Long-Term Can't figure out why she broke up. Auto-rejection, or boredom

[Aykan]

Hi guys,

I wanted to ask your opinion about my previous relationship. Get your scuba gear ready because this is going to get deep.

I was in a relationship with a girl for over a year, and I was a serial cheater. Yes, I was a massive confused scumbag.

The first few times, I was super warm and got her back. Then she broke up again for no reason, and no amount of warmth could bring her back, so I cut contact for a while. She texted me, and kinda chased me.

Then recently, I found her on tinder, and we had a discussion. She asked what I was doing on tinder, and I confessed I was on it too. She immediately told me to leave, then texted me saying she wanted a break. Eventually, she told me she wasn't feeling it, said the trust was too broken, and told me she had moved on. I begged, cried and pleaded but she said no. The pain was intense, and I was depressed and held on for a month.

I know I don't really deserve any reply to this post (I was a fucking scumbag for cheating). This experience has affected me so much and I'm sure I have changed.

Anyway, what I wanted to ask was: why do you think she broke up?

I'm guessing her trust was fully broken, and she wasn't enjoying being lied to anymore and had enough. But she was displaying all the signs that I was too weak (saying she needed a break, I was the one begging, etc..)

What happened? I'm confused.

I understand I have ruined the trust too much now, and I probably don't even deserve an explanation, but I would really appreciate your thoughts.

Aykan

 

[trashKENNUT]

Aykan,

The first few times, I was super warm and got her back. Then she broke up again for no reason, and no amount of warmth could bring her back, so I cut contact for a while. She texted me, and kinda chased me.

Then recently, I found her on tinder, and we had a discussion. She asked what I was doing on tinder, and I confessed I was on it too. She immediately told me to leave, then texted me saying she wanted a break. Eventually, she told me she wasn't feeling it, said the trust was too broken, and told me she had moved on. I begged, cried and pleaded but she said no. The pain was intense, and I was depressed and held on for a month.

You got her back but there was no commitment or moving somewhere.

She texted you back and kinda chased you. and then you admitted to dating on tinder instead of keeping the suspense of her chasing back. So there's a lot of disconnect.

You literally shoot yourself in the head with this, but even if you did got her back, it will only be for awhile. She still love you though but time is not on her side.

or maybe she want something else while occasionally going back to you.

Zac