Can you fake passion with kissing?

[Little Jester]

I'm really screwing my mind over this.

I hold a cute girl in my hands at a party and she is all over me. At some point she pulls me in for a kiss. I rub her tongue and lips a bit and pull back. Routine. Then go in for second longer session. Between these two session she already says: "Are you enjoying this?" I ignore her remark and go in again. After that second one, she pushes me away and runs off.

I realised I was indeed not really enjoying it. I guess I'm not a great experienced kisser, but this didn't have anything to do with that. It was more about that it lacked fucking passion from my end. She was seeking passionate love and I couldn't give it to her. So she runs off to the next guy and I was actually okay with that, but thinking by myself, why is it going like this? I mean, I was definitly into her....

|I just read the devil may care article and read about how it is possible to have those emotions fade with experience and age... Funny thing is, I don't have a lot of experience with kissing. But somehow I simply don't care about kissing either. How the fuck do you fake passion, if I haven't got the experience doing it passionate to begin with?

I feel pretty messed up in my head right now... The only thing I can think of is to go watch a bunch of those over the top romantic movies that girls melt for and then mimic what the male cast is doing in there kissing wise. But I don't know if I want to polute my mind with that disney rubbish all too much... Any ideas?

Edit: Just realised maybe this is not a beginners board question. But I don't know. I'm a beginner myself anyway

 

[Thinkingenigma]

One trick that works like crazy is to use your entire body. If the only thing touching is your mouth, you're doing it wrong. Kiss her mouth, then move to her neck. Explore her body with your hands. It's amazing what you find when you do this. Often, the girl doesn't even know that she likes being touched in whatever spot until you hit it. Every girl I've kissed has commented on how much they enjoyed it, and the first girl I kissed didn't believe me when I told her that she was my first. I've only kissed one girl that I was genuinely into, and even then, I was realizing that it wouldn't work out for various reasons. Of course, she didn't know that. She was too busy enjoying the kiss.

 

[Little Jester]

Thanks for the comment Thinkingenigma

Hmm actually good to add in this scenario that I had already been touching her like crazy on her arms, back and maybe her soft butt a little. It's what basically gets them all over you in the first place.

So basic position I end up in commonly, is standing with her there on the dance floor, my arms around her back, her arms around my neck, I have my top pulled back a little, so she is leaning in on me. Funny thing is I normally don't go for a kiss here. Just talk and later try get her to move somewhere (and usually failing to do that lol). But in this case she pulled my head in. Did suprise me a bit there, so I suppose I was only rubbing her back at that point and was very focussed myself on what happened in the mouth on mouth exchange and like said I wasn't enjoying it.

I guess from your advise in such scenario I should probably step up the touching much more. Yeah, I'll try to focus on that first. Just realised it's the perfect time to explore the rest of her body anyway and I do enjoy doing that. It might just satisfy her more too Maybe it's also better to first do the kissing thing and then try to move her haha

 

[Clout]

Hey Little Jester,

Passion comes from desire, if you haven't got enough experience and busy thinking about other things, then you will not enjoy it. When I do something sexual now I am always thinking "I can't wait to see how loud I can make her scream" or "I want to get her to beg for it". I am not thinking "after this...I must move her...yeah...to the bar" because that is a total mood killer. If she trying to kiss you then you know she is getting worked up, try and get her private ASAP! I always found it harder to leave with girls that I kissed than those I had not.

 

[Little Jester]

Thanks for the insight Clout

So basically you think I can't enjoy it because my mind is too full on crap. Maybe you're onto something here. I do am enjoying everything up until a certain point and over time that point comes later and later in the process, so if get going enough at it, passion should come with experience?

I have to admit though, I can't fully shut off my logic mind. Just have to overload it with something, so that it shuts up. Further exploring the girl's body on touch might do the trick for now, that it might help to get me further in process and actually gain that experience faster.

Good food for thought. Thanks

 

[Clout]

I also have a problem with an over-active mind, but you can channel it to create a bigger desire. So now I am just thinking of how I am going to wind her up and keep her on edge as if we already agreed to sex. It makes me go wild, which effects my actions and often women will tell me after that I must not be used of women saying "no"...truthfully the thought never crossed my mind.

If they had exited the interaction before I could bed them I am more interested in what I could of done better and then on to the next one.