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Hello Gentleman it's GoldenBoy. Haven't been in the boards in a year and a half but it's good to be back. I've spent the last year and 8 months in a long-term relationship with the girl from "LR-: 2 steps forward ,1 step back" . Now I know most of you wouldn't advocate it but the girl had all the qualities I wanted and soooo much potential. Plus it really gave me a chance with a girl who was essentially a blank slate. No history of abuse,comes from a good home with 2 loving parents and is sharp as a whip.
I wanted to see how good of a leader I could be in a relationship and influence this girl positively. I wanted to help shape her into a loving and supportive women who would have a positive view of sex and the men we try to cultivate on girls-chase. Initially things were great for us up until she graduate in June of 2015. Admittedly we had been having unprotected sex every once in awhile because....damn it felt great. So she comes to me one day in July and thinks she might've missed her period (Granted I don't freak out because I track her days as well).
So she calls me distressed and I calmly reply, " Look it's possible you might've just counted your days wrong:it happens".I suggest to her to take a pregnancy test to be ultimately sure but she refuses. She replies,"I don't wanna put that into my body" and to myself i'm like 'WTF -_-' seriously??' She continues to freak out and brings her mother into it, later on she's calling my mother,my sister and stressed my whole family. Turns out she freaked out over a lil bit of old period blood and she was 5 days late from when she expected to get her period. All because she counted her days wrong.
The next incident occurred in the follow October when it really started to get cold outside during the fall. During that time I would have to commute by bus to work in the morning to be at work by 6:30am granted it'd take me 2 buses and I had to leave my apartment at 5:30am to make it into work on time work an 8 hr shift and then have afternoon and evening classes. During the times she would come over never once offer to take me to work when it was a simple 10 minute drive from my apartment even though she'd come back to my apartment and either sleep and chill all day.Nor would she help me cook,shop and even started making sex seem like a chore. When I asked her one time she said, "Oh sorry fam but that's just way too early for me to be getting up. All the while when she comes over I clean and cook for her daily while still managing my all my studying.
It wasn't until my sister and friend got on her about it did she start offering to take me to work. Over the course of that month I had gotten really sick due to not getting enough sleep,being up in the cold air daily and so early. When I told her I wasn't doing well she said "Oh that's too bad but I've gotta focus on me and my career with my auditions and zumba so, you're gonna have to deal with it." Just this lack of consideration and just apathy of the course of those 2 months of September and October led to me cheating on her with an acquaintance of mine who had been wanting to sleep with me this whole time after we'd both gotten tipsy. Felt horrible as shit about it. Eventually though my gf and I manged to get things back on track(although I kept my cheating from her) and had been great till this past summer.
This past June I treated her to floor seats for the Beyonce' concert that came to my hometown and about $425 per ticket and to dinner that evening, all of which was to birthday present since I know how much of a fan she is. I had told her that would be it because we'd decided to stay at her house (Her parents had given us the house for a week to ourselves while they were in New York). She and I had discussed that we'd only be there 3 of the 7 days of my paid vacation at free concerts and music festivals or museums in DC since the rest of my vacation would be spent with an old friend from college of mine in Greensboro,NC. In addition to that I'd been saving up for an anime convention in Baltimore in August. So about 2 weeks before my trip to NC she calls me crying that she wants to go to Ocean City because she feels that her house is a prison and she's so upset. And I told her I couldn't afford it. She calls me back later telling me she's found some affordable places and proceeds to start getting upset and what not. I cave and make the reservations.The cost of the trip is split 4 ways between my gf,myself, my sister and her girlfriend.
My mom and My aunt tag along so I have to dish out more money for them. Granted everyone was miserable on the treat, the house sucked and no one had money to spend on anything. As a result I only had like $25 bucks in my pocket for 3 week that I had to save while she had her mom's credit card. Now her parents love me and are really kind,considerate and supportive of me. Her mother works in real estate and her father has worked for the post office for 25+ years so they've got a fair bit of money. During this treat she was buying herself all sorts of food and drink but not once did she offer to buy me anything. In fact she only brought me something cheap from McDonald's after My sister's GF asked her in the crowded car why if she has food and stuff am I not eating. The trip was just a mess so we didn't even stay the full 3 days so upon getting back at my parents house I told her I just needed the day to relax and get myself together because I didn't want to leave for NC resentful or mad at her. So I spent the day chillin' and she spent the day with my sister.
Granted I knew she felt like shit but I didn't know how bad till we went t bed last night and she spent the whole night crying about how bad she felt and the whole trip in general. I spent that night console her telling her I didn't hate her but I needed to get my sleep because I wanted to wake up early and not miss my 9 hr train ride. Needless to say I didn't get a good night's rest and still missed my train after which I had to call up her mother and ask her to buy me a replacement train ticket.
