GC... Ive approached a few girls (like more than 40) and I just cant seem to get used to it, and feel comfortable in the conversation. Its totally against my personality to express my feelings, thoughts, etc. and it feel unnatural for me. No matter how much I work at this I just cant seem to get truly involved in this whole PUA thing... and it just doesn't seem to be working for me.
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Don't. Instead, briefly ask the girl about hers, and develop the skill to get her talking with a minimum of effort. You don't need to reveal anything too intimate about yourself.Native said:
Marty, I do get girls talking about themselves but it still feels awkward for me and weird. I cant seem to get used to talking to new girls and people. I dont really even know what my objective in talking to girls is.
Somewhere on the site was the idea that if your game isnt working as is then change it, mines not working but i dont know what to change it to. Im fun and playful but that style of game Zphix and T Vaunswa do doesnt work for me and I dont really know what Im doing.
Somewhere on the site was the idea that if your game isnt working as is then change it, mines not working but i dont know what to change it to. Im fun and playful but that style of game Zphix and T Vaunswa do doesnt work for me and I dont really know what Im doing.
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Riding a bicycle doesn't feel natural at first. You get training wheels for a year or so. Then, you get off training wheels and fall on your face a few times. Finally, riding a bike is so natural and easy that you don't even remember what was so hard about it and begin to use it as a metaphor for any skill that you'll never forget.
I guess the question is....
What feels natural to you? What does feel natural? Or what would feel natural?
Is meeting girls online natural? It's definitely easier and doesn't produce as much stress initially, but how did our ancestors get women before the internet? So what defines what is natural? Something that is easy? Just because something is hard, does that it make natural or unnatural?
I think what you're feeling is just the discomfort of learning something new -- something that you're not used to doing. But, given time and experience, that will fade.
Think of it this way. All you're doing is walking up to another human creature and expressing thoughts through sound. You express your thought that she's attractive and desire to learn more about her, and she expresses some back. There's no "you vs me." It's just two humans being human
If it helps, really pay attention to conversations in your daily life, on TV, and in movies. What would a comfortable conversation feel like? Try out new questions and new statements. It's not going to be perfect because we're human.
I guess the question is....
What feels natural to you? What does feel natural? Or what would feel natural?
Is meeting girls online natural? It's definitely easier and doesn't produce as much stress initially, but how did our ancestors get women before the internet? So what defines what is natural? Something that is easy? Just because something is hard, does that it make natural or unnatural?
I think what you're feeling is just the discomfort of learning something new -- something that you're not used to doing. But, given time and experience, that will fade.
Think of it this way. All you're doing is walking up to another human creature and expressing thoughts through sound. You express your thought that she's attractive and desire to learn more about her, and she expresses some back. There's no "you vs me." It's just two humans being human
If it helps, really pay attention to conversations in your daily life, on TV, and in movies. What would a comfortable conversation feel like? Try out new questions and new statements. It's not going to be perfect because we're human.