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buying drinks for girls on dates?

killerman

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just out of interest, when you take a girl out on a date to a cafe or a bar, do you buy the girl her drink or not? Was reading Chase's article on whether you should pay for a date and it's a topic that's been on my mind recently so was wondering what do you guys do?
 
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NarrowJ

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Just use your best judgment and don't make it a big deal. In fact, make it as insignificant as possible. Usually, if it's just drinks (which is the situation you're specifically asking about here) I'll get the first round and then let her get the second, for example.

If we're getting the bill at the end of the date, I don't make the decision or even think about it until that point. If the date is going really well and she's showing the obvious signs like nervousness and lots of her qualifying herself to me and appears to be walking on eggshells not to lose my interest, then I'll just go ahead and pay (and deter any attention to it). If she seems more neutral about me, I'll go halfsies. It's not going to save you from a poorly executed date, but the more on the fence a girl is, the more significant these little details become.


J.J.
 

Mr.Rob

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I don't buy jack for women until after she's slept with me.

A take a girl on a date as a reward for sleeping with me but I'm not going to buy a girl something just because she has tits.

Narrow J has good advice though.

-Rob
 

Bboy100

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I prefer to avoid it. Both from a Philosophical and seduction standpoint, it feels like a bad idea. Philosophically speaking, it no longer makes sense to be buying women drinks on dates. It used to make sense when women had less rights, less freedoms, and less capability to earn a currency of their own. In this day & age, there's no excuse for a women expecting a man to pay for a date. In fact some of the more feminist type girls seem to get offended by the notion.

Philosophically speaking, the only time I would pay for a girl's date is if I have a real job, make a decent living, am significantly older than her etc. and she's a broke college student or w.e. Not really the case for me though, cause I'm still a young jobless college student myself. lol.

From a seduction standpoint, paying for dates seems to communicate "I feel like I need to give you something just to have earned the right to be in your company". Hopefully, its very obvious why this is a bad thing. The only exception to this rule is conspicuous consumption. If you're super successful, then perhaps you can take her out to a very very high end restaurant, drop $400 for the date, treat it like its nbd and this might actually boost attraction. Here's more on the topic:
https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-c ... n-get-laid


Overall though, if its something as cheap as drinks (as it should be) it probably won't really matter what you do. As long as you don't make a big deal out of it.
 
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