@Arnav,
You can. It's mostly skill (but also down to the reception of the individual girl).
Past a certain point, if you're going to be able to get a girl's number you should often be able to get it at 2-3 minutes in and have it still be solid. You can stick around a few minutes longer with an eye toward making it more solid but it often won't be necessary.
That is when you have you approach tightened down, you're coming in with good fundamentals, and you just run through all the right material so you've hooked her, she feels some nascent connection, you've got her invested, and she's excited. Then you can do that, "Welp, gotta run, but we definitely need to link up, have to get to that thing I told you I was headed to," and she's into it and you grab the number and keep going.
The main thing you are looking for is high points:
- Does she turn herself to you / open her body language up to you?
- Do you tease her, cold read her, touch her, or generate arousal that she clearly either likes or at least accepts?
- Does she connect with you and excitedly tell you something about herself?
- Do you qualify her on what she shares and you can tell she values your qualification?
- Do you get her to give her a few bits of compliance so it isn't just "two random people talking unattachedly on the street" but rather "man leading a woman through an initial courtship"?
You can do all that very quickly once your process is down, and girls will basically feel swept away into this rapid, enjoyable courtship. Then you're gone (after all, you're so busy; you're an important man) and they're left hoping you have some time to see them over the next few days.
Unless, that is, you check her schedule and it turns out she's available right now, and you don't have any pressing concerns, so you can pull her onto an instant date, of course.
That being said, no need to rush it to get there.
I think it's a good goal to have (ability to reach solid 2-3 minute number closes) but your focus should really just be hitting all those right notes:
- Open up her body language
- Trigger some initial arousal
- Get her excitedly connecting
- Qualify her on what she shares
- Lead her/have her comply a few times
- Exit in a way that makes you seem busy-ish
If it takes you 10 minutes to do all that, take 10 minutes.
If you can get it down to 5 minutes, awesome.
Once it's down real tight you can get to the point where you can often do it all in 2-3 minutes and still get solid closes that lead to dates & lays.
But the real focus should be on "hitting all the key points" first, rather than "do it all as fast as possible."
Get the form down solid, then work on speed.
Note that you will have girls who do not hook quick, for whatever reason, even if your fundamentals are excellent, game is solid, and you have this tight process.
Typically with these girls there is a point of diminishing returns for sticking around with them, but where that point sets in is going to depend on skill.
e.g., if you are regularly closing solid leads in 2-3 minutes, then generally having a girl who has not responded strongly to any of your material by 3 minutes in is going to be the point where diminishing returns set in.
You can stick it out 5 minutes, 10 minutes, etc., and sometimes attract some of those girls, but the longer you hang around without getting strong responses/compliance the dimmer the odds (compliance is really the main one. If she has muted responses but she readily complies she may just be a quiet-but-interested girl. If she acts excited but refuses compliance, she's likely to be an outgoing-but-uninterested girl. Etc.).
However, if it is taking you ~10 minutes to get to the point where you're hitting all those notes and ready to close, then that is the point where you say "All right, we're 10 minutes in, she still isn't giving me any strong response or complying, it's time to pack it in and move on unless I really want to go for the lower-odds play here (maybe because she's just that hot or you've got a gut feeling)."
So, again, you are calibrating how long you are willing to stick it out to how fast you are able to run through your material while still hitting all the right notes and having the proper effect.
Chase
