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Hey Gents,
Happy 2022! Hope the New Year is treating you all well.
I had a question that's been bothering me for a while now about how to frame your focus when focusing on getting better with women.
Girls Chase philosophy emphasizes that it's no good to have women be your mission because if your life revolves around women (or that one special woman in a relationship), then you're more likely to become needy and show weakness, which tanks attraction and respect for you, right?
Thus, it's important to have a "mission" or "higher purpose" to give you the mental strength and steely resolve to keep neediness and emotional weakness at bay.
However, in order to learn a new skill as fast as possible, it is advised to focus on that exclusively (to the point of obsession) for a period of time (usually a couple of years).
Quite the paradox, eh?
In order to develop a high level of skill it's best to focus on ONE THING obsessively for a period of time (in this case, girl-getting skills), but by making women your focus you risk getting weak and needy...
What if instead of "getting good with girls" as your main goal, you reframed it to --> "master the social arts?"
That way if a girl flakes on you, ghosts you after sex, or is causing drama for you, instead of getting needy and weak (because you don't have a mission other than girl-getting), you pivot to --> "This girl's playing games/being difficult? Ok, no problem. Lucky for me I have a higher calling of mastering the social arts so that I can leverage them one day into higher-order pursuits.
Pursuits like running for political office, becoming CEO of a company/startup and disrupting the marketplace, or some other mission where having masterful social skills make it easier for you to accomplish your goals..
Stuff like Charisma, leadership skills, public speaking, persuasion, dominance and frame control, etc. Also, basic social skills 101.
Could also include improving and/or building upon your personality traits since these extend to the social arena. Traits like the Big Five/OCEAN, having a stronger will and determination, mastering your emotions (trait neuroticism from the Big Five), etc.
What do you guys think, can reframing your goal from "get good with girls" --> master the social arts and master yourself/personality help you bypass making the women your mission while still leveling up your skills that directly translate to getting better with women?
Happy 2022! Hope the New Year is treating you all well.
I had a question that's been bothering me for a while now about how to frame your focus when focusing on getting better with women.
Girls Chase philosophy emphasizes that it's no good to have women be your mission because if your life revolves around women (or that one special woman in a relationship), then you're more likely to become needy and show weakness, which tanks attraction and respect for you, right?
Thus, it's important to have a "mission" or "higher purpose" to give you the mental strength and steely resolve to keep neediness and emotional weakness at bay.
However, in order to learn a new skill as fast as possible, it is advised to focus on that exclusively (to the point of obsession) for a period of time (usually a couple of years).
Quite the paradox, eh?
In order to develop a high level of skill it's best to focus on ONE THING obsessively for a period of time (in this case, girl-getting skills), but by making women your focus you risk getting weak and needy...
What if instead of "getting good with girls" as your main goal, you reframed it to --> "master the social arts?"
That way if a girl flakes on you, ghosts you after sex, or is causing drama for you, instead of getting needy and weak (because you don't have a mission other than girl-getting), you pivot to --> "This girl's playing games/being difficult? Ok, no problem. Lucky for me I have a higher calling of mastering the social arts so that I can leverage them one day into higher-order pursuits.
Pursuits like running for political office, becoming CEO of a company/startup and disrupting the marketplace, or some other mission where having masterful social skills make it easier for you to accomplish your goals..
Stuff like Charisma, leadership skills, public speaking, persuasion, dominance and frame control, etc. Also, basic social skills 101.
Could also include improving and/or building upon your personality traits since these extend to the social arena. Traits like the Big Five/OCEAN, having a stronger will and determination, mastering your emotions (trait neuroticism from the Big Five), etc.
What do you guys think, can reframing your goal from "get good with girls" --> master the social arts and master yourself/personality help you bypass making the women your mission while still leveling up your skills that directly translate to getting better with women?
