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Ok, so we all know that in order to getting good with girls you must have the following things in order: 1. Good fundamentals 2.Good game 3. Approaching regularly 4. Focusing and working relentlessly hard on your passion and mission and purpose in life and achieving things. However i've been in a crisis for nearly two and a half years now and it's basically that I can't give any attention to my passion and mission and purpose in life. The reason for this is that since September 2013 i've had a condition called focal dystonia (or musicians dystonia).
Basically it's a condition where the muscles contract and spasm making certain movements impossible. I'm a musician and the results have been catastrophic. I've got it so bad that it forced me to quit 2 bands I was in a couple years ago, my originals band and my function/covers band. In addition to this I also can't really practice anymore and i've lost my ability to play guitar. I'm really ambitious and driven and dedicated (so much more than the average person which is why my situation makes me so mad) As a result all these goals I had of getting to a really high level, being active in multiple bands doing many different projects, writing, gigging, rehearsing, recording, touring, getting to a world class level and being recognised have been put on hold for ages and I don't know what to do. No amount of practice or rest has done any good, my hand just refuses to play so as a result i can't focus on my mission.
I'm going to Spain in a week to see a specialist (i've already seen at least 12 people i can think of and none of them had a clue in what to do) as in 2 and a half years ive made no progress at all. So my question is this? What the hell do I do? Should I spend my time networking, getting to know venues and promoters? Write music strictly with my head and on a computer? Just focus on being a composer? The thing is I feel there is very little I can do. It's really frustrating and it's not good for my results with women as they want a man with things going on so I have to make up stuff and make it seem like i've got stuff on which isnt good. I've also had good results with girls over the last year having dated and slept with more women last year than in the previous 28 years before. Just makes me think how much more success i'd have if i didnt have this condition and was successful and working on my purpose in life. So what do I do?
Basically it's a condition where the muscles contract and spasm making certain movements impossible. I'm a musician and the results have been catastrophic. I've got it so bad that it forced me to quit 2 bands I was in a couple years ago, my originals band and my function/covers band. In addition to this I also can't really practice anymore and i've lost my ability to play guitar. I'm really ambitious and driven and dedicated (so much more than the average person which is why my situation makes me so mad) As a result all these goals I had of getting to a really high level, being active in multiple bands doing many different projects, writing, gigging, rehearsing, recording, touring, getting to a world class level and being recognised have been put on hold for ages and I don't know what to do. No amount of practice or rest has done any good, my hand just refuses to play so as a result i can't focus on my mission.
I'm going to Spain in a week to see a specialist (i've already seen at least 12 people i can think of and none of them had a clue in what to do) as in 2 and a half years ive made no progress at all. So my question is this? What the hell do I do? Should I spend my time networking, getting to know venues and promoters? Write music strictly with my head and on a computer? Just focus on being a composer? The thing is I feel there is very little I can do. It's really frustrating and it's not good for my results with women as they want a man with things going on so I have to make up stuff and make it seem like i've got stuff on which isnt good. I've also had good results with girls over the last year having dated and slept with more women last year than in the previous 28 years before. Just makes me think how much more success i'd have if i didnt have this condition and was successful and working on my purpose in life. So what do I do?
