snapped out of it, and I started asking for my order.
Me > I'll have a med pepermint tea, 4 bags inside ( gave her a body check, with my eyes, and made sure she noticed )
Her> 4 baaagggss inside?? <giggle giggle> ... okay
Would that be everything?
Me> (acting un-phased with her giggling - Not trying to be too attainable. Just attainable enough I guess)
Yeah
Her> It'll come up to $3.15
Me> ( handing over $3.50)
keep the change. (sexy smile)
Sooo.. seems like you work alot (deep voice ofcourse! been workin on my sexy ass voice
thanks to Chase!)Her> I work every night throughout the week. ( she sighed a bit, note; the other employee was still standing beside her, but I didn't give a fuck)
Me> That's brutal, you hustle hard eh, bet you do the baking too... ( just tryna build some more rapport)
Her> Yeah it can get pretty brutal. Nooo I don't do the baking, we have another lady for all that.
Me> (Tryna tease and qualify her at the same time, seeing if she'll bite)
Oh so I guess your not the kind of girl that bakes at home ( I said this playfully)
Her> (Shoots back right away)
Ofcourse I bake at home, I just don't do it at work ( giggle) (kinda shy this time)
Me > That's good. (gave her a fat smile)
What day are you free this week?
Her> I work basically every night
Me > I'd like to take you out for some drinks, we can probably make some time (forgot to say, "or grab a bite". Here's where I get some resistance)
Her> Ummm I'm not allowed to drink, I'm only 18.
Me> That's fine, we can grab a bite some instead.
(grabbing my phone from pocket and getting it ready for her to put her number in, than handing it over to her)
Her>(noticing she's acting very hesitant, to take it from my hand)
I'm sorryyy, but I'm not allowed to give out my number. ( I was baffled, but didn't show it)
Me> (acting unphased) That's coooooll
Well in that case, I'll grab a yoghurt too.
As she goes to get it, I try catching her eye. That's when I noticed she still seem's interested, I just wasn't sure what was keeping her from going forward with the number. Than I realisedthe employee standing next to her was her manager all along. I actually took a second to read her name tag haha, that's how I found out.
Her> That would be $3.89.
Me> (handing over the money)
well... enjoy your night!
(leaving the yoghurt behind by purpose)
This was an attempt to try and get her outside alone to get her number.I thought that either her or her manager will run after me with the yoghurt, Or maybe I'll just lose my money's worth. All I knew was it was worth a try.
And It worked.
She came out all the way to my car, and...
Her> Hey you forgot your yoghurt
Me> Ohhh... I did, thanks... (sexy smile)
listen, I understand you weren't able to give me your number infront of your manager. But now your outside alone
Her> I doon't nooo ( turning all red, and really shy)
Me> ( handing her my phone)
Come on I know your a bad-ass
Her> Allright ... sure ( biggest smile on her face)
( hands back phone)
Me> I know your busy, so i'll text you sometime.
Her> Okayyy See you (smiles, and walks back, as im getting into my car)
I haven't been approaching for about 2 years now, so I know I'm a bit rusty, but I'm gradually getting there. Needless to say, this gave me a great mental/ego boost, especailly since its my first approach so far. Now that I think of it, I should have been more aggressive towards getting her number at the end, but will make tweaks in due time
I hope this can help the newbies out there like me understand that it really isn't that hard to go for the pull and get results. The way I look at it is, I try to bring my mind to a relaxed state, where I don't really care about the outcome, as long as I go through with the prossess, if not.... I'll shoot my self maffia style LOL. With all seriousness, you have to feel a sense of entitlement and a sense of absolute abundance. Just like GC has described. I must admit, this site gives you all kinds of gainssss in such short time, as long as you believe in the content and actually absorb it in as much as possible.
I'll be following up with this girl today, and push for the date. But by no mean with I be hung on her. Must keep aproaching and creating more reference points. With resistance comes experience guys.
till next time
Schkaufer
