CALLING ALL FRAT MEMBERS!!!

[TheWiseFool]

Hey guys,

For most of you guys who are still in college and in a frat, you've either had formal already or formal is coming right around the corner. I went to formal last year, but it is a total blur to me, reasons why need not be explained and I literally have no recollection of the event. Anyways... just wanted to know if any of you guys pay for your dates ticket or do you suggest that the both of you pay for your tickets separately? $65 is quite a bit of money and I don't think most girls are willing to pay for it, but I could be wrong since girls usually love to get all dressed up.

Lastly, what do you guys usually wear? Jacket, dress shirt, tie, dress pants and shoes? Maybe a vest? I really am blanking on formal last year, it's pretty sad, but whatever.
- TWF

 

[TheWiseFool]

bump

 

[Marty]

Okay seeing as you've bumped it, I'll fill you in on my experience, which is admittedly from the mid-late 1990s and across the pond, but the principle is the same. We call it a May Ball. Very quaint, I'm sure you think They cost a bit more than $65 per head, too, even back then. The tickets were sold per pair, incidentally.

Anyway, the deal with May Balls with me and pretty much all the friends I had was as follows. Everyone would split the cost unless, for example, a girl invited you to a May Ball at one college (e.g. hers, where she had priority ticket purchase) and you invited her back in return at your college, in which case each would pay for the other once... still working out equal.

This applied both in cases where you went as a couple (e.g. with a steady girlfriend—I did that once), or with a friend-with-benefits (I did that once too—twice actually, it was the reciprocal deal outlined above), or where you went with someone of the opposite sex platonically, in order to have fun with someone completely different who had done the same and whom you might meet at the Ball (many people I knew did this).

We were simply too broke to do it any other way, and everyone was more or less in the same boat, give or take a few years (both the GF and the FWB were postgrads when I was an undergrad, but that's nothing in the scheme of things).

These days of course it's a totally different kettle of fish: in instances when I take girls on dates who are around 10-15 years younger, I wouldn't dream of allowing them to pay. But back then we split everything and no girl ever made a fuss about it.

 

[TheWiseFool]

Hey Marty,

Thanks for the reply! I probably need to work on my skills cos I am 0 for 3. Given the circumstances with which the dance is taking place, I am fighting uphill battle since asking for a date to come with me to a college at another college is quite a lot, at least from my perspective. I didn't even get to the point of saying how much the dance actually was before I was told, "Oh sorry I can't."I'm probably asking the wrong girls, so Monday I'm gonna ask sorority girls if their down to come, just from experience that these kinds of girls looove to party.

Thanks again! I looked into the May Ball. It sounds pretty cool. Suicide Sunday is interesting but I wasn't quite sure if that was were specific universities, rather than all of them.
- TWF