Luckily my friend was very generous in terms of buying me food and making sure I paid for nothing because I still only had that $25 and that was all the money till my next pay check. Both my gf and her mother tried to contact me during the first day or so but I only replied that I was safe.
Upon returning back home I had to borrow about $375 dollars from friends and roomates to pay my bills because that impromptu trip to Ocean City had used up all money money that I had put that the side for Bills,Rent and food.So I worked literally everyday straight from the 22nd of July to the 12th of August sometimes 7-10 hrs a day to make all that money back with only 1 day off. And because I had practically no money for food I could only eat from my job for those 3 weeks. It sucked especially because i'm pre-diabetic and she knows I have to watch my sugar and carbs (One of the reasons why I cook daily).
I was hoping that during this time she would atleast contact me to see how I was doing since I couldn't contact her due to not being able to pay my cell phone bill for 2 weeks. In fact her mom got into contact with me before she did wondering if I was ok and if she needed to Western Union me some money and it just really crushed me that your mother would contact me before she did. Actually once again it wasn't until my sister contacted her did she actually start responding to my messages.
She had claimed that she'd been trying to call and text me during those 3 weeks but I've no messaged or call record to which she accused me of blocking her number or that her phone was glitching. I asked why she didn't try to call me on her house phone, mom's phone, or contact any of my family. She said she wanted to give me space for those 3 weeks which I'd asked for till I returned back from my trip. Upon wanting proof I requested that she just send me the screen shots of her call log or the messages she said she sent me.She asked "Why're you trying to micro manage everything with this. We;'re stronger that this and what happened was 3 weeks ago(In the past) so why are you still hung up over it" Even though it's something I was and am still being affected by because I have to seriously budget and allocate my money. She doesn't have any bills besides her cell phone bill and credit card hell her parents are paying 60% of her $50,000 school loans. She then responds "Life is waaay too short for us to be this way and I think you're micro managing too much. So as ADULTS i'm gonna do whatever I need to do for myself to bounce backs and hopefully you'll do the same for yourself"
Fellas,fellas I feel this girls is just too immature and inconsiderate. I mean what can you expect from and only child of 2 well off parents who has never had a relationship besides me and no siblings either. I don't think she's a bad person but, I feel I deserve better and maybe i'm asking too much out of her but I really need help with this.Not only am I just tired with the lack of consideration but also that it takes other people commenting on our relationship for her to take care of me and do for me as I do for her. Almost as if my opinion or voice isn't enough. Should I stay or should I go?
I wanted to see how good of a leader I could be in a relationship and influence this girl positively. I wanted to help shape her into a loving and supportive women who would have a positive view of sex and the men we try to cultivate on girls-chase. Initially things were great for us up until she graduate in June of 2015. Admittedly we had been having unprotected sex every once in awhile because....damn it felt great. So she comes to me one day in July and thinks she might've missed her period (Granted I don't freak out because I track her days as well).
So she calls me distressed and I calmly reply, " Look it's possible you might've just counted your days wrong:it happens".I suggest to her to take a pregnancy test to be ultimately sure but she refuses. She replies,"I don't wanna put that into my body" and to myself i'm like 'WTF -_-' seriously??' She continues to freak out and brings her mother into it, later on she's calling my mother,my sister and stressed my whole family. Turns out she freaked out over a lil bit of old period blood and she was 5 days late from when she expected to get her period. All because she counted her days wrong.
The next incident occurred in the follow October when it really started to get cold outside during the fall. During that time I would have to commute by bus to work in the morning to be at work by 6:30am granted it'd take me 2 buses and I had to leave my apartment at 5:30am to make it into work on time work an 8 hr shift and then have afternoon and evening classes. During the times she would come over never once offer to take me to work when it was a simple 10 minute drive from my apartment even though she'd come back to my apartment and either sleep and chill all day.Nor would she help me cook,shop and even started making sex seem like a chore. When I asked her one time she said, "Oh sorry fam but that's just way too early for me to be getting up. All the while when she comes over I clean and cook for her daily while still managing my all my studying.
It wasn't until my sister and friend got on her about it did she start offering to take me to work. Over the course of that month I had gotten really sick due to not getting enough sleep,being up in the cold air daily and so early. When I told her I wasn't doing well she said "Oh that's too bad but I've gotta focus on me and my career with my auditions and zumba so, you're gonna have to deal with it." Just this lack of consideration and just apathy of the course of those 2 months of September and October led to me cheating on her with an acquaintance of mine who had been wanting to sleep with me this whole time after we'd both gotten tipsy. Felt horrible as shit about it. Eventually though my gf and I manged to get things back on track(although I kept my cheating from her) and had been great till this past summer.
This past June I treated her to floor seats for the Beyonce' concert that came to my hometown and about $425 per ticket and to dinner that evening, all of which was to birthday present since I know how much of a fan she is. I had told her that would be it because we'd decided to stay at her house (Her parents had given us the house for a week to ourselves while they were in New York). She and I had discussed that we'd only be there 3 of the 7 days of my paid vacation at free concerts and music festivals or museums in DC since the rest of my vacation would be spent with an old friend from college of mine in Greensboro,NC. In addition to that I'd been saving up for an anime convention in Baltimore in August. So about 2 weeks before my trip to NC she calls me crying that she wants to go to Ocean City because she feels that her house is a prison and she's so upset. And I told her I couldn't afford it. She calls me back later telling me she's found some affordable places and proceeds to start getting upset and what not. I cave and make the reservations.The cost of the trip is split 4 ways between my gf,myself, my sister and her girlfriend.
My mom and My aunt tag along so I have to dish out more money for them. Granted everyone was miserable on the treat, the house sucked and no one had money to spend on anything. As a result I only had like $25 bucks in my pocket for 3 week that I had to save while she had her mom's credit card. Now her parents love me and are really kind,considerate and supportive of me. Her mother works in real estate and her father has worked for the post office for 25+ years so they've got a fair bit of money. During this treat she was buying herself all sorts of food and drink but not once did she offer to buy me anything. In fact she only brought me something cheap from McDonald's after My sister's GF asked her in the crowded car why if she has food and stuff am I not eating. The trip was just a mess so we didn't even stay the full 3 days so upon getting back at my parents house I told her I just needed the day to relax and get myself together because I didn't want to leave for NC resentful or mad at her. So I spent the day chillin' and she spent the day with my sister.
Granted I knew she felt like shit but I didn't know how bad till we went t bed last night and she spent the whole night crying about how bad she felt and the whole trip in general. I spent that night console her telling her I didn't hate her but I needed to get my sleep because I wanted to wake up early and not miss my 9 hr train ride. Needless to say I didn't get a good night's rest and still missed my train after which I had to call up her mother and ask her to buy me a replacement train ticket.
Luckily my friend was very generous in terms of buying me food and making sure I paid for nothing because I still only had that $25 and that was all the money till my next pay check. Both my gf and her mother tried to contact me during the first day or so but I only replied that I was safe.
Upon returning back home I had to borrow about $375 dollars from friends and roomates to pay my bills because that impromptu trip to Ocean City had used up all money money that I had put that the side for Bills,Rent and food.So I worked literally everyday straight from the 22nd of July to the 12th of August sometimes 7-10 hrs a day to make all that money back with only 1 day off. And because I had practically no money for food I could only eat from my job for those 3 weeks. It sucked especially because i'm pre-diabetic and she knows I have to watch my sugar and carbs (One of the reasons why I cook daily).
I was hoping that during this time she would atleast contact me to see how I was doing since I couldn't contact her due to not being able to pay my cell phone bill for 2 weeks. In fact her mom got into contact with me before she did wondering if I was ok and if she needed to Western Union me some money and it just really crushed me that your mother would contact me before she did. Actually once again it wasn't until my sister contacted her did she actually start responding to my messages.
She had claimed that she'd been trying to call and text me during those 3 weeks but I've no messaged or call record to which she accused me of blocking her number or that her phone was glitching. I asked why she didn't try to call me on her house phone, mom's phone, or contact any of my family. She said she wanted to give me space for those 3 weeks which I'd asked for till I returned back from my trip. Upon wanting proof I requested that she just send me the screen shots of her call log or the messages she said she sent me.She asked "Why're you trying to micro manage everything with this. We;'re stronger that this and what happened was 3 weeks ago(In the past) so why are you still hung up over it" Even though it's something I was and am still being affected by because I have to seriously budget and allocate my money. She doesn't have any bills besides her cell phone bill and credit card hell her parents are paying 60% of her $50,000 school loans. She then responds "Life is waaay too short for us to be this way and I think you're micro managing too much. So as ADULTS i'm gonna do whatever I need to do for myself to bounce backs and hopefully you'll do the same for yourself"
Fellas,fellas I feel this girls is just too immature and inconsiderate. I mean what can you expect from and only child of 2 well off parents who has never had a relationship besides me and no siblings either. I don't think she's a bad person but, I feel I deserve better and maybe i'm asking too much out of her but I really need help with this.Not only am I just tired with the lack of consideration but also that it takes other people commenting on our relationship for her to take care of me and do for me as I do for her. Almost as if my opinion or voice isn't enough. Should I stay or should I go?